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Well I'm a young woman (23), I've had several bfs but recently the idea of kissing a girl has just been so consuming and I want to try it out.. so i guess I'd identify as Bi. The thing is that the community where I live is so uptight and people aren't really open about their preferences.. I've never been with a girl before as a result but there's always something about women's bodies that turn me on.. that's why I decided to give it a try maybe it's not just in my head.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f4
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    Same here!

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    That‘s how I came to realize I was in denial and left my first boyfriend. I must say I had my very first kiss with a girl at a very young age but I kept telling myself it meant nothing because I didn‘t even understand what it meant or what homosexuality was all about. I thought yeah she‘s my best friend so she kissed me on the lips like my mom used to do so I just dismissed the topic or at least tried to and started a relationship with my male best friend back then. I never felt the urge to kiss him though and so it sort of drove me crazy that all I could think of was kissing other women and that I only ever felt really attracted to women. So I think you can easily validate your feelings without even trying. For me sharing a real kiss with a woman after that was just some kind of reassurement and it felt incredibly good. Even in an uptight community one could easily find a way to kiss someone, I guess it‘s maintaining a relationship that‘s really hard when you‘re closeted and still living at home or within your community.
    I really really hope you figure your feelings out and then come to terms with your identity! Love is a beautiful thing for sure and it really doesn’t make a difference who you love.

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      I week ago I shared a kiss with a guy and I've felt absolutely nothing.. I haven't had a chance to kiss a girl yet though.. I think that currently I'm looking for friendship more than a relationship. I don't have any close friends (that are girls) and I thought maybe if I find someone who could be my friend, and she's more sure than I am about her sexual orientation maybe that would sort things out for me a bit .. thank you for sharing your thoughts ♥️

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    • I‘m totally sure so if you have any questions or I can be of any help in any way, let me know, I‘m only into women
      It‘s all very confusing at first, I know that. But hang in there and give yourself a chance to experience everything and let your identity grow!

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      I messaged you

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    That‘s how I came to realize I was in denial and left my first boyfriend. I must say I had my very first kiss with a girl at a very young age but I kept telling myself it meant nothing because I didn‘t even understand what it meant or what homosexuality was all about. I thought yeah she‘s my best friend so she kissed me on the lips like my mom used to do so I just dismissed the topic or at least tried to and started a relationship with my male best friend back then. I never felt the urge to kiss him though and so it sort of drove me crazy that all I could think of was kissing other women and that I only ever felt really attracted to women. So I think you can easily validate your feelings without even trying. For me sharing a real kiss with a woman after that was just some kind of reassurement and it felt incredibly good. Even in an uptight community one could easily find a way to kiss someone, I guess it‘s maintaining a relationship that‘s really hard when you‘re closeted and still living at home or within your community.
    I really really hope you figure your feelings out and then come to terms with your identity! Love is a beautiful thing for sure and it really doesn’t make a difference who you love.

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    I don't think it is that easy or quick or simple to identify yourself as bi just because you have a fanatasy of kissing a girl. Some even say that sexuality especially for women is very fluid and that you don't really need to occupy yourself by finding a label for your feelings. I'd say don't rush trying to find a label for yourself and i don't really think you will know unless u try it and see how you felt about it.

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      Thank you for your comment, it's not anything near easy to identify myself as anything.. I'm confused and that's why I've written this post I do want to try it's just that I haven't got my chance yet.

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    You can contact me

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    True that. The key giveaway though is when you find sexual and an emotional attraction towards a sex.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h1_f3
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    You know when something is supposed to be so simple and obvious yet it is only made so when being said or stated. This is exactly how i feel about your above statement

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    This was really helpful edel thanks

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f2
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    I honestly think it can sometimes be this easy. I don‘t know why there‘s such a huge difference betwee homo- and heterosexuality in our world. I mean I never heard of a heterosexual coming out to him- or herself. No one questions that. They are born into this world and at some point they feel attracted towards the other sex and then they may or may not have an emotional attachment to someone that sparks into a relationship and so on. Merely kissing another woman doens‘t mean anything at all, that‘s for sure and I also agree with you on the fact that labels really make this world much more difficult than it already is. I totally second that. But I guess we‘re all just so focused on those labels because we are somehow all born into this fucked up world where we sort of don‘t automatically have a place without a label. So I think that at the age she stated in her experience thinking so hard about kissing a woman while you‘re in a relationship with a man definitely validates that there‘s something going on. Maybe it is about sexual orientation or it‘s merely sexual curiousity, but it somehow seems more like exploartion to me. And I believe that more often than not exploring a certain aspect means your identity is shaping.
    But hey I‘m just as clueless. That‘s just how I feel about the issue. Everyone is different after all

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    You just summed up everything for me by saying "your identity is shaping" ♥️

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