I met someone at work last September. She is probably in her 50's and a widower. At the beginning we didn't really notice each other. But a few weeks later we started talking and got along well. I started to notice that she treated me differently than other colleagues. Whenever I would hand her a paper or something she would extend her hands and touch my shoulder or arm. While she didn't do this with anyone else. One time she was talking with someone and she was looking at me up and down like she was checking me out and had a very serious look in her face, I didn't understand her look. I am starting to crush on her now. I don't know if she is interested in me in that way or am I just imagining it. There is no way I am going to ask her. Now recently I heard from other colleagues that the company might not renew her contract. I was shocked and deeply disturbed because I thought she was performing so well. But they said that she has an attitude problem with one of her superiors at work and only does the bare minimum of what is asked of her. She has a friend that she is always hanging out with and they say that she is bad mouthing her behind her back. I felt like they were trying to convince me that she is not worth renewing the contract with, Yet regardless of how I feel about her, I always felt that she was competent in what she does and has so much experience in her field to be treated this way. And that the only reason she is being fired is because of her attitude with the said superior. When she was asked about her behavior, she said that her boss is very rude to her and she doesn't like that. I don't know what to believe, because with me and my friends she is very nice and accommodating.
So I talked to her boss who happens to be my friend too. And I know that she is a task master and is very demanding. She is always complaining about someone or another and has a sort of bullying personality. I tried to tell her my point of view in the matter and she cares about my opinion. But she started to try to convince me of how bad this person is and is surprised I don't' see it. What she doesn't realize is, that I gave her the same chance that I want to give this woman. I don't know how to tell her that in the beginning no one liked her too. but now she has friends who are somewhat tolerating her. I can't tell her all that because she is also my boss. But I feel it's so unfair what is happening to her... Also I feel like I will lose her forever if she does leave and I will never know what it is that was between us. I felt so happy with her friendship and she made me forget about my unrequited love and now i feel terrible. She doesn't know that I know all this about her, and I am not close enough to her to ask her. I just wanted to see your views on all of this and if I am justified in feeling this way and if she does feel the same way about me as I feel about her.