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Hey over there ! So here is my question : do you think that a marriage of convenience (between gay & lesbians of course) is a good decision or solution just to hide from the family , the community ... ?
Well, for me I don't think so, I can never do that because it is too mcuh, too much stress, too much hiding (& I've already had enough of that lol) .. To me it looks like a big fat lie (& "we" already live in one) .. It's just my opinion :p , what's yours ?

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  • 17-24_f_b_h1_f2
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    i agree with you. doesnt appear to be a good enough "solution" for me & in families like mine it would just create even more problems. its worse than lying in this case. its fraud. and i dont see why we should go that far to hide who we are. i understand if this person is abroad where the idea is to leave the country but even then its not advisable. it just adds more complications to an already complicated life.

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  • Getting married like this will simply solve nothing, and it's like one have arranged their fate, there is no going back, and as you just said, it will add to the stress, it's like starting a life with someone you are already going to abandon. In my point of view, this will just cover up simple things that can be covered up easily by being single, and that kind of marriage will just move things from bad to worse.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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    it is in an only sutiotion when a lesbian need to marry to travel to another country so she and the gay guy will live sepretly that is what i am planning to do when i finish college ! cuz my parents won't let me travel alone so that is a good idea for me and for the guy it is easier to family migrate so it will work

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f4
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    In some families, where you're pressured to get married, this may be the only solution. Then they can live an open life of friendship. They can travel to get away from familial pressure too. But his can also raise other problems. People may start to ask why they don't have kids - a HUGE factor in Arab/Middle Eastern families. Even if they succeed in getting away from their own families, how will they find a same-sex partner willing to date someone already married? It's difficult. But I can see why some people would be desperate to try.

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    If I'll be marrying like someone who's as close as a best friend, I don't see ewhy not honestly. :)

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    I will get married oneday hopefully, but to a guy :)

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  • 17-24_f_f_h3_f3
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    Honestly I'd do it any day. Believe me if you find the right partner for the "task" it'd not be such a burden it'd be more like a free get away from all the hide and seek we gay people go thru from family and friends. I'm not saying just "any" gay and lesbian should marry of course it better be with someone you took your time to know first and you both are grown up enough to carry on with such responsibility (yes marriage is a responsibility even if its like that)

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