I'm a queer Arab women living in the U.S. I've surrounded myself with American queer friends and am really comfortable in U.S. queer/lesbian circles, but I can't relate to it myself. I don't want the gay haircut and I don't listen to this certain kind of music and I don't own anything rainbow.
Problem is, it's then really hard to think of a queer identity of my own. For the Arab queers living in the West, how d'you guys do it?
When I'm with my parents, I have no choice but to pass as straight of course, but even when I'm with friends or when I was living at school and such I have a really hard time looking gay and feeling Arab. It's even more confusing when I'm wearing the hijab. .