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how do i know that i'm gay =/

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sorry guys to annoy but i'm really confused , i cant be gay in this Tunisian straight community , God will hate me , i even read Quran to forget all this but i cant :( i dont like girls , i treat them like my sisters not more , but i love boys muscles X-D yeahh but i dont like those sex issues ... i just want a simple romantic relationship.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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    This sounds very normal, Ezio. Most of the people you'll interact with here will tell you the same. We've all experienced this at some point in our lives because of the our environments mostly. Even this confusion you're going through is normal in the beginning. Although you don't seem very confused to me because you already know who you're attracted to, which is a great sign. Slowly, you'll start coming in terms with your sexuality. :)

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f3
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    i know but i dont look like those girly boys , sometimes i feel shame and i ask myself why am i even attracting to boys :(

    • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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      An individual's certain look or behaviour doesn't necessarily represent their sexuality, so don't worry about that. Also, shame and guilt are usually part of this process (acceptance) because of what society expects from you. Though you don't have to conform to these expectations. Even to your family's expectations, no matter how heartbreaking it might be.

      Look through this topic I posted some time ago on guilt, might help: http://ahwaa.org/topics/5 - you can see how a lot of members have been through similar experiences as well.

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    • 17-24_m_b_h2_f4
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      well there r all kinds of gays, there is girly and overly-manly and normal, probably u find alot of the girly type cuz theyre .. u know "obvious", anyway im sure ull find ur *just right* guy some day, it wont be easy or quick especially in the middle east but we cant let something as trivial as where we were born affect our future. so u just need patience and know where to find any homosexuals near you to make friends and all that,
      abt that other things, u shouldnt be feeling ashamed, it wont help and it might make u lose focus on wat rly matters and cloud ur decisions, so its useless ... but its just me, but i think u already decided u cant marry a woman, right ?

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f3
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      i cant lie on a girl and tell her that i love her , and i ignore a lot of relationships with girls , but i can't came out to my family or my freinds i think ill keep it secret until i finish my study and get out from this homophobic country :(

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    • 17-24_m_b_h2_f4
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      well thats a good plan, not wanting to lie too is a good thing (Y), good luck with trying to leave the middle east too, and ill keep my fingers crossed u dont have to wait all this time to get a boyfriend XDD

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f3
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    "i cant be gay in this Tunisian straight community , God will hate me , i even read Quran to forget all this but i cant :("

    I'm sorry but this is just sad.

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    BTW there's nothing wrong about having sex with the guy u like or love... and no God loves u! don't think about god hating u! u know why? cuz God will never hate someone he created! and he created u the way u r... he's the one who created u gay! and being gay it wasn't ur choice... so God loves u as a very normal gay guy! so date guys! and if u like someone sleep with them... and get a very normal life! the gay lifestyle it's just the normal thing for us.... enjoy urself & enjoy ur life :) and remember God never make mistakes

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    I'm sorry, but I can't just watch you say that lol, I know I'm gay and all but to start with, it's religiously wrong, you can't play around it, try doing whatever you want, but you can't just say it's fine you know? sure, you can do it, but can't say that it's fine, and im out.

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