hi, am new here and testing waters:)
am in my mid 30s now, and i know myself to have had so many flings and crushes and loves during my lie, mostly with men and sometimes with women. i have been married for 2 yrs now and expecting a baby soon.
well, given the introduction, as i love my husband and respect him, i have deliberately trained myself not to have my casual flings with men any more, i am saying this because i think it might be the reason (or one of the reasons) which has grown my appetite for women. it's hard to meet female partners with similar interests or i don't have a functional gaydar as you call it, so i hit on female sex workers a couple of times.
i am worried from this growing crave for women, i had it before committing with my husband but again never had the chance in a female relationship. i don't know if i belong to the LGBT community or i am simply a person with a varied taste and great lust that i have always been challenged to tame and suppress.
my partner knows about my same sex preference and he doesn't mind it yet.. since i never got involved with a woman. even if i do get involved, it would mean that i threaten my relationship with the man in my life .
i guess being gay or straight is less confusing. sorry if this is too much personal information.