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Gaydar, how good is yours?

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I think we as gay people we have a gaydar by default, but every one of us has a different one. some have a very good one and some have a shitty one.

I don't know which one I have, but 70% of the time I get it right, although I wish to have an accurate one, it will make everything way much easier.
Like if I knew that the person I like is 100% gay, I would just go for it, but like what if they are straight and homophobic....

How do you guys know if someone is gay or not (without asking someone)? what are the signs you look for?

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  • 25-34_f_f_h3_f3
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    I think 70% is a pretty decent rate! I usually just try to read someone's interactions with me-- I'm usually good at telling when someone is flirting, and even if they're not I feel like queer people use subtle signals to both get a feeling for someone and project their queerness to each other. I try to keep on the look-out for those, but even as I try to think of them now I don't know if I can name anything specific lol. A certain kind of knowing eye contact, a way someone smiles, that sort of thing.

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      In my experience, smiling and eye contact dont really work for me. It happens to me a lot and then it turns out it was happening without a reason and they are straight

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    My gaydar is okay at best. I catch on to the really obvious ones but sometimes I can also read between the lines. For example, if someone’s using they/their pronouns, that’s a definite give away XD

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f1
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    It sounds like you do have a pretty good one,

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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    my side of the story, people's gaydars are broken. I am always mistaken as gay. (I am here to know more about LGBT)

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    Though i am new to all this but i think i have a good gaydar and it usually just depends on good prolonged observation. How she dresses, how she talks, how she acts, what she thinks about men, her comments about other women and hiw they look stuff like that

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  • I wish there was a way to improve the accuracy of our gaydars. I honestly can never tell if anyone's gay. Probably because in such homophobic country like Saudi, it's very frowned upon to act a certain way, which makes it hard to tell.

    I'd say the guys who are usually the most homophobic are probably gay themselves, you know how it goes.

    Funny enough, I have a group of friends who aren't homophobic and sometimes "act" like the stereotypical gay guys, jokingly or not, I cannot tell. If I had to guess, most of them are either bi or closeted/in denial gays.

    For instance, one friend from the same friend group is sending strong gay signals. I remember once I brought up a story of how wrong it is that people are homophobic and, while he wholeheartedly agreed, he seemed reluctant and unsure of how he should answer, as if he was trying to avoid slipping up and saying something he shouldn't. I wanted his genuine opinion...and maybe test the waters a bit (guilty, I know lol)

    Beside these encounters...I'd say my gaydar is horrible.....oh well

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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    agreed about closeted homophobes often being gay and refusing to accept it. it's very hard to tell. most of the people around me are still trying to connect me with women to date. i don't comfortable sharing this aspect with others openly because people start talking and it's none of their business anyways but it would be nice to have more people to relate to.

    i don't think many people's gaydars can be totally accurate because of the amount of gay people who can't identify as such at all. or who won't ever admit it when we ask.

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  • 25-34_m_b_h1_f3
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    I think may gaydar works 90% for non-Middle Eastern men. Arabs are very difficult to crack but a simple gesture would definitely give me that instinct.

    I had a former colleague at work, he was like an epitome of a Greek God. he always wear a crisp and body hugging thobe and brings a small purse to work. I never saw him without his purse wherever he go. His face was so clean, trimmed mustache and styled beard. He never wore a shemagh or ghutra, he's always styled his hair. Some of my gay colleagues were drooling about him and some of the arab girls were too. One day, i stayed late at work and when I was on my way out I decided to refresh first and so I went to the men's toilet. Just as I opened the door, he was pouring a bath and body shop sanitizer to his hands. he just smiled and moved to the corner. I smiled back at him and acted like he's not in the room. I pretended I'm busy, washed my hands and my face. out of the corner of my eye I saw him using some kind of lipgloss. That made me think hmmm whether he's just being metrosexual or gay...

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  • 25-34_f_b_h1_f1
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    I catch onto that too when people speak. I use they/their pronouns by default. I guess that is the reason why people question me all the time lol.

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