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i'm asking for your advice because i'm completely lost .. so here i go

i'm with my girlfriend for almost 5 years now , we met in high school and everything was okay .. at first .then family problems started .. gossip and all .. so we separated because i had to move out of town and she had to stay home .. we got back together a few months later .. and since we break up and go back more in love than before.! earlier this year she asked me to marry her .. i said .. yes .. and huge problems started ever since .. we fight all the time over nothing .. we stop talking for days .. we rarely meet and when we do .. guess what ? we fight .. over a text message or even if i say hi to a female friend she gets all jealous .. so i stopped talking to all my friends .. i changed my number .. i even bought a new mobile with no internet access so i won't talk on whatsapp and viber and all ..

i'v done everything to make her comfortable .. BUT she doesn't ! she goes out get drunk with her friends , she's always on her phone and facebook .. we're not even friends on facebook OMG ! i tried to understand her because she's 2 years younger than me .. but .. i can't . i love her but i just don't know what to do anymore i dont even have friends to talk to ! so here i am desperately asking for your help ... please HELP.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f2
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    You need space from your girlfriend! This is clear. I don't mean just a few days. You need weeks apart. It looks like she doesn't really respect you and that she might take you and this relationship for granted. If you want her to value you, the best way to do that is to spend time apart until she realizes what you mean to her.

    If you fight so often, you need to question whether or not you two are a good fit. You might love her, that's unfortunately not enough to sustain a relationship. Start thinking about what she means to you. She seems to be too immature for a real relationship. You are doing too much and she's not giving you as much respect and attention in response to what you're sacrificing for her.

    I know it's hurtful and you're attached and you'd rather not be without her. It's happened with me and my exes before. But ending it will be much, much better for you at least in terms of finding concrete answers.

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    thank you a lot , that's ecxactly what i did .. i asked her for space ,to think and figure it all out and she agreed .. thank you again =)

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f3
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    I don't think that you need space no !! I think that that you should stay close to her and show her your love and just make her believe that no matter what you will always be there for her ! you said that she's younger than you, well I think she's doing this cuz she's afraid maybe of losing you! so I guess the only solution is that you guys need to talk ! and also she needs to calm down and your are the only one who can do it. Because you love her and it hurts a lot I really understand that !

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      or maybe it some kind of domination ... and that doesn't look good if the other side do not accept it coz it maybe turn into hate

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  • 17-24_m_w_h4_f1
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    just do not show her the same amount of love u was showing to her and she will feel that if she really love i know that will be hard to u but that will be better than losing her forever !

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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    thank u all for ur advices , i really appreciate it .. now i'm takin some alone timeto figure it all out & we'll see what happen next

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    Welcome dear and good luck !! :)

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  • Hi smiiley you girlfriend she love himselfs not more if she loves you she try to pass all the time with you and your relation with the others does' t make a problems , why she ask you to married here if she want to create a problems; tell here the marriage is the substance of a real love...
    my wish to see you happy
    Kisses to you

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