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falling for your straight friend!

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well guys, happy new year :D i wanna some advises on how to hate somebody lol, i am a student in Cairo univ, i got that "friend" who i am madly in love with PS: he is STRAIGHT, i think.....i mean he like calls me everyday , and send me hearts and say things like i miss you and tell me that you love me on Facebook, and holds my hand in the street almost all the time.. and when i ask him for something he tells me "gimme a kiss and i will tell you" .....but i know that he is straight cause he got a girlfriend and flirts with girls and such... he is just stuck in my head and i don't know what to do, i mean i get mad jealous when he talk to anyone or when he doesn't call for a day and i keep thinking about him!...and i have to see him everyday cause his major is the same as mine.help :( .

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  • 17-24_m_w_h1_f3
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    had such experience, by time, it just fades. hehe..
    Straight guys like to play around like that.. so frustrating..>,<

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  • I think you two should talk about the LGBT community first, see where does he stand concerning homosexuals. If he showed that he despises homosexuals then you have to just force yourself not to like him (I did the same with a guy I had a crush on and he turned out to be homophobic), if he thinks homosexuals are cool (we're! DUH!) then try to pave the way and maybe eventually you will come out to him, or maybe a few hints will help you out. Just don't rush, you don't want to lose a friend like him ^_^

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  • 17-24_m_w_h1_f3
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    to talk about LGBT out of blue? don't think so. but great idea.

    • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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      not out of the blue but i guess you can find some way to bring it up. like, hey did you see this movie, about the lgbt cause, or did you see this protest about lgbt rights, what do you think about it? i am sure there are ways to bring it up without it being suspicious. everyone asks other people for their opinions on many stuff. i am sure someone asked him before. he seems close enough to you that he wont mind.

      by the way this is a very common situation, i fell for many of my straight friends before. it is hurtful especially if you have to see them every day. but you will get through it and dont lose your friendship with him.

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    • 17-24_m_w_h1_f3
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      I got you, totally. The thing is that I already sensed their homophobic experience when one of them once told me about a gay ( not long ago) presence in our community. They reject the idea of LGBT I think. In my personal opinion, girls are more likely to accept gay because they just like guys who're gay, unfortunately unavailable, LOL.

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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      Straight friends always flirt too extreme, but I think this one is actually serious about you, because I don't see this kinda playing GOING on for too long, if it does, and it's not just a one time thingy, then I think he might be actually into you, just becareful because they always use this excuse that they're not flirting and all, and that they're homophobes and bla bla.

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    • 17-24_m_w_h1_f3
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      I just wanna "kill" them, everytime they do so.

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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      Well, there's a disadvantage to killing them, you won't be able to day dream about them when they're gone, and you won't be able to check them out piece by piece since they won't be around, think it over! :-p

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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      lolllllllllllllllll

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    he is straight.........he just loves to kiss me and holds my hands a lot............ kinda weird tho

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  • 17-24_m_w_h2_f3
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    well, just set your heart free if all fails. try listening to lovebirds.. you 'll get the hint !

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    the thing is that the love birds keeps on tweeting his name! :(.........i just need somebody else to make me forget about him :( .........anybody? T.T

    • 17-24_m_w_h2_f3
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      if you need someone just to get away from him, that just what we call rebound boyfriend and that's bad for that rebound guy...

      so rather than find a rebound guy you should find someone on your OWN term and try to make it serious. Take that someone for who he is not what he's and date him seriously.

      don't get a rebound guy it is bad to the system.. i know the feeling because i was a rebound guy who got toyed and left to be chewed by dogs. so in the end i found my bf (now he's my ex after he knew i'm not that normal)....

      just consider it like doing a bikini wax... wipe, stick and remove.. painful yes but worth it.. indeed..

      Good luck!!

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    • 17-24_m_w_h2_f3
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      if you need someone just to get away from him, that just what we call rebound boyfriend and that's bad for that rebound guy...

      so rather than find a rebound guy you should find someone on your OWN term and try to make it serious. Take that someone for who he is not what he's and date him seriously.

      don't get a rebound guy it is bad to the system.. i know the feeling because i was a rebound guy who got toyed and left to be chewed by dogs. so in the end i found my bf (now he's my ex after he knew i'm not that normal)....

      just consider it like doing a bikini wax... wipe, stick and remove.. painful yes but worth it.. indeed..

      Good luck!!

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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      i don't mean rebound i mean a friend that i can actually talk to about these things :(

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    • 17-24_m_w_h2_f3
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      well talk to me..:-) I'm queer, I'm cheer and i don't drink beer but i will bare your thoughts and your pain and soothe your sorrow like the november rain..

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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      okay :D you re my new bff hhhhhhhhhhh :D :-)

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    I've been there before... TWICE! had the same problem, they act like if we were together but still they're straight! i hate it... But i like having them around :D lol

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    same story happend to me

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  • 17-24_m_w_h2_f3
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    well don't spit it out like, "hey bro I'm gay. so you like that shit?" but instead try to ask him indirectly.. spit some tales in it. for example, "so, it is said the homosexual is the better parents then them straights. funny how world judge. whats your opinion on that...?"

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