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To begin with i'm a lesbian and i have a boyfriend who i don't have feeling for and he is taking our relationship very seriously also he doesn't know about me being a lesbian.
my boyfriend's best friend his girlfriend is a friend of mine and i think i'm falling for her and she knew about me having feelings for her also her boyfriend knew about it . i don't know what should i do in this situation. .

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  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f2
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    I think you need to end it with your boyfriend as soon as possible. It's not fair for you to be stuck in a relationship you don't want to be in and it's definitely not fair for him to be strung along. Don't tell him about your orientation (at least not right away) but tell him you need to spend some time alone to figure yourself out and that you need a break from him.

    The girl you're falling for, right now she's in a relationship, so you have to find out first if she's actually in love with her boyfriend or if she also might be a lesbian. Give yourself some time, you need to be single for a bit and you need a fresh mind to think about how you might approach the girl about this. Start with asking her about her relationship and if she's happy, and the fact that you're thinking about breaking up with your boyfriend because the feeling isn't mutual. See what she says about her own relationship and depending on her response, take it from there.

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  • she has feelings for me but she loves him at the same time, because she is bi and i am 100% a lesbian so i don't know if i should back off or not.

    • 25-34_f_w_h3_f2
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      Even if she has feelings for you, it will probably just be a fling. Don't put yourself in a position where you might be rejected or hurt... give her space and see what happens. If her feelings for you were strong enough, she will come for you, but make sure she is coming to you out of actual love, and not just pure boredom.

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      Im glad I read this..Im in a different situation , but those words were still right. Thank you!

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