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Next week I have to make a decision to complete my life as a lesbian or to begin my treatment to become straight ? In a matter of days i have to make a life time decision, honestly I never felt like myself except since I knew and was sure that I am a lesbian, I went to therapy for treatment but I didn't know that I have to choice so the treatment be effective.. I'm confused and lost, i told my father and he also got confused, so what should i do ? How to make this decision easier?

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    well , have you ever been in relationship with a girl?
    some decesions depend on ur life experiences

    • 17-24_f_f_h1_f2
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      No I never, which my therapist think will make things mush easier

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    • 17-24_m_b_h4_f1
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      Hi F_roshdy!

      Rather than trying to give you a simple and straight answer, let me suggest a different way of seeing things.

      There is no treatment to "cure" you from being a lesbian. It doesn't exist. Why? Well, because there is nothing wrong with you. You can't "fix" something that is not broken. You, my friend, are not broken. This is a matter of identity. Of accepting and also embracing who you are.

      This is why you are so confused. You are attempting to change something about yourself that cannot be changed. It is like fighting a war with yourself which you can't win because you cannot go against yourself.

      You are who you are and if you HONESTLY know that you are a lesbian, well, then you are a lesbian and that's fine. You like girls! This is awesome. I know that it may not seem like something to celebrate, but I honestly believe it is. Being a lesbian doesn't make you a bad person, a bad citizen, a bad daughter, nor it means that you are sick or need some kind of cure. I do not believe that.

      I guess that my advice is this: if you honestly believe that you are a lesbian, then embrace it. I know it's easier said than done, but ask yourself this...

      Did you wake up one day and thought to yourself..."I choose to be a lesbian from now on"? If the answer is no, then congrats! You have your answer. It is NOT a choice. It is only who you are.

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    • 17-24_f_f_h1_f2
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      Thank you very much ,, thanks

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    • 17-24_m_b_h4_f1
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      Any time that you need this community, we'll be here for you. As we know you would be for us.

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