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Is The LGBT Community Judgmental & Stereotypical?

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We all loathe the hate vibes we get from everyone just because we are gay, but what about us in our very own community? are we judgmental? do we look for appearance or 'muscles' or 'tan-lines'? is the LGBT community fighting for its right while it is shallow and superficial?

I have been watching A-List: New York and it's hell of an offensive show! it portrays bottoms as girly queens, singles as materialistic lustful vain individuals and manly (yet flirty) masculine tops as sex machines! Is this what the LGBT community calls for? Is that why many gay guys are still single and many lesbians are asking for a cover marriage?

What do you think? have you met any gay guys who are just after the looks or just want a sugar daddy? How do you view our community ?Is it demanding? and are you willing to drop your standards only if the personality of the other person is unique?
Share your own point of view, and thanks in advance.

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  • 12-16_m_b_h3_f4
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    I think, just like in any other community, there will be people who fit the stereotypes and who also create their own stereotypes about how the gay community should be like. I've been told by some people that I'm not gay enough because I don't walk like one, it was pretty offensive to me and that was coming from other gay friends. But we are diverse, and there will be people who are demanding and who set their own standards of "gayness" and others who couldn't care less about judging others or fitting into stereotypes to please their friends and fit in more. It all depends on the person and their personality and I think it's hard to say "this is what the LGBT group thinks and feels" because we are incredibly different from each other, culturally, socially, psychologically, emotionally, physically, and any other way you can imagine, each is their own person regardless of their sexuality in the end.

    • THANK YOU! I have always wondered what the heck does it mean to be "gay enough"?! and the idea of diversity is not something abstract, we are all different whether gay, straight or even aliens! thanks for sharing your point of view, couldn't agree more ^_^

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    • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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      i think some people are insecure about their own 'gayness' so they judge others in the hopes of feeling gayer themselves or more accepted by their peers

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    • That's a valid point, but this affects the whole structure :S besides, some gay individuals have an idea for the ideal gay guy and it's all about the looks and has nothing to do with the person's true color

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  • 51-65_f_f_h1_f3
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    I never liked those stereotypes that shows what the typical gay person should look or act like, lesbians as butch with a deep voice and gay men as girly and a disregard for trans or bisexuals because they're too "confusing" to portray.

    • Still many people are too convinced that a gay guy should wear pink and 'gay' clothes while a lesbian should wear shirts and pants all the time. I find the idea of categorizing a group of people absurd. Thanks for your comment ^_^

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    • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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      totally agreed people just love categories in the end they think theyre experts on everything

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