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hi
am not sure wherer or not am lesbian...may be am opressing myself alot? Or am scared of the homophobia here in Tunisia?
How can I know it? In porn, i like lesbians, I find myself gazing at girls all the time... how can I find "the one"???
I need lesbian suport here, to find out who am ? what is my sexual identity? I have been with men before, but I never liked it, I m not submissive,I can't be submissive, I hate to feel less than a man.I can't be with a submissive men either.Is it some kind of fetishism? yah am a queer, but to wich extend?.
I ask myself, if being feminist is the reason that am attracted to women?
plllllllllllllllz help me
best regards,
ibticem.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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    I don't think you're attracted to women just because you're a feminist or that feminism has much to do with all this even. Also, I'd like to point out that porn doesn't determine sexual preference - some lesbians get turned on by gay porn or etc. so don't depend on that either.

    I get where the confusion's coming from and understand that it can get frustrating but it's normal, give yourself time to figure out your emotions and what you're attracted to. And don't rush at all.

    • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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      I agree with this and would like to add that you can't help who you fall in love with. Don't stress about labeling yourself. Sexuality is a very fluid thing. Just keep an open mind and heart and see where it leads you.

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    • 25-34_f_b_h1_f3
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      thx alot, am sad because i dont have tools to figure out who i am.....

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    • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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      What kind of tools do you mean by that?

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    • 25-34_f_b_h1_f3
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      am shy, i dont know how to react with people? I say: hi, are you into women? grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr am stupid. how to do it? how to make a move ?

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    • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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      Ahhh, that's not stupid at all! It's quite normal to feel shy when you don't really know the person so I think the best way to go around it is to become friends with them first and then once you feel comfortable enough, you'll make the move without even realizing it or get anxious about the whole process. So focus on being at ease and everything will hopefully go smoothly.

      The move would be honesty (personal opinion) because once you're past the nervousness, you can just be truthful about your feelings.

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    • 25-34_f_b_h1_f3
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      honesty? and who is gonna accept a person who doesn't know about her sexual orientation? any advise about that?

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    • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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      Well, figuring out what gender you're attracted to sexually and emotionally should be a first. That's something that needs to be done before you jump into any sort of commitment.

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    • 25-34_f_b_h1_f3
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      And how is that? even my psychiatrist is treating me like am some kind of a freak....am blue

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    • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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      Think of it this way, if you fall in love with a girl, go for it, same goes if it's a guy. Don't stress about labels. Just follow your heart and do what feels right.

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    • 25-34_f_b_h1_f3
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      ok....i will do that :)

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  • 25-34_m_f_h1_f4
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    well dear ibticem

    its very glad to write for friends here in ahwaa, most of us need to know their sexual ID, to know ur choice..

    u need to know ur feeling for women and men and is ur heart going and be happy with men or women better , when u feel in love with any of them thats is love and ur sexual ID.

    don't look at the men from the body site just, looking for ur heart ur mind

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    Hi there . Try taking these academic tests on sexuality :

    http://vistriai.com/kinseyscaletest/

    http://www.youngsouthampton.org/children-and-young-people/advice/relationships/sexuality/klein-sexual-orientation-grid-quiz.aspx

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  • 25-34_m_f_h1_f4
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    I answer this test Cutenfun89, my Result is: 3 Equally heterosexual and homosexual
    thats I'm

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  • Hi Ibticem i am Abdelwaheb from Algeria nice to meet you Ibticem me when i have 13 years i find my self bisexual i like women but with another guy, the problem ibticem is not to know ho you are because when you know that you make your choise but how can find a person F/M/TS ho share your life ....
    kisses to you

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