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What do you think of gay guys?

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As a lesbian, I've been asked this question many many times. I have also met lesbians that do not accept gay men. Like hello? We are both in the same ship here, we are both discriminated against and more importantly we both had no choice as it is simply who we are.
As for my reply... "As long as I'm not in the middle; I don't care."
I do however not like when gay guys look too feminine as I don't think sexuality should change one's physical appearance to that extent.
It's not about choosing a certain gender, it's about choosing happiness over society. .

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  • 17-24_f_b_h1_f2
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    thats a funny reply

    about looking feminine they dont really do it on purpose its just how they feel (more feminine and liking to do this because it feels more natural.) just like when lesbians want to dress in suits for their wedding and cut their hair really short.

    its harder here for them to get away with it without being made fun of and mocked so a lot of guys try very hard to hide their femininity even if they feel more feminine inside and find that they were born into a body that doesnt belong to them.

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  • "I don't think sexuality should change one's physical appearance to that extent"

    Some people can't help it though. It's the only way they can be themselves and feel comfortable. A lot of people feel as if they are stuck in the wrong body, it can be a nightmare if you don't do something about it to be more comfortable and accepting of who you are. Some people even commit suicide because of it.

    I'm sure some people do it for the looks and attention but these don't count, this is a real and serious issue affecting millions of people where they feel they were born into the wrong body and stuck forever that way. I sympathize with them completely.

    • 17-24_f_w_h3_f4
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      Hmm... that does make sense. Thanks for the reply

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    • 35-50_m_f_h4_f4
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      Well I fully agree with your post. Being GAY(woman/man) does not mean being feminine guy, or butch girl.I am 100 % man in looking and attitude the difference with other heterosexual men is that I am attracted to men they to girls,but nothing else..Fact

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  • 17-24_m_b_h2_f4
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    i believe that femininity or masculinity are traits in a person.. they shouldn't be assigned to a certain gender and become disapproved if the other sex has it (i know they r called FEMININity and MASCULINity cuz they rooted from the behavior of the respective genders, but that's ancient ) just as being nice or well mannered or greedy, they r all characteristics that define a person not a gender

    • 17-24_f_w_h3_f4
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      Yeah, just society 'norms', culture and/or tradition. I actually studied sociology and did a lot of independent reading on the topic especially society and gender so I can go on forever LOL but yes, I do get your point.

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  • 17-24_m_b_h2_f4
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    one of my friends used to ask me y am i not FUN like a gay should be.. another is so free when she's talking to me, she believes that gays r the best creatures ever, i think we need to embrace the fact that we r not a 'normal' commodity in our society, and until we reach the phase that homosexuals r just humans we will face that alot, i have fun with it, u do too, and if it's a negative comment, just brush it off, and let them know it's who u r and u wont change it

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  • I love all the gays! To me, everyone has the right to choose whether to express themselves as feminine, masculine, or something between or outside that spectrum. But my one issue with gay men is when gay men are patriarchal - like when they have critical things to say about women's bodies or are assholes to women but think it's okay because they're gay. That's my only issue with gay men (like it is with all men).

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