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Am I really a lesbian?

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I have always been straight but around the age of 16, I started falling in love with my best friend who was a girl. she had a boyfriend so of course I never even talked about liking her. but we used to hold hands sometimes and just fool around but of course not in sexual way. we would hug and say we love each other as friends or sisters. but then, I started to develop feelings for her. And I used to imagine how wonderful it would be to kiss her. unfortunately, our friendship ended and i sometimes wonder if she felt I liked her and ended it because of that. The fact that I liked this girl made me question if I was really straight. another thing is that I find some women very attractive to the point that I want to flirt with them and I get turned on by them too. the other problem is I'm a Christian and so being a lesbian is completely wrong in my religion. also I want to marry a man in the future. I guess I want to love a woman but marry a man to just live a normal life and stay the "good girl" I am. What do you think I should do? How do I deal with my confusion? .

  • 25-34_f_f_h3_f3

    It's pretty common to experience a shift in attraction around the time you "come of age". I have found it helpful not to worry about needing to adhere to labels or whether I'm a lesbian, "straight" or bisexual, as the truth is that most people exist somewhere in between the polar extremes on the scale of sexuality. You can't control who you're attracted to. No one can. It's normal to be a bit confused, but the best thing you can do is be as true to yourself as possible. I hope this helps.

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  • 17-24_m_f_h3_f3

    Hello, friend! A fellow Christian here! Although I am only 17 years old, and may not know much about the world, you seem pretty upset or confused, and I wanted to let you know it's all okay and it'll be alright. God asked us not to judge any one, as no one's perfect, so don't worry about what people think, try to find out who you are while (bit cliche) and stick to God, he's honestly been there for me every time I felt like I had no one.

    Oh and also, I think I am bisexual.. but oh well, as MT said, no reason to put labels as we're coming to age and all that. You can message me whenever if you wanna talk.

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    It is very common to feel attractiveness to some . it may be by the beauty, charector, thoughts. nothing to worry.

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