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Hey everyone. I created this topic so we can help each other out in relationships, or crushes or even sex. Here is the FUN part of ahwaa! Not because we're gay or trans or whatever doesnt mean we always have to be miserable! Talk here freely about anything related to love, finding the right person, broken hearts etc.

I'll start. So I'm 23 years old and still havent experienced being with someone yet, so you can imagine how horny I am lol. I think about it like 90% of the time, I keep fantasizing but I'm not like a pervert or anything. Although I do have some pervy moments like fantasizing about the delivery guy! So now you have an idea about how horny I am although he is really attractive, I dont know how someone who looks like that can be so unlucky.

ANYWAY, currently I have a crush on a really beautiful boy in my college who is an athlete, he talked to me after I got sent out of a lecture one time and he had this concerned look on his face that just made me melt inside, another time I was sick he also asked me if I was feeling ok and because I couldnt take it anymore lol I think it showed because I looked a bit nervous and that must have creeped him out, now he doesn't talk to me like he used to! :( He asked me one time to help him study a subject that I took before and I called him to ask when he wants me to help him but he didnt call back after that. Of course this isnt the first time this has happened to me. I dont know if he's straight or gay/bi but I want to know, maybe I can if I get closer to him but how? .

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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    find out what hes interested in and try to talk to him about these subjects. try to hang out with some people who hang out with him too cuz it means they know some stuff about him that you can learn and try to impress him with. dont try too hard or it will show and thats not very attractive. also he can be annoyed if you try to get too close to him all the time so take your time and take it slow. try to make it about class but then try to talk about other things instead of studies only. i dont know why im suggesting these things because i tried them once and it didnt work hahahha but who knows it could be different for you man. my problem was that i moved too fast and they got scared and i couldnt find a way to win back their interest. i regret it every day because with one guy i knew we could have had something going on.

    i feel what you mean with the attractiveness to be honest i get attracted too easily i cant get some people out of my mind. then i lose interest as soon as i get to know them or if i find out theyre not gay or bi which is the worst part. i need to work on this or i wont be able to commit to a single person.

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  • 12-16_m_a_h3_f1
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    Been in your place many times my friend. The most important thing is confidence and being yourself as 6a3miya said if you try too hard and too quickly he'll feel awkward around you and it's a turn-off. Ask him out for a coffee to "discuss lecture notes" then talk about other things. In this process you can try to find out if he is gay/bi but not right away you have to start this conversation when you feel he's more open and comfortable with you. Is he also your age?

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  • 17-24_m_b_h2_f4
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    i can totally relate with falling for the beautiful guy in class , mine is tall with great hair and amazing smile and sweetest voice and is so friendly (rly not helpful as u might think) , but heres the thing hes straight and i know cuz i asked him abt what he thought of homosexuality and he said its WRONG and all that ,
    so heres my advice , try to know what he thinks of gays and all and if he's straight , sorry but u HAVE to let it go , cuz ur only going to hurt, and all of that suffering will be in vain . i should know , i kept cruing for 2 days :/ .

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f3
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    Guys thanks for replying but this thread is not only about me, everyone should talk about something! anything thats going on in your life right now, what your thinking about, your idol, your hobbies etc.

    Ya I think you're all right, but the problem is I'm afraid I cant impress him as 6a3meya said because he's very macho I think and the things he'll be interested in will be sports or maybe girls if he's straight. But yeah pi-chan I know, if I was sure he was straight I will be sad but not that sad, I dont LOVE him I just have a crush thankfully. Oh I hate this. :'(

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  • 12-16_m_a_h3_f1
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    I spoke about my love life enough that I am probably boring you all at this point haha depressing stuff as usual. Do yourselves a big favor and never fall for anyone "unsure".

    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f3
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      All of our stories are depressing, but this is what I'm trying to do with this thread, get away from it all and just joke around just to stay normal. :)

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  • 17-24_f_b_h2_f4
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    The crushes! Sometimes I understand them but mostly I don't. I had/have? this crush on this girl I don't like. I mean, I REALLY don't like her. We used to be friends but she was real mean to me and I decided I didn't want a friend like her in my life. So I distanced myself without any problem and avoided her a lot. She could be so mean and rude, I just disliked her. But the problem was that I have a kind of sixth sense where she's concerned. For instance, I can spot her from a distance in a crowded area. I'll have no idea that she'd be there but I'd spot her, no problem. Or the other freaky one where I get the feeling that that day I would bump into her before I do. How strange is that? And what's more irritating is that I forget how to breathe when I do get to talk to her, which isn't often because I avoid and ignore wherever possible. It's so annoying, how my body is so traitorous. I mean, c'mon body! Take MY side.

    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f3
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      Maybe you're a bit of a masochist? :p Or maybe these things happen because she was mean to you, I know how it feels to be bullied and I also hate to run into one of those people I was bullied by.

      Can you describe what you feel inside when you see her

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    • 17-24_f_b_h2_f4
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      *looks up masochist* Yikes, no! If I were I would have continued being friends with her regardless. She didn't bully me, but she had a mean streak about her. Let me explain something strange as best I can. That girl had this 'effect' on girls. Even straight ones! Girls would be so fascinated by her and obsessed even. She was strangely popular. And I think a lot of the other disliked her because of it. They couldn't understand it. I wasn't obsessed or anything, I fell for her best friend actually which I don't think she ever liked. I have always been attracted to her though. I think it's something to do with that strange effect she can have on people- there are people like that. To describe what I feel... um... I'd say I get nervous. I don't quite know what to do with myself and I find it hard to breathe haha

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f3
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      Lol. I think you should just stop thinking about her and dont let her consume your thoughts, act really bored when you see her & talk normally and laugh etc. that will make you more attractive in her eyes. ;) btw which country are you in? and are you in the closet? because you can just ask her too.

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    • 51-65_f_f_h1_f3
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      Running into bullies is so awkward. I often fantasized about all my female bullies in school. I tried so hard to get their attention but it always backfired. I still look them up from time to time to see what they're up to. Wish I had better memories with them.

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    • 17-24_f_b_h2_f4
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      I'm happy to say that she's only a passing thought in my head :D But if I see her again, which I hope I won't, I'll do that. Just for fun :P I'm closeted btw. No coming out for me so it makes things very tricky. And Butterfly, I know what you mean. I think it's ok to fantasize sometimes because even though they're not worth anything, we're human and the if's are always there :)

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    • 17-24_m_w_h3_f3
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      Imirna, thats good to hear. :)

      Butterfly, you shouldnt try to get their attention & dont look back at it that way, it's better you didnt get their attention because you wouldnt have gained anything good out of their friendship trust me, you must have had better friends that made you a better person. :) Now fantasizing is a different thing, I fantasize about the weirdest things lol.

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    • 17-24_m_w_h2_f3
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      I don't about you guys.. but.. i did made out with straight guys... more than once to be honest.. Gym, park, in the hospital...hmm ok no need to blurt all the trashy part of my life.

      the point is.. there's no harm in fantasizing. the harm will fall if you push the limit knowing he is a gay basher or worst a blabber mouth who will shout to the mountain that you're a fag. needless to say all action have consequences mind that.

      some straights guys do have lust over the same sex. it is normal, and according to statistic 60% teenagers in this world have a wanking buddies. does either of them have feeling for each other- maybe yes, or maybe either one or who knows right.. minds are a silly thing,

      so what you need to do is ask that friend about homosexuality like hypothetically and what is his opinion on it...if he made a remarks that homo are tool bag you will see that he's no longer your cup of tea for something serious because you have no hope unless he's a straight guy with an open mind. in this case, take his picture silently and take it to your sleep..

      good luck!

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      How can you tell if the person is a straight guy/woman experimenting or really gay?

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    • 17-24_m_w_h2_f3
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      Experimentation people is what we call bicurious. they often ask excessively trying so hard, more awkward and sometimes quite impulsive and repulsive at the same time. they always talk in hinting, but when we ask they deny and then return back to the same point. that's for before bed.

      during bed, they are the most passive. they don't initiate and most of the time rigid. you can hear their breathing quickens or they look restless. it is hard for them to achieve pleasure and they hard to cope with what we doing.

      after: they may just bolt out the door.. go to the bathroom to vomit or cry..or start to move away from you and sitting in fetal positions or you are left alone with an awkward silence.

      this actually a real studies, and this people are the reason why we are trashed in the community.

      either break it or lose it!

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    • 17-24_m_w_h1_f4
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      Love is one of the most things I would want to find in my life, unconditionally, I would want someone to love me, I want someone to love something I have rather inside than outside. sometimes I guessed some guys did truly love me coz they found out something nice within myself, but as time went on, it turned out they were only interested in my little beautiful look, so you sleep once, twice , even three times, then every thing melted away as though we have never seen, never talked, never shared bed... the hardest moments I encountered in my life are those when love went away and left me stuck with its deep scars ... and every time the same scenario repeats itself ... but lately, my trust went down in those who tell me once we meet ' You are so handsome, ' I like you ' , I will want you all my life bb... those terms, I realized, are frequently used by those who are interested in one's body, using love to get you to sleep with them, and then, take my word for it, they will soon disappear on you. I hope the best is yet to come, thanks for reading this comment on ; let's name it' Love's sad realities.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f1
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    My experience with crushes sucks I dont wanna ever go through that again, I have never been in love with someone, but i did get intimate with friends or whatsoever

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