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I think I'm in love with my bestfriend! What do I do ?

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I'm a girl and I have this best friend and only recently she told me that she made out with a few girls. She thinks she could be bisexual but isn't sure if it's her being bi-curious or bisexual.

I told her how i felt towards some girls and how I think I'm bi-curious and it's something i think about a lot nowadays and even a few years ago.

The thing is I now think I'm actually bisexual and the problem with that is, I'm attracted to her, but i don't know if she likes me back? maybe she does and doesn't want to make me feel awkward. but she's always complimenting me calling me hot and sexy. We were joking around once and i said i wanted to kiss her last year and she surprised me by saying, u better kiss her this year then. I don't know if she would really want that or if she was just saying that for the sake of it.

I wanted to see her reaction if i wore something see-through that shows my lingerie. When she saw me she started at my whole body and said wow. then suddenly switched back to being her usual casual jokey self.

How do i know if she likes me? or how do i know she wants me to kiss her without freaking her out? I really don't know.
Please help.

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  • Oh well, I think your friend has given you all the signs that she is "interested" However, she has the same concerns as you do which is not wanting to make things awkward or risk your friendship (been there done that) However let me tell you this, if she is "Bi" so are you and not really lesbians in denial then you either ignore the whole thing and let it go or agree to be friends with benefits because if the "Bi" thing is for realz then 1 of you might end up with a dude at some point and this might produce lots of jealousy which may result into ruining your friendship for good. However I just think that she is totally interested but to be more sure you can test her 1 or 2 more times if this helps

    • Thankyou ! That made me feel a little better. I should test it out and see what happens. although she once said she doesnt think shed have sex with a girl maybe she is just fooling around. but do u think she said that so i dont freak out? she seemed unsure. i wish i can ask her again or ask her why she wouldnt try just to see what she says.

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    • mmm I agree with you, she seems really unsure which calls for more extreme tests! Once i got my former bestfriend slash friend with benefit slash gf slash back to bestfriend annoyed and all over me by claiming that I got a boyfriend You can try this one or hint that you find a certain guy hot or a girl too and MEAN IT don't let her see that you're just bluffing n do 1 more seducing test XD I know I'm suggesting pretty evil stuff but they do work because friendship is far more important than to step into something more than it with no insurance.

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    • totally agree with this maybe it's evil but it works all the time

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    • and dude with what i can see here she's totally into u

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    • That's so nice to hear Like i always needed someone to kinda tell me what they thought cuz no matter how obvious it is sometimes i just never beleive my self. And i totally agree, Evil but hot

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  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f2
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    You never know unless you try but at the same time, I know how it feels when you don't want to risk your relationship with her. If I were you I would confront her about this and see if she feels the same way, but I will definitely let her know that if she doesn't, that our relationship won't change and we can still be friends. I don't think you will find out if you just keep hinting at her, you need to ask her at one point or another to really know if the feelings are mutual. Good luck!

    • That sounds pretty logical. i just have to wait till im comfortable asking her, im a little shy when it comes to this stuff so i will have to wait till im ready. Thanks for your advice!

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    • I agree with this, just be straight forward about it. It doesn't hurt to try. It's more awkward now that you don't ask but later at least you'll have full disclosure.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f4
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    I guess what's important here is to know whether ur feelings towards ur best friend is lust or they are actually strong feelings that could turn into love and a strong relationship. If it was lust I would say just try to get rid of it as it might ruin ur friendship ( if u both allow it to) why I say this is because many people would think that they like a friend and they would date them for a while and go back as being friends if they end thing peacefully ( as in no one cheats on the other or smtn :P) or the other solution would be that u let her know how ur feeling and talk about it as adults and both of u can decide together on how to go.

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  • 25-34_m_f_h1_f4
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    Dear FuckingBean,
    Try to give her all care, and u can watch with her a romantic lesbian movie and look at her feeling from that, try to show ur self nude and look at her eyes, so then u will know if she love u or not believe me

    • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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      agreed with chepal. and if she doesnt show the same interest in you dont be heartbroken. accept and move on. dont be any less happy or confident in yourself. and remember that we all go through phases like these until we meet the right person.

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    I think your friend has given you all the signs that she is interested

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    thanks 6a3miya to agree my opinion .. I'm here to help all friends really

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