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Have any lesbians on here came out to anyone besides yourself?

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I have no sexual orientation, but I am leaning more towards women, sexually, that is. Many stories on here of coming out are from the gay members of Ahwaa.

As women, I understand that it may be harder to come out, because of the overall extreme sexism towards women. I am just wondering if anyone did admit they are a lesbian to anyone? If so, I'd like to hear your stories.

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  • 35-50_f_w_h3_f4
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    But does Ahwaa count as coming out? Because the people here are anonymous and even though we can talk about our issues it's still somewhat of a secret since no one on here knows exactly who we are.

    I love that we can be honest with ourselves and with others on here without worrying about anyone judging or punishing us.

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  • 17-24_f_b_h1_f2
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    i am out to everyone in my life including family. i dont have any friends, coworkers or relatives that dont know about it.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    I'm out to a few friends and my sister. My biggest deal was coming out to my sister and I cover it here; http://ahwaa.org/topics/122 and I came out to a childhood friend, which I mentioned here: http://ahwaa.org/topics/233

    Sorry I gave you links to see. Stories are too long! I hope you don't mind.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f1
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    umm I'm out to a lot of my friends (open minded) ones. I'm bisexual though, not scared tho to tell anyone, not quiet sure I can handle certain kind of debits (like im diseased).

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  • I came out to my best friend recently and she rejected me telling me that i'm an animal i've to go to a psychology that what i'm doing whas wrong... At that moment, i knew that she wasn't a friend anymore because if she really was my friend she wouldn't care with who i've relationship what does matter is being loved by someone who loves us as we are.

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  • Thank you very much Edel for your sweet words :) we're all beautiful and strong. One day we'll get what we want our rights :)

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  • 25-34_f_b_h1_f1
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    I am out to many of my friends, still trying with my family.

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  • 12-16_f_f_h1_f2
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    will i am not gay i am bi and i tried to come out to one of my friends in my home town and i prepared a speech and everything and i kept encouraging my self that she would be okay with it and stuff so when i got to her house and finally looked her in eyes and the words just wouldn't come out it was like they were stuck in my throat and as hard as i tried i came off wired and just dysfunctional and i think she sensed where i was going with it and changed the subject into a different direction and we ended up talking about what SHE thinks about LGBT ppl and she wasn't so nice either and she ended giving me the numbers of a bunch of guys that she thought were hot and would totally fit with me of course i left the house tears in my eyes throw the guys is number in the trash and cried my self to sleep in that moment i promised my self to never ever come out to anyone EVER i think something broke in me that night knowing that i will probably never come out to my family
    but a few months later i met this amazing girl who was online and i ended up coming out to her and she encouraged me to be more who i am then what ppl think of me and i am trying but its hard after all these of building up walls and staying behind them
    so i guess what i am trying to say is when u come out to someone u need to be sure that they are caring enough to accept u for who u r and not what they want u to be

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  • 25-34_f_w_h1_f4
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    Well, I only came out to one friend, she's so open minded, even when I told her that I am lesbian she wasn't shocked, she was like " Wow, that explains a lot ! " So when I asked what she means, she said that she expected that cuz I never dated a guy, and that is pretty strange for someone in my age.

    Anyway, about coming out to the family, nope, I didn't, and I would never be able to. Sad truth it is. They just won't accept me, and I can already imagine the reaction of my mom, she's open minded tho, she won't kill me, but she'll force me to see a psychiatrist ! And keep talking me to get back to sanity, and to be close to God and all these stuff.

    Other than that, my friends are not so open minded, I am actually trying more to get involved with people who can be more accepting, people I can be myself around without fearing of being judged, or at least without feeling like a total alien.

    One of the reasons I am planning to leave my country is this actually, I wanna be around people who wouldn't care who I am spending the nights with. People who care about me cuz I am me, not because I am labeled with this stupid label.

    And yeah, it hurts when you are happy or hurt or need an advice, and you can't talk to the people who matters.

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  • I came out to 3 or 4 .. no its 34

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  • I did come out to 3 of my very close male friends and they were all fine with it for years now. And to my online gaming gang but coming out to those wasn't a big deal anyways was more like identifying

    I believe that the key to coming out in general whether you're a gay or a lesbian or even bi. is choosing the right time (clear the way first for your news and don't make it a "surprise" statement) and the right people to tell, people that you know are not against the conception of homosexuality on their own. There's no need for you to find that 1 friend of yours that has mentioned more than once in front of you that he/she not very tolerant of homosexuality, and tell him/her that you're a homosexual then get disappointed and upset at their not very welcoming reaction afterwards.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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    I haven't come out to anyone yet fml it must feel amazing to but I have no friends who are that close. I'm pansexual so I'm in no pressure to come out to anyone just me myself and I, it would be too hard to explain for them what pansexuality is anyway!!

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    Same here. Sadly I don't have that many open-minded friends. I had a dream recently where I was outed to everyone. I was scared about how everyone was going to treat me and about all the people I was going to lose, but then I felt really free. I suppose it's how it would be if we ever did come out.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    I'm sorry you had to go through that. Animals are more accepting than her. There is no excuse for her behavior, but now you know. You'll find better people who will be wonderful and admirable, they'll have open hearts and open minds and will accept you with open arms, so don't worry, keep smiling and chin up! You are wonderful.

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