I'm a LESBIAN girl who WANTS to marry a GAY man..>>yes!

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#1

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well Im Egyptian and here in Egypt it’s so hard being a lesbian not just that its sooooo hard to be free…

because I’m an Egyptian girl living in this fucked up community, I can’t work or go out…i just cant fulfill my dreams… and honestly I’m FED up!

so i came up with this idea…to marry a gay friend of mine so i can win my freedom and for him to look straight in front of this fucked up community

but see? I had to marry a man to be free…i hate to get married so i can work…this is what the screwed up community did to us :slight_smile: this community is soooo fucked up its like they feed off our lies! its like they want to be lied to!!!

p.s if thing didn’t work out between “x” the guy i want to marry i’ll find another one and another one so I can get out of this house!!!

  • please please excuse my random style of typing >>>I just open this blank sheet and start babbling without re-reading it*

Peace and love
xx .

#2

Hello Ranah,

I, as well as most of Ahwaa audience, understand your frustration. It’s hard for either a male or a female to detach from their family house, and even harder for females.

I detached 6 months ago, and living with my partner, but I really struggled to get back/normalize the relation with my family, as they were totally against moving out.

I told them openly that I could depend on myself financially and otherwise. Gradually, the relations have returned back to normal, and I just visit them a day or a couple of days weekly.

In your case, I totally support you in your decision, as the only way out. The 2nd option is to travel abroad to study/work. As long as you’re here, do it! It’s your right, and you should just get it, even if you’ll get around the community taboos. We don’t need to battle in the Don Quixote-style forever. Get around, live your life to the max, and most importantly enjoy it!

I’ll let you know if I come across a match to your case, as I do live in Cairo as well.

Peace!

#3

Hey Ranah;

Funny enough, I was discussing the same idea with my gf the other day ! We will never be able to live together here in Egypt, the only solution is for me to marry a gay guy, or to travel " Which is not that easy ! =/"

But isn’t there anyway for you to convince your family about work? I mean, having a life and being financially independent will be the first step to either travel or to get a place on your own. I believe you should start there.

#4

Hi Ranah ,

hope you are in good health .about your question ,the only way for you to do what you want is to GET out of Egypt . And i think the idea of marrying a gay dude just so everyone around you consider your into straight marriage is a bad idea,i mean its a good idea to think but this is not what you truly want right~?!

so like @Amadeus & @Artemis said (which i totally agree with them) try to go with the work idea ,that you want to have more experience in life and it will mean a lot to your career.

Living in Egypt and most of the Arabian countries is like hell ,you can’t do anything you totally want ,or be yourself without being judged by close ,stereotypical stupid ppl who only stick with their old tradition and in the end you may get punished if you did so :frowning:

so if you can’t make your parents get the idea of moving away from them ,have patience .go take courses ,study more ,learn different things to gain experience and try to be more dependently so when you try to convince your parents the next time .you will have evidence with you that you are capable of living alone :slight_smile: (most standard egyptian ppl needs something to backup your words with =proves that you can do it)

#5

i’m single in case you care XD XD

well , just hope you don’t say someday " damn , i want to have a a baby " … it is possible , right ?!

#6

I don’t think a lavender wedding is the solution of all your problems … But I think you should attack your family with ideas of you working in case you haven’t given up on that … work, work and gaining money will allow you out of your family’s territory … Like Artemis said traveling will do you wonders.

Love and Peace. <3

#7

Why don’t you just travel abroad n get married to a check!

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#9

don’t do that, even tho you will get married…a year and two and your family will start thinking…why doesn’t they have kids yet…why isn’t she pregnant and people will start to gossip… and also you will spend the night with your “real partner” right?! it will be weird to do that in the presence of your so called husband lol, and even when his “boyfriend” comes and spend the night…people will be like he lets strangers spend the night and his wife is at home?!..how about a surprise visit from your or his family …you never know what’s gonna happen…just don’t take the risk.

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#13

Thank you for your response
it is impossible for my father to get off my back, you have no idea how strict he is
that’s the only way out I could think of right now people :frowning:

#14

.what I am saying your plan could work for a year maybe two… but not more

#15

can you contact me on my private mail < ineedfun6@gmail.com >

#16

I’m sorry I duno if this is an old post or so but I’m gona act like the taken movie guy… if you ever do that, and ruin your life, I’m gona find you, and I’m gona hunt you down, then I’m gona hurt u, then I’m gonna kill you. :> you just cant surrender to ur fears, are u serious? marrying someone just to feel alive? ezay? I know it seems like the only thing possible bas no, this blows

#17

it is ok pls contact me

#18

I dont know how to reply to a topic like this, what I’m going to say is I’m very sorry we’re still going through this when it’s the 21st century, that no one has done anything about it yet. Soon guys, soon. I hope I’m as crazy and stupid as I think I am. :stuck_out_tongue:

Ranah this is sadly a good idea, you can help each other out of the country then apply for refugee, is that your plan?

#19

^mesh mesada2ak.

since it’s a good idea, fine… let’s get together Ranah, i’m 3 years younger bas age is just a number, lol

#20

She’s not gonna ruin her life if she does it, why do you say that? They could have a deal that as soon as they leave the country they will break the marriage, I dont think either party will feel bad about it and they can both go their separate ways. It’s better than getting forced to marry a straight guy she doesnt like and living a shi**y life, dont you think?