Explaining Demisexuality

#1

Being a demisexual, I find it very hard to explain it to people, even though it’s pretty simple.
How many of you are aware of Demisexuality?

#2

I consider myself to be a demisexual, except I’m only attracted to my same sex. It made coming out to myself very confusing. When I first came out to myself, I used to wonder why I didn’t have an ounce of attraction to these really beautiful women, women who were my type even. Would force myself to flirt and put myself out there - it was weird and uncomfortable. The only women I formed an attraction towards would be certain close friends.

I only came across the term this year and it made a lot of sense to me. Emotional connection is very important for me.

#3

I’m completely the same. Without an emotional connection there is no sexual attraction at all.

#4

I became aware of demisexuality through Ahwaa. I agree with Edel and OmarTheWarrior, emotional connection is a very important factor for me. I am still struggling with where I fit but I do know this feature is important for me.

#5

I am aware of it and I admire demisexual people a lot.

#6

i’m not sure if i qualify as a dimisexual or not i have definitely been attracted to people without that emotional connection first but not in any serious way but i for sure can’t have any sexual relationships with anyone that i have no emotional chemistry with

#7

a thin line between the broad idea of demisexuality which is not having any sexual communication/feelings/acts without the emotional communication/feelings comes a head and the idea of people may attract to anyone sexually only in a sexual way without having any feelings but won’t act on it. demisexual or any other label i guess the person find himself or herself fitting into it, personally i don’t think i’m able to got into any physical acts without the slightest feelings there or attraction.

#8

The attraction has to be far more than physical for me to be able to engage with anyone sexually, trust has to be there too, and with trust comes an emotional attachment that needs a lot of time to build up, I am always shocked by people who are able to freely have one night stands or casual sex, it makes no sense to me, this is a beautiful and deeply personal act and puts us in a very vulnerable state, it has to be shared by a proper connection.

#9

Anything sexual interest I have in strangers is often just fleeting. I would never ever have sex with someone I was not romantically and emotionally involved with in a very passionate way. I am shocked to see that this isn’t as common, I have many friends who jump into these things as soon as they have even the smallest sexual chemistry with someone. It takes away from a relationship, makes it cheap and not special anymore. People are more than just fantasies and bodies with which we use to fill an urge. We need to have a connection to be sexual.

#10

I was never aware of the term until a straight guy I had a crush on told me about it.
When I read about it, I realized that I’ve always been a demisexual.
It’s also one of the reasons why I’m constantly frustrated at how, locally, it seems to me like all the gay guys are only looking for sex and no one wants to form a genuine emotional connection