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I am gay until I cum!

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I love girls, really love them. But sometimes I feel attracted to some guys, sexually only, so I go to the internet and watch a couple of gay porn videos until I cum and immediately after that I am straight again! I look at the movie on the screen and say to myself "What the hell are you doing?!".
I Googled this problem and found some similar guys out there, everyone was telling them they are Gay or Bi and they have to accept it!
I am terrified!

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  • 17-24_f_f_h3_f3
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    Oh this way I'm straight then, if porn is the judge but seriously, if you have never felt anything towards another male in reality then I guess its only a gay porn fetish thingy or whatever

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  • 25-34_m_a_h1_f1
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    No it's not just porn, sometimes I have sexual attraction for some guys.

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  • 17-24_f_f_h3_f3
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    Then perhaps you're not as straight as you'd like to think..?

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  • Perhaps you're not as straight as you'd like to believe..? Probably a real Bi. with attraction to both sides (1 sexually only) and not like those 100% gay people calling themselves Bi because sorry but you cant be totally straight yet get turned on by something same-sex related

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  • 25-34_m_a_h1_f1
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    Yes, I am not as straight as I wanted to believe there have been always a part of me that felt some attraction to some guys, but I've been ignoring it! I laughed at it at the beginning, but I can't laugh anymore, I know this is serious and I have to accept this part of me, and I'm on my way to accept being Bi. The question now is: what's next? if I was 100% gay then I will know what's next, but it's kinda hard to answer this question for a Bi!
    As a side note: Thank you Delusions, you are awesome you are always there for us, you deserve a medal

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  • imo whats next for a bisexual should be same for a gay or a straight one, if you like someone whatever gender they are you should just calculate your chances with them if its impossible then move on if there's a slight chance then take it. Put yourself out there for both genders and you'll find someone. Perhaps if the attraction towards males is just sexual then it'll be even easier for you to find another guy who is in for the sex only and I recall they had few arabic web sites for gay dating (as in males) but i forget their names so try google. Just dont overthink it, and good luck either way

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  • 25-34_m_a_h1_f1
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    Thanks Delusions

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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    i think you are bi and since you are enjoying sex with women, you are probably not gay. would you ever be comfortable identifying yourself as a bisexual?

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      بالطبع كل انسان بيميل الى الشئ الذى ادمنه وبيرتاحله اما المخنثين
      فلهم افكار مختلفة ولهم عادات وتقاليد وانت استاذ زنديق
      متغير الميول

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    • 17-24_f_f_h3_f3
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      أستاذ زنديق متغير الميول ؟
      LOL!

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    • 25-34_m_a_h1_f1
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      @6a3miya
      I'm not 100% comfortable with identifying myself as Bisexual yet. But I'm comfortable with identifying myself as Bicurious.

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    • 25-34_m_a_h1_f1
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      @mrmr
      أستاذ زنديق متغير الميول
      هموت م الضحك

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  • 17-24_m_w_h4_f1
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    oh my gosh ! i thought it was me writing this same problem same feeling right now ! :S i cant even identify my self or even know what i want ! hate that !!

    • 25-34_m_a_h1_f1
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      I'm so happy to hear that can you describe exactly what do you feel before and after cumming?

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    • 17-24_f_f_h3_f3
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      This conversation is heading into a very awkward direction as of now

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    • 25-34_m_a_h1_f1
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      Why awkward?

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    • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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      Yeah I think u shud really discuss this over chat...plus stay away from pornography. Please also visit a councellor or a sex therapist to deal with ur confusion. ...u need tgat. Also visit the website your brain on porn....I think ur straight but porn messed up ur head.
      FYI...if u dnt give full info ur gonna get bad advice. We are not experts here. U need ti see a good therapist for your problem.

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    • Therapist because he feels aroused by both genders is a bit extreme. Not everyone is overthinking their sexuality or insecure about it to turn it into a medical case by seeking medical help (unless he becomes a sex addict I don't think a "doctor" should have a say in his pants matters) Theres a thin line between confusion and insecurity or in that case, porn addiction which I doubt he has (pretty sure all guys watch porn at least occasionally anyways so nothing scary here) JS

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    • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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      Dear delusions,
      after reading his post I think he has jntrusive thoughts about the gay thingy in. His mind. And sum1 told me abt fetish here which is also kinda tru. He is a bit scared about being sexually attracted to th guys+ he said he I straight after he cums. He is attracted to the girl and he has no problem with it but being attracted to guys kinda annoys him I guess....watching little pornography is ok I gues but too much of it does create confusion,. Trust me on this. I really believe he should go to the therapist first.he probably needs sexual healing. This is not reparative therapy!!!

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    • 17-24_f_f_h3_f3
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      I thought he was starting to accept being bisexual (hence he wouldnt even be here to begin with) if this is the case then he has already made his 1st step on the right path of self acceptance. However its true that he should watch less gay porn to not let it be the judge of his sexual orientation on this I agree with you but I dont think he needs a doctor to make him stop watching gay porn. Sexual desires towards a certain gender or both are sadly uncontrollable.

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    • 25-34_m_a_h1_f1
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      I like your conversation guys but I had to clarify somethings. Firstly I don't watch much porn, actually I watch less porn than my straight friends! and most of it is straight porn. Secondly it's not about porn, I have/had some crushes on some guys, but I was so scared to admit it to myself! Now I think I begin to accept the fact that I am Bisexual

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    • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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      Well heretic I guess then things are ok

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    • 25-34_m_a_h1_f1
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      Yes, Things are ok now, thanks a lot

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    • 25-34_m_a_h1_f1
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      @Delusions @SadisBad in regards to my question to @KJ, it wasn't awkward at all, I didn't want him to tell me sexual details about his thoughts and his feeling, I just wanted him to describe his feeling as I described it in the first post in this topic. I just wanted to know his problem more.
      The problem with men in regards to sex, is that they feel literally nothing after they cum, suddenly they feel that their partner isn't sexy anymore! This feeling will last for only 5-10 min maybe less. So I misinterpreted my feelings after cumming, I wasn't aware that this is an ordinary feeling.

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