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is age an issue ?

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i don't know where to start this but here's the deal, i just turned 27 and i am a teacher among other things, there's this girl who was also a trainee of mine that i felt attracted to, not physically though but i got all curious about her, and hey she's 20!
anyways i took my courage and texted her over facebook with a fake account, just wanted to know her honestly, then she asked about my age and was like wooowthen somehow she wanted to joke and called me a sugar mummy which i obviously didn"t appreciate at all althoughtshe apologized. we only talked for a week or so daily ( she doen't know who i am ) then she disappeared and stopped answering my texts, i feel bad i feel like i might have done a mistake by talking to her so technically i don't know what to do ! disappear too ? and just forget about it ? but i somehow feel like i shouldn't ugh completely lost, HELP.

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  • It seems like you are catfishing her if it's with a fake account, if you really want to get to know her you should befriend her as your actual self or else she will be very upset with you if she finds out you were behind the fake account. Maybe she found out it's you and that's the reason she stopped texting? If so you should reach out and apologize, and say that you just wanted to get to know her.

    Without this honesty, the fake usernames and stuff could destroy any potential relationship between you two. 7 year age gap isn't bad at all when you're both adults but 20 year olds don't usually come with a lot of experience so expect a lot of issues and confusion in your relationship if it goes forward, and don't move too fast.

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    Well I'm 25 and I only get attracted to ladies in their 40's and not younger...well if someone also approached me with a pseudo account I would cut off communication completely.

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  • Age is only a number, they say.
    But in this case, I'd be more cautious bc u'll be risking ur job and reputation over this girl. Is it worth it?

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    i m sure its just number love not account by numbers

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    be very cautious because of the profession you're in.
    May be you can approach her and try to get on the 'friends train' first and invite to hang out and see how she reacts on the occasions, take it slow from there or drop it completely if she doesn't oblige to hints.. weigh your risks as ur career might be on stake.

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