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Long Distance Relationships. Do They Work?

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I think they can definitely work. If the people involved are truly in love, put enough effort into it, and have a strong will to be in each other's futures, why not? Also, I really think it teaches you to appreciate how strong the bond is.

Is anyone here in a LDR? How do handle being away from your loved one? And if you have experience or not, what do you generally think of this sort of relationship? .

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    okay so, I've been in two distance relationships, and I've never been more in love, but the first guy was coming to actually take me to move in with him in Turkey lol, first we were 'dating' or whatever u call it for 3 months online and it got so serious, and he's never loved any guy and stuff, but things got out of control when he realized it, like I think he was lying to himself the whole time, and then he wanted me to let him go and never look back, one day before he was coming to Egypt, so I was like okay.. then the other one, we were together for 2 months, and this one was so special.. but I had to let go because of my therapy, but they definitely DO work, a LOT, and they just teach you more about love because honestly people are more themselves online, so yea I don't believe in all the people that think wow, u loved someone online and stuff? how desperate are you.. but yea I have a lot of experience in that area, and I was really happy, so yea it's a great relationship, u just try not to think of the distance because it kinda hurts a lot.. ;x

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  • Yes they work, but not necessarily at the very beginning. That is the critical time where you get to know the person and the physical touch is important. After that it can work depending on how committed you are to the person. The commitment has to go both ways, which means both of you need to trust each other or else there will be jealousy and that will make the other person less desirable (and fun) to be with.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f3
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    Distance in my case has never been an issue, I mean I agree with Edel on the existence of that gamble factor, but again that's there in one from of another in any relationship. I also think even though a regular relationship gives you the great bonus of physically displaying your affection and satisfies the need of you two being physically together the LDRs help you form a tighter love bond if I could call it that because of that lust :)

    • 12-16_m_f_h4_f4
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      Yes I like this. But what do you think about trust issues that stem from being apart and not knowing when the other person might have feelings for someone else? This is what happen with me.

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    • 17-24_f_w_h1_f3
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      Well, as to the trust issues they shouldn't exist in normal relationship or LDRs like to me, they're a deal breaker. Once I can't trust the person in front of me anymore then there is no point being together in the first place. As to them having feelings for someone else also exists in both scenarios and there is nothing YOU can do about it, it all depends on the,

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    • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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      Exactly Roo. The whole thing is based on trust. It makes or breaks the relationship.

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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      yepp, you can't tell whether they're into someone else or not, you just gotta trust that they're not and give them some privacy.. if they're willing to be with you, then atleast that's what you should do, trust them.

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    • 17-24_f_w_h1_f3
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      Exactly :) I will give the person I am with unconditional trust until they mess up, then there is no second chance, this is how I personally do it :)

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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      +1 here.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    It's completely possible to be in love and all, no doubt about that. But like, in my case, I was in a LDR with my ex and that ended badly. The distance wasn't an issue, in fact it made things better but the problem with LDR's is the uncertainty. A bit of a gamble, really. Will we ever live together, will we ever meet etc. So, yes, both parties need to be completely committed towards the same goal, that is, being together, otherwise there's no point to it. LDR's can't be a fling so they're almost always very serious, so even if people go into it with a love-conquers-all attitude they have to be realistic about it.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f3
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    I completely agree with Edel :)

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  • 25-34_m_b_h1_f4
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    I've been in a LDR for almost 11 months during which we met 5 times in 4 different countries. It's amazing for me because I love him and he's a gorgeous and caring guy. Later, I found out more benefits of a LDR; first, for a closeted gay like me, it's so hard to maintain a serious relationship face to face and to hide it from people around you, it requires more effort which I can't stand. Second, being so easily bored, I think if we had to stay together and meet everyday, I'd feel stressed to maintain a healthy relationship because I tend to put pressure on myself not to let others feel I'm bored of them which will ruin my personal and mental life and probably I might explode in anger for a silly reason and I'd feel guilty :)
    In conclusion: I support LDRs because it will make your relation always on fire (Passion and Lust to meet is a great feeling), also it will keep your personal freedom without interruption. (that doesn't contradict with the values of faithfulness and commitment), lastly, if you don't want to come out, it's perfect.
    Greeeeeetings

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  • 17-24_f_b_h2_f3
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    I was in one, kind of, until I found out that my ex girlfriend is a heartless horny b*tch who obviously never loved me & pretended to just to suck love out of me & ge in my pants :D (wich has nothing to do with distance haha) . Good luck to all of you who are in a LDR :) .

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    :/ i'm sorry i would have to say that long distance relationships doesn't really work! unless if the other party will be away only for a certain time... like per example a year! but more than that?? no, & if u gunna see them just once per year that's even worss! & all what u have will eventually die bcuz u will never keep the love between u alive by a camera and a screen

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f4
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    I've been in one for almost three years now! We visit each other often, and do plan on living together in the future, once I'm done with school. So yes, LDRs DO work!

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  • 17-24_f_f_h3_f3
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    This is a confusing topic for me because I always thought they're just too hard to maintain however I managed to keep one alive for 7 years..easily too, but then again I never met anyone like her in my whole entire life so I doubt this kind of loyalty is common hence long distance relationships are hard indeed but not impossible.

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  • Looking back on my experience on LDR, i have to say it works both way.. i had 3 actually... the 1st one last for 3 years, the second one just over 6 months while the last was 4 months. I believe that if we put our heart into it, it will work.. take the 3 years LDR for instance... i lie in one continet while he lived in other... we were penpals actually until we somehow stumble with each other in on the plane to Bali. we ended up together during the holiday duration and we got closer than ever.
    One thing about being in love the sex is important... because what is chemistry without action... like hydrolysis or oxidation.. if there chances to meet.. we sometimes lock ourselves into the hotel room in like 3 days and get at them like bunnies... at one time, the hotel manager did come knocking asking if everything is all right.. and the room smells..
    Even he agreed with me... when come to sex... A soul can hold just so long.. and we did the online hanky panky, the sex phone and stuff.. but sometimes that never enough... until he came up an idea where he got this bluetooth dildo and artificial lips and ass where we virtually have fun without being in the room together with the help of internet.. It lasted for 3 years and that was golden to me.
    So yeah... it is not impossible, but vows need to be made.. and some researcher said LDR should be an open relationship not monogamous to prevent one party or the other cheats and feels guilty about it.

    In conclusion, it is a matter of personal preference, willingness and sacrifices... and depending on how far you willing to donate and give away your trust to someone else...

    "My ideas of wedding might always change, one time i will want the white doves, or the chocolate fountain, to get married in a place that overlook the sea and the sun while the sand under my feet..but one thing is never change and that is YOU"- Anon.

    Good day
    Mike

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