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if you had the choice.. Gay OR Straight !!

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if you was Bisexual, what would you choose? would you ignore how you feel for the same sex and thank god that you can be attracted by the opposite sex too!!
i mean its defnitely easier.. to fall in love.. get married.. have kids.. be accepted from everyone... please your family!! ( its not that you gonna be miserable, you can be pretty happ)..
so tell me guys, Does that means that the person is weak and fake or he just chose a part of him than the other!

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    Well, I'd love to be rebirth as a straight guy for the sake of trying .. May be I was put in this earth as a gay guy because my straight version would be an epic fail.. I don't know, but I'd love to see me as a straight guy and see how's my life will look like, then come back gay even if my life as a straightie was awesome. I'm originally gay so I want to be gay again, being authentic is better than an easy life.

    Weak and fake ? who exactly are you referring to ? the bisexuals ? if so .. Here's what I've to say. Bisexuals aren't weak, fake or greedy. They love both sides and what pleases me more when I see a bisexual lady or a bisexual fella choose the same sex over the opposite sex not because "oh you slept with the same sex, stick with it" because the heart tells you this same sex lover is the one for you.

    I should point out also, that many straighties get married by force especially in our Arabian countries and this causes a lot of cheating divorcing, giving birth to children who may grow up in broken homes. Straight or gay .. Both of them have black and white.

    As usual, I may not made my self clear, but hope I helped. lol

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    ahh sweet!
    and no i didnt mean bisexuals, simply because i am one who happens to be so in love with a girl right now that i wish to spend the rest of my life with..
    i meant would choosing having a normal life means weakness. because the few people around me expecting that from me like its what would anyone do if they had a choice, while i think its kinda low "like i should consider guys more after 2 years because itsgoing to be good time to get married".. i know its not that horrible of a thing because i can simply love a guy and it will be natural to marry him but if i believe in the idea of the timing makes me "ughh i hate to be that fake"... Am i just being ungrateful here !!

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      Oh this is a tricky one .. You can fall in love with girl and you can marry a guy since YOU CAN, but don't start each one of them because you're just excited about it. You get me ?

      Also sweetie, a normal life is what you choose not following the traditions. Your life, your problems, your decision.

      And I don't see "fake" or "ungratefulness" here since you've obviously choices to make in the near future.

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      yeahh i understand!! thanks ^.^

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    • 25-34_f_w_h2_f1
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      That's a tough question honestly! I say follow your heart..

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    Well, bisexuals are ambitious curious people. They never leave a chance! Economical. :-)

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f3
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    hmmm, should i count this as an insult or a compliment !!

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    I hate bisexuals =/!

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      That is kind of hypocritical of you to say. You want to accepted yet you hate bisexuals? Why would hate a bisexual based on who he/she chooses to love or sleep with? Just as why would society hate you for who you choose to love?

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      I just hate their preference dude, They are confused. EXTREMELY.

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      I don't want to discriminate either but I get a bit angry with bisexuals because I've been hurt by them a lot, all the time they would leave for the opposite gender and then go back and fourth and we are stuck in the middle and it hurts.

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    • key word YOU have been hurt - therefor you dislike them...

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    Being a homosexual is a gift, Our society is just fucked up.

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    Straight, I wanna make beautiful babies. lol.

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      you can still make beautiful babies as a straight guy ;) in the nontraditional sense but still.

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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      Tayeb, uhm.. I'll pass on that comment LOL.

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f3
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      I think he means as a gay person, there are many artificial ways to have a baby of your own.

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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      i don't think adopting as a single parent in legal here, is it?!

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f3
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      No adopting in general is forbidden in islam, & what's forbidden in islam is forbidden in our countries. :) it's one of many reasons I lost faith.

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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      o.O you can't adopt?! da hell you people do with the orphans, feed em to the lions?!

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      kafel el yateem means to support an orphan not ADOPT him, it means he cannot live under the same roof as you and cant have your name, reasons I heard:

      - If its a boy he can sexually harass the wife, if its a girl the husband can sexually harass her! (I heard it on tv a couple of times)

      - Injustice to your biological sons/daughters when it comes to inheritance, like why would an adopted child inherit the same as everyone else, even if I wish he does?! This is madness!! He's just a maggot who lost his parents, he should suffer his whole life!

      Basically they're just following what the islamic learnings told them even if it might sound absurd, I want to say more but I'm afraid I might offend people.

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    ...humans are humans.......i know parents that adopt orphans and treat them as their own, and they grow up just fine...this is crazy

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    yea but uhm, I don't want 'artificial' ways, the only reason I want it, is to have a kid of MY own, my genes, to take over me and everything, that's it.

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    over as in my money and in my stuff later on, that's not allowed in Islam to give your stuff to an adopted child.. and I'd feel bad having a kid who doesn't feel comfortable most of the time, and then even after I love him all my life I wouldn't give him my money? no, just.. no lol.

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    at the states when you adopt someone, you adopt them when they are born, so they grow up as your own.

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      im scared of adoption my friend is adopted and he disrespects his parents he says things like "ur not my real family why do you care" and doesnt do what they say. some kids are grateful but others just keep lucking for their real parents.

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    OK SERIOUSLY!!!!! Get your views on adopted well.Supporting an orphan child is a MASSIVE good thing in Islam. But the thing is adopted children is not your flesh and blood and are marriageable to you. So if you adopt a child then after his/her puberty one needs to maintains modesty. But, although not explicitly dealt in the quran, especially women you can probably adopt any child from childhood if you breastfeed the baby, then yes the baby in way is yours, no need of maintaining modesty and shit. I do get the whole "you are like my child and all" but this is the truth I feel gay couples can choose to adopt girls, as you dont desire women and you can see them as your own daughter and all. And same goes for lesbian couple, but obviously God loves women, and the advantage to me is that you can actually call your adopted son or daughter as that like you own biological daughter, except you need to inform them about their biological identity.

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      Ah well this is my view and I am not really sure if I broken any principal or anything.

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    • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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      Of the last part afte, "the advantage...." refers to women.

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    • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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      Manson, tell me about it. I am not really sure if I am bisexual I am not really disgusted by women and I probably have fetishes on womens genital which usually develops from watching porn. The thing is I have never really slept with women and I had OCD about being straight. But I am still cant comfortable call myself bi. This very sad for me as my idenity..which I slowly found out seems to be in geopardy now. I am more attraction to men, And I prefer to be gay or straight. May be I am just gay and my OCD makes things worse. Hence I really want to find my identity. What the hell I already know i like dudes better...whats wrong with me? Oh wait!....psssss

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  • 17-24_m_w_h4_f1
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    in my case i cant choose i will live and die bisexual ! i hate this i cant stop my self loving women and i become attracted to them ! and also i love being wanted from men and a strong arms holding me !

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  • Weird to read this. As a homosexual WITH a child all I can think is that some of you don't need to worry about the outside world being mean and homophobic. You take care of that yourself...

    I have two muslim friends who adopted (a male friend that used a surrugat mother for him and his husband) and a lesbian friend that legaly adopted the child her wife gave birth to.

    Every sientific report says that children to homosexual parents don't have the slightest problems in their life as long as their parents are OPEN AND PROUD. (That thing I read about someone having seen something on TV
    " If its a boy he can sexually harass the wife, if its a girl the husband can sexually harass her! (I heard it on tv a couple of times)"
    is the most obvious case of propaganda I've ever heard of. Russian style almost.
    Do people really fall for that!?!?

    I realise thats not always possible, to be open, it depends where in the world you live.
    But please note - what makes it hard for children is not homosexual parents, its a homophobic surounding.

    With love and respect //Em

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f1
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    I would choose to be gay cause the sex is just great Lol Kidding I wouldnt like a guy ever Even if i wanted to so why try

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f1
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    I would choose to be a lesbian of course, I am proud of who I am and what I was born to become.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f4
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    I AM bisexual and I just can't choose you know it just comes to us without thinking about gender. I would never choose, or I'd just choose who I'm in love with no matter what.

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  • if i had a choice i would defenitely be straight , so that i could get over this sadness, loneliness and frustration i am living every day

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  • well im gonna just be myself and whatever i feel comfortable with,at the end of the day it's me facing my decision and what's gonna make me happy right?

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