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Please share your experiences of being a part of the LGBTQ+ in the country that you live in!

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Hey, I’ve been wondering lately how it’s like being a part of the LGBTQ+ community around the world. And by that I don’t only mean how supportive the laws, but how different societies react when we for example come out of the closet. I myself am a lesbian from Sweden and I would consider myself as being blessed with a lot of rights. I of course know that this isn’t the case everywhere around the world. This all leads up to the final question, how is it like being a part of LGBTQ+ community in your country or area? Is it different for gay men and lesbians or what rights do transgender people have?... Please share anything!

Ps. This might not be my place to be, but upon trying to find out on my own a stumbled upon this website and thought it seemed like a very good community.

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  • 25-34_f_b_h1_f1
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    Hello Melonbanana.!

    I am from the states and like you my society is pretty much open about LGBTQ+. However, coming from a very diverse background it hasn't been that easy ( I am a mutt, lol). On the Hispanic side you have machismo going on and a very strong religious presence so that side was threatening while growing up. Especially when you had relative saying about "corrective action" for gays and lesbians. That side of the family, it took years for them to learn, grow and accept the LGBTQ+.

    On the other hand, Polynesian culture leads a more open minded view of LGBTQ+ , its classified as a third gender and widely accepted . Māhū means in the middle, it is the third gender in Polynesian culture ( although different cultures say this word differently, in Hawaii its called Māhū) and often they hold spiritual roles because Māhū goes beyond the normal two genders and are unique. Māhū are considered special because of how they are (Well that's what I was taught). Interesing enough in south Mexico you have Muxe, which also a third gender classification and completely accepted. In pre Colombian cultures, before the Spanish conquistadors ruined pretty much everything, people born into the third gender also held great importance in societies. In Incan culture, jugar entities would be cross dressing priest but, consider that the word "cross dressing" wasn't even a thing back then, it is simply how they are. Some Incan communities who hold on to their roots still have these customs and are accepting of the third gender.

    Also depends on where you live, in conversative states like Alabama or Mississippi (part of the bible belt) yeah that's super conservative and they judge you. But on the Eastern coast and especially the Pacific coast states everyone is pretty much accepting there and tolerant.

    I currently work in Bahrain, to my experience so far a lot of people don't bother me for my preference but, I don't put it out there either. Although I have heard there are a lot of people here that are intolerant of our community. So, I just keep to myself.

    Sorry about the tibit history, growing up I did a lot of research of my culture because I was told this was wrong. But it isn't wrong at all, in my experience it is only conservative religion that dictates this. Which why some folks in that community are stuck in the dark ages mind of thinking and all they do is really breed hate without even trying to learn and understand. Upon research I discovered that My mixture of culture is super accepting of it because, its normal and we simply exist ( like every type of life in this universe) hence why many classify it as the third gender.

    And um Welcome to Ahwaa! Lol

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    I'm from the states and my friends were chill when I came out. But my mom is from china and was raised in a very traditional household, and she didn't know was bisexual was. and she still says to me "well i hope you marry a boy..." But at least she didn't disown me!

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    Sadly i'm from Egypt, and it's a curse to be different n anyway or form here, unfortunately i was born in a country that discriminates and distastes anyone who is from a minority.. so the only tool i use to be safe and don't bring shame to my family is to suppress my feelings and my true identity, it's a very high price that i pay daily and no one knows any thing about it or what i go through..

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    I'm a gay asian living in the Gulf for about 7 years. Before I came here, I heard about gay people being beheaded or imprisoned because of indecent acts. I also learned that some men would stalk you around if they like you. That case happened to me just two days after I arrived. I found out that our nationality were always thought to be gay specially if we're not donning a beard or mustache and looked so feminine. I was 22 back then so the experience of being stalked, winked, cat called were a sort of fun and scary at the same time. I have to admit that in the middle east, i got to experience almost all the sexual fantasies that I had seen on porn movies. Sadly though I also got a ton of bad experience and still does til now.
    It was gratifying for me to learn that my former boss was a bisexual. I got the chance to share my experience and listen to her advise and at the same time hear out her frustrations and secrets. Now that I learned about ahwaa, im hoping i could make friends here and be part of the community.

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  • Happened to be a part of a newly opened Laxurious hotel here in Bahrain and i happened to work with under a stud/butch manager and a gay guy and believe you me none of us ever said a word to each other all through my time there...

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