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my mom won't let me cut my hair short

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i want to get a really short haircut but my mom won't let me get it because she say that "i'll hate how i look" if i cut it that short and that she knows this because of her "40 years of experience". i absolutly hate my hair right now because what i see in the mirror is not me and a haircut would make me feel much better about myself not "hate myself". what do i do?

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f2
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    maybe try making up an excuse? my mom didn't want me to cut my hair till i made shit up saying its too hot and i like to go out a lot.

    • 12-16_m_a_h4_f1
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      i've tried making a few excuses but she still persists (she doesn't really have a valid reason).

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    • 17-24_f_w_h2_f2
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      did a little bit of research, maybe these could help
      - try showing her pictures of people with short hair, like really good ones that even she might like.
      - maybe you could offer to wear a wig during family meetings.
      - ask her what you need to do for her to agree.
      - donate it to children with cancer or something of the sort.
      - i don't know which style you want, but this is something that my mom agreed with. cut your hair not too short like a pixie cut, but like a messy short asian hair (search it up and you'll see what i mean), then you could alter it by cutting edges here and there. since its so messy she probably wont notice. i do it to myself sometimes and nobody notices. this worked on me quite perfectly as my mother thought i looked extremely east asian. don't know about you but other than the asian part it might work.

      other than that, cut it or go to the parlor yourself, or ask a friend to do it. no mo' rules. just do it. hair grows back, man.

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    • 12-16_m_a_h4_f1
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      my mother pulled me to the side a few days ago and talked to me about it. she isn't really against the haircut, but she thinks i should wait a few years to do it. i'm thinking of coming out to her (which might give me a chance of actually getting the haircut) since i identify as transgender FTM and my mom is pretty accepting of the lgbtq+ community.

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    • 17-24_f_w_h2_f2
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      oh okay, good luck with that then! i know one ftm who just cut it himself lol.

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    • 12-16_m_a_h4_f1
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      if i did that i would probably be grounded or something, but if i cut my hair with my mom it would be fine so i'm thinking of coming out as soon as i build up the confidence to

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