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  • 25-34_m_w_h4_f4
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    My only memorable experiences were the homophobic reactions I got from my immediate and extended families after I finally came out a few years ago. It was expected but I was still disappointed to see them place illogical values ahead of the health and happiness of their own family member, continuously treating me like a criminal until several siblings came to their senses and showed their acceptance and support of my identity.

    I consider these experiences to be memorable because I no longer care about the general homophobia that surrounds us here which I have to block for my own sanity. It's not that I tolerate it, I just do not allow it to influence me the way it used to in my younger years. But homophobic families are hurtful. I was lucky that I at least had some siblings to support me after a while, but my parents and other family members still mistreat me after having come out.

    • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
      Experience

      I agree with what you said regarding no longer caring about the general homophobia. It's more upsetting for me when these homophobic comments are coming from family members and friends.

      Here's a topic I started about a homophobic experience I had with a couple of friends: http://ahwaa.org/topics/28

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    I haven't come out to anyone besides a friend till now. My siblings are not homophobic at all and I hope that they will be all right with me when I come out to them. However, recently I fully realized how homophobic my mother is and I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that my mother can hate like that.

    I know that there will be a point in my life when my mother will start asking questions and I also know that that will be when I'll move out. It is very unconventional in my society for a woman to live alone so I hope I live somewhere far far away. If anything, I know how to plan for the future now.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f2
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    It seems we all have a few things in common which is homophobic family members. I can't imagine what will happen if my parents find out, the thought alone cripples me with fear. Any homophobic experience I have has resulted in more fear and anger. Sometimes this anger would be at myself, for being the way I am, especially when I was younger and shared the widespread intolerance on this subject. Now that I accept and embrace my identity, the anger was redirected to what societies are taught and the kind of hatred people are fed in the name of religion or tradition.

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  • 25-34_m_b_h1_f1
    Experience

    My experience with homophobia usually is a result of me confronting others with it. A general observation I can make is that save for a very tiny group of people, everyone else seem to look at homosexuality as something negative even if they are on the positive side of the gay/lesbian issues.

    Recently I was at an educational conference targeting gays and lesbians of a specific ethnic group. A lot of people were there, but the majority of them weren’t there to support the event. They were there to look at gays and lesbians from their community because they couldn’t believe that homosexuality exist within their ethnic group. I just couldn’t believe it, here you have people fighting for their rights, and the people within their own community don’t even accept the fact that they exist. Let’s just say that I walked out of the conference so that I could suppress the violent rage that was filling inside me.

    • 17-24_f_w_h1_f1
      Experience

      That's disturbing. It's always hypocritical for people to claim to fight for equality, justice and human rights and yet when it is something they don't value or a group of people that they disagree with, they turn into oppressors themselves. It's painful to watch but such experiences hardly shock me anymore.

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    • Would you mind giving us information on whether you'd like your name to be listed in the post about homophobia (and if yes, would you please give me your name) and if no then well go as 'anonymous' or by a nickname of your choice.

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    • 17-24_f_w_h1_f1
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      Yes, you can use my first name.

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  • 17-24_f_b_h2_f4
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    I grew up believing homosexuality is so wrong that I convinced myself that there was no way I could be a homosexual myself. Now that I know otherwise, homophobic remarks made by friends and family, that I would have otherwise ignored or joined in, feel horrible on an entirely new level. Their remarks affect my perception of their personalities. Many are not so nice and sweet any more, not if they can hate like that.

    • Would you mind giving us information on whether you'd like your name to be listed in the post about homophobia (and if yes, would you please give me your name) and if no then well go as 'anonymous' or by a nickname of your choice.

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    • 17-24_f_b_h2_f4
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      No, I wouldn't mind being listed but I'd prefer my nickname lmirna to be used.

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  • Would you mind giving us information on whether you'd like your name to be listed in the post about homophobia (and if yes, would you please give me your name) and if no then well go as 'anonymous' or by a nickname of your choice.

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  • 25-34_m_b_h1_f1
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    Lalith Muthali is my name first and last.

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