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hello people. it looks like all of you know where to find bi or lesbian girls to talk with in person. how do u do it? i mean do u sense it ? if they are bi or lesbian?
i’m being serious here i really need to speak to someone. and did anybody try talking a psychological doctor or something about this thoughts . i’m literally losing my mind because of this . .

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  • 25-34_f_f_h3_f3
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    A lot of people here struggle to find others like them in real life. I hope you can get advice on how to find that community soon, but in the mean time hang in there! I'm sure there are many here who can help you talk about what you're going through in the forums.

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  • The major problem here when it comes to meeting is fear of getting found out by other's but the question is how is anyone ever going to live their lives if they are in constant fear of someone else knowing that they are gay/ lesbian as if it's a bad thing..#free yourself andtake the risks

    • i honestly asked one of my open minded friend if she knows a place to meet up but she said it’s not that easy .

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    • If we plan to meet with the mentality of"I'm meeting my gay Friends" believe you me it can't happen.... Take it like you are meeting some of your other friends and see you won't even feel out of options of places to meet...we need to get out of the gay skin otherwise we shall always be out of options

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    Some times I feel most of accounts here are fake and belong to some idiot boys who claim they are lesbians or bisexuals

    • believe me it’s not a feeling

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    • 17-24_f_a_h1_f4
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      Most of them might not be fake but you should realize, what your scared of the other person at the other end is scared of that same thing, thereby making the conversation wired n too thoughtful, where as it was to be fun, interesting n free.

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    • 25-34_f_b_h1_f1
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      I agree with Hon. Its a safety issue when it comes down to it. It's a defensive mechanism to find out if the person on the other side is legitimate or not. Its understandable why some people behave cautiously online. Too many times there have been fake profiles for the intention of just being annoying and disrespectful. I tend to interrogate people online passively to find out their true intent, sometimes they are real people and sometimes they are fakers.

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  • You are right about that and it's annoying

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  • What’s wrong with meeting her/him outside anywhere like at any cafe or a pub ?? What do you mean with that fear ? I don’t mind meeting any if i dont like the person i’d run away

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  • I really don’t understand it when u say fake people like how can they be fake

    • 25-34_f_b_h1_f1
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      So I hope my experience can answer some of your questions:

      So meeting people at the pub, cafe or any public location is completely cool and safe. No issues there, just meeting someone online in a private area is not safe. I know that you do not mean harm to the other person but we don't know what the intention of the other individual really is. When I meet people online, i always ask them to meet me in cafe or public places, multiple times until I know them pretty well and I make sure my friends know them too. Sometimes, the person will back out of meeting you because it is in a public location and not private (this has happened to me). That is a red flag for me.

      I have a friend, he was meeting a guy through a dating app outside of a McDonald's parking lot very late evening ( My friend wasn't entirely thinking but he was in love with the guy online). I am glad he told us where, when and who he was meeting the day before. We knew about the guy he was seeing online but based on his conversation with him, something didn't add up. When he went to go meet the guy, a group of us followed him to McDonald. Sure enough, the Online guy wasn't alone in the parking lot, he had buddies and his intentions were not for dating. Stupidly enough, he was at a McDonald that has security cameras with audio and we were there. In my group, I have two Law enforcement officers friends. So long sorry short the guys were arrested for potential hate crime.

      Point is, meet them in an environment you feel safe at, is crowded and that you can get away for help or anything else if need be. Fakers are sick in the head, they will go through great lengths to do this sort of things. But doesn't apply to the LGBT community, it really applies to anyone meeting or dating someone online. Its just a safety measure.

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    • Wow .. that thought never crossed my mind you are right ancels glad that tu es mi amiga

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