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Bringing Out the Gay

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I recently outed myself to a friend I've known since fourth grade. And it went something like this:

Me: I have to tell you something. You might want to sit down.
Her: Alright...
Me: I must warn you, this may affect our friendship negatively and you may never want to talk to me again. Are you sure you want to risk that?
Her: Um... Yes!
Me: Are you SURE?
Her: Yes!
Me: You are ready to risk that??
Her: What is it?!
Me: Just want you to be sure!
Her: Did you kiss a girl?!
Me: No... Um. I'm gay.
Her: OK!

And she was so alright with it, it worried me. She was surprised at her tolerance as well. I figured that sooner or later it'll really register and she'll stop talking to me. But instead she asks me questions and remembers my past and has aha-so-that-was-it moments. It's great!

I would love to hear your experiences and conversations you have had with friends and family you came out to or are closeted from. Do share with us!

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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    My experience pretty much ended the same as yours, a lot of Okays. She was so fine with it that I felt a bit embarrassed of the fact that I was so damn anxious about it before, haha. Knowing her, I knew she would be accepting and all. I just wasn't sure of the type of reaction I was getting and if it may get awkward. But it went awesome!

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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    hmm i didnt really tell many people but with friends it was okay too. i lost some & i made better ones.

    one of them told me i was disgusting & he thought it meant if i am gay i must have a crush on every guy friend i have. i asked him the same about his female friends but he said it doesnt apply because gays are more perverted by nature or something stupid like this

    but my other friends all said "ok so what? no one cares" although i admit i befriended mostly the liberal types. im very careful in picking friends & if someone seems homophobic i skip them. sometimes i am the subject of mockery but aside from this its all good.

    • 51-65_f_f_h1_f3
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      I guess when we're older we can afford to be more selective with friends, but the ones that we grew up with and went to school with these are the ones that usually we'd be concerned with how they would react to the news. I have several childhood friends that I don't even know where to begin to come out to them.

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      I really wish a could tell a very close friend to my heart but I am afraid she will freak out ! I would love to know how she will react hahahaha

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    • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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      That's how I felt with my friend too but she reacted better than I did, hahaha.

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    • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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      Honey, you can always start by bringing up homosexuality as a general topic, just mention something in passing and see how your friend reacts to it.

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    • 17-24_m_b_h2_f4
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      if the person i tell isnt gay , i get one of two expressions , either "i have known/doubted" or "ok ... lts not talk abt it again"
      that doesnt mean mean that heteros dont get it , actually i like talking abt my gay problems with str8s better than gays , cuz they can give u this "outside the box" perspective .

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    I'm so glad it went well for you! I was worried that my friend would freak out and get awkward around me, but it's so wonderful when people surprise you like that.

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