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  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f2
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    It's definitely possible, but it will be more challenging because you would be "competing" with two different genders. If a woman you start dating generally considers males to be more attractive there won't be anything you can do to change that, and the risk is that she leaves you for a man, or cheats on you with a man. It is not what happens always, depending on how much she loves you, but it is a likely scenario based on my friends who started dating heterosexuals and were almost always dumped for a man instead. It starts out great but once the relationship starts fizzling a male is usually the one who comes next in the picture, and it will be hard to get her attention back after that.

    To summarize, it is possible. Love doesn't have these kinds of limits. But it is definitely risky.

    Are you thinking about it?

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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    I understand Reem's comment on certain heterosexuals, I know where that's coming from because I hear it's very common but yes, it really depends on a person's true feelings. It doesn't always turn out that bad.

    I think we should really consider the several misconceptions about heterosexuals and bisexuals, especially bisexuals. Just because they're more inclined to be in a relationship with either sex, doesn't mean they're going to be constantly going back and forth but at the same time, they're not in total disagreement with that idea. I think it's true that most bisexuals would lean more towards a specific sex depending on their level of attraction towards them because they might be more partial to a gay relationship or a straight one.. Again, all depends on the individual.

    So yeah, it does make sense and is possible. Absolutely. You just need to try and look out for the right person who would have mutual feelings.

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  • 17-24_f_a_h3_f1
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    I happen to be in a relationship with a girl who identifies as straight and I agree that it is possible but there are so many people who doubt the success of our relationship. People always tell me that there is a chance that she would leave me for or even cheat on me with a guy and my response to that is if I’m with lesbian there’s that same chance that she would leave me for or cheat on me with a girl and in both cases I would be distraught. Sometimes I feel that I would be more is distraught if she was to leave me for a girl than a guy but then again pain is pain why measure the degree to which it is felt.

    And yes Awktopus, it all depends on the individual. I have run into heterosexuals who are experimenting or having fun and that’s okay in my eyes as long as that person is explicit with their intentions. Also, some may not be because they don’t know their intentions themselves. And yes, there are bisexuals who have a slight preference for either or and then there are some who claim to have none at all. I don’t understand why people both gay and straight give bisexuals such a hard time. Like why is it so hard to understand that they are attracted to both sexes? Why are they considered selfish? I’m starting to run off onto a totally different topic but yeah I agree with you guys and believe it is possible to be gay and date a straight person.

    I feel that if my partner is going to leave me (hopefully not cheat on me) it’s not for a guy (or a girl) but for the simple (or complicated) fact that our relationship is not working for her. I guess I will contradict everything I just said to say that it can be true that our relationship did not work for her because I am a girl (but I am confident that this is not the case.) If it was, I would have no regrets because I had a great relationship and the relationship worked in the moment. I have an understanding that things, great or not so great, tend to come to an end at some point in time may that be early or late.

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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    dont listen to them if you are in love with her & shes in love with you focus on the relationship dont let jealousy or doubts distract you from the joys of being with the person you love. if it doesnt work out then maybe its a clash of personalities & not an issue with sexuality. if she didnt feel the same about you she wouldnt be with you right now would she? trust her. relationship is worth little without trust.

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  • 17-24_f_a_h3_f1
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    trust is key and could be difficult. i most definitely agree with you on how important trust is! i do trust her. and i hear the doubts but try my hardest not to listen to them. it was a struggle at first but i feel more at ease through her reassurance and being more confident within myself.

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