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hey everyone . well i cant say my real name but u all can call me twisted.
i am 21 years old gay goodlooking. i never had a bf. i kinda didnt find a decent guy i really dont know why most of the gays in egypt they think they r girls and have to act girly . i hate that . i am gay that means i am a guy who likes other guys.

and why most of the gays all what they think about is sex? where is the feelings and love care and passion?
dose anyone knows the answer?
why i cant find a nice guy to love me for who i am?

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  • Find a friend first, and in that friend you can find a lover. If you look for good friends first, then you can find a decent boyfriend easily. My suggestion is that you prioritize friendship because great boyfriends don't grow on trees. You will need to befriend them first to see if they have the potential to be anything more.

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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    it depends where you meet these guys when i meet them in clubs or parties then they want only sex but like omar said if they are ur friend or you share friends its easier to see them for who they are and not through sex encounters only (i know what u mean about this its not my style either)

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    It's because all "gays" here in Egypt are criticizer, people misunderstand the sexual orientation difference, they think you're either a girl or a psychopath just cause u fell for a guy when you're a guy, it might be religiously wrong.. but there's not really much we can do about it, atleast I think so really :/.. so yea, after they're criticized and judged, they start believing what they're told, that they're such girls.. they start losing the manly feelings so yea, they start behaving the way they do, and some are just born into girls stuff, like I heard its hormones differences, but yea that's all just my opinions about this, have a good day. :]

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  • ...i don't do that..i never act girly or anything, i find it weird. and yeah..most of the guys i met wanted to get in my pants from the first date lol, but never give up..i mean who knows when will you find someone that completes you. just wait

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    I agree1 =3 most people just broke their moral boundries and are like.. well.. 'since im gay and everything, i might aswel enjoy it and get into every1's pants' - gotta hate that logic lol.

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      True and I find it sad that some of the either leave their faith or has started on drinking alcohol and smoking. I wish we were a stringer bunch we most of us arent. i want to kep on posting about how to help our selves get through our pain. I shud do that. I really dnt want anyone to choose an addictive lifestyle. Whether one follows faith or not is upto him but an addictive lifestyle is not a good one
      My bf felt that he was controlled bcs i used to tell him that i wud not stay if he did that. But i was wrong.it shudnt be that way. I definitely made a mistake and asked to come back and let give another chance, He got pissed and left. Well broke off. It was a huge stress. Anyways I hope he is good now.
      He needs to realize that he needs to take care of himself. We cud have gone great tbh. I tried force the good side out of him and i fell in love with it :P He has a lot of pain.

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    I agree1 =3 most people just broke their moral boundries and are like.. well.. 'since im gay and everything, i might aswel enjoy it and get into every1's pants' - gotta hate that logic lol.

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    i know! i be like..dude do you even know my name?! how old i am?! where am i from?! i mean ...you could like hook up with some dude and turns out to be a serial killer lol

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    yea, if you're horny, there's so much to do to satisfy ur needs other than having a complete stranger with you, it's called making love for a reason lol.

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    !!! when i am horny i hold it! i never do "things" lol.

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    la2 I just meant "you" as in people, I know you're not anything like the rest, excuse me if I made it sound weird lol, I meant nothing to do with ya.

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  • 17-24_m_b_h2_f4
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    hey twisted, maybe u dont know enough gays ... i dont know how many gay friends u have, but if u want a relationship i think u should probably interact more with gays around you to find someone, and i rly like that u dont want a one night stand or a fling, good for you, i hope find ur one and only soon XD

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f3
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    i'm just like u , i'm 20 years old and till now i'm virgin but i really don't care about that but all what i care about when i will meet the right person who loves me for who i'm not just for sex or something like this , i just have one BF before he was ma college and then i know that i'm nothing for him and he was really a big lie so till now can't find a real BF or just a real friend

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  • 17-24_m_w_h1_f3
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    Whoa...the thought is alike here.. =)

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    sup twis ! , here i am like 2 months later, met over 4 guys, who just wanted to get into my pants AGAIN!, there was that guy who was like i wanna have sex with you, and i was like "why" and he was like...so i get to know you better.......come on! can't you even try a little harder!

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  • 17-24_m_w_h2_f3
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    Oh trust me, i know the feeling. I've been to the gay scene and gay bars here in alexandria egypt.. well where most of them gays hang about... being a foreigner with a mixed blood and ability to speaks many languages save me from harassment though a lot of hands keep creeping to my back..

    anyway, egyptians.. well they are not that into nerds and geeks that is for obvious.. the muscle bounded bodies, is either cant speak english that well or if can quite vain and only searching their kinds (what a slytherin)

    while the left overs behind are them sissies, money boys, and i- am- horny 24 hours type of guys.. maybe you need to swim in the river of this absurdness for a while.. i find.. no found mine...ages ago.. though some of them are able to put on mask and stab you behind your back when the time is right.. but i got into 6 relationships since i was 17... and 5 of them are egyptians... so yeah it will come when time is right..
    you just need to hope and try to find it yourself...

    "a heart need to be broken, for it to learn true love"

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    mike i got one thing to say....damn man you can talk! lol.....i agree with you.. when you meet someone they be like....can i see your body?! and all got types , people be like "are you a twink" ........are you looking for a relationship or doing a porn movie...for god's sake!

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      tell him... do i look like i have a dick for nose... i'm here to know you not your ass or dick.. unless you're thinking with it then i will understand.

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      yeah...most of guys let their little head tell their big head what to do lol

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    Why on earth do you call yourself twisted? Ik, this is off topic but I'm just curious!

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  • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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    Well i agree with you , being gay doesn't mean to act in a girly way , as you said i'm a gay guy who loves other guys , as to the bf subject it's kinda hard to find someone who doesn't look for sex , to me love comes first and i would love to find a bf i can cook for (i'm not a great cook but hey i can try) and watch movies with and fall asleep while watching it and someday if it worked i'll get down on one knee and ask him to be husband and watch his face expression as he cries and say yes and may be adopt a little girl or boy and grow old together !!!
    OH GOD , I'm a hopeless romantic

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      As silly as it may seems but damn dude! THIS MADE ME TEAR UP =D!

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    • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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      Yes , i'm totally into romantic stuff !!! especially watching romantic movies , you know my heart breaks and i cry every time i watch " P.S. I Love you" no matter how many time i watch it!!!
      OH gerard butler's sexy irish accent * SIGH *
      And Jeffrey Dean Morgan's butt , LOL ( sorry i had to add that )

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    • i wish i can see that movie , i like "Twilight" it's amazing

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  • Here in morocco I m like you I m romantic I m a geek Yes but in a cool way I never had a boyfriend this I just go between chits and listen to romantic break up songs feeling hopeless and A thought in my head " HOW CAN4T i FIND SOME ONE LIKE ME dissent and care about love "

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  • Here in morocco I m like you I m romantic I m a geek Yes but in a cool way I never had a boyfriend this I just go between chits and listen to romantic break up songs feeling hopeless and A thought in my head " HOW CAN4T i FIND SOME ONE LIKE ME dissent and care about love "

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      awwwh dnt worry u will!! in sha Allah one day . I just hope break up dsnt happen. not a happy place t o be in

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  • i know the feeling a decent guy i even forgot what Decent mean they are always talking about the type and about sex and some homosexuals just act like girls i really feel so bad for being gay and can't find my soul-mate i wish that one someone normal come ...

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  • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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    Finiding a boyfrined is hard. But you need to be very forgiving and fight for your relatioship. Be empathetic and patient. Might work out , If he stays no matter what he is for you. if he does ahhh dats hard bcs if u fall in love God it can be hard during a breakup ....just hope to God ur bf is very forgiving.

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  • Hey, well I guess the answer is not that complicated : First you have many gays in Egypt who don't identify as such, being ''really'' gay for many Egyptians is being effeminate and in most cases being the bottom (the one who gets penetrated)... otherwise you're just having fun, discovering, you name it! It's common you cross straight guys who just wanna have sex with males because they can't find a real vagina if I may say! So that first type is just a hopeless case and I recommend you avoid it completely, coz they're only looking for sex and that's the end of the story!
    On the other hand, you have people (like us) who identify completely as gay both when it comes to sexual relations, emotions, couple relationship etc. But we can't ignore that due to the ultra-conservative atmosphere we're living in, you have an internalized homophobia, and even if you're 100% okay with who you are, the idea of building a relationship with a male is intimidating, plus you don't have any role model to look up to! So this type of guys are mostly confused about what they want and what they need, very hesitant because it's a new sensation and he has to figure it out by himself while hiding from the others!
    Plus, due to the crackdown we're witnessing in Egypt on homosexuals (for political reasons actually more than anything else) we're all suspicious and we're living in constant fear from the outside world (heterosexuals) but also from guys like us! You cannot get close from someone and have a relation in the shadows knowing that anytime, anywhere and anyhow you could be outed by him or by accident! The problem is that you meet people online and you know nothing about their past or who they are, so it's extremely difficult to identify who's trustworthy and who's not (specially that most of the time people tell lies just to get laid or by fear!

    I don't wanna sound pessimistic, but I really can't see myself having a boyfriend and a secure healthy relationship in Egypt, specially nowadays! I can't stand the living in the shadows and hiding, feeling of fear and suspicion of everything!

    PS : Elvis is the answer :P
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBmAPYkPeYU

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