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Hello everyone, hope everyone is doing great.

I am a bisexual female from The United Arab Emirates, Im 15 years old my parents are divorced and living apart and 7 months ago I moved to a new school where I met the love of my life, this was a secret relationship where only a few of our friends knew because being LGBT is not accepted here. 4 months into our relationship, my mom found out by reading our conversation we had on text, i confessed and admitted it was "wrong" just because i didn't want my mom to tell her mom.

My mom told me that I'm not allowed to be her friend, she's not allowed to come to my house, I'm not allowed to go to her house and so on. She threatened to tell my dad (which he will literally kill me if she did) if she finds anything of that sort again, so i didn't give up on her of course and used my dads obliviousness to my advantage. I asked him to take me to her house when i was over at his house for the weekend. Everything was going great, we even had plans to move to the U.S in the future. 3 weeks ago my mom travelled to switzerland to because my brother is having an operation, so she had her friend stay at our house to "babysit" me a long with 2 of my younger siblings. I invited my girlfriend over almost every 2 days while my mom was gone. Until my moms friend walked in on us, we were making out. When my mom came back, her friend told her what she saw.

Today my mom called me and she wanted to talk to me. She told me that she knows everything and she called my girlfriends mother and told her everything. We are now forbidden from seeing or talking to each other, from both sides, her mother slapped her, and unlike me my girlfriends relationship with her mom was great and her mom trusted her, but now all of that is over, my mom told me she will tell my dad and she will send me over to live with him. I would rather go to jail than have my dad find out. I am in desperate need of help. I don't know how to reach my girlfriend , I have no purpose to live. Im suicidal.

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    Oh dear that is a very tough situation to be in. I am so sorry. I think for the next few weeks it will be very hard to reach her, but eventually you would have to gain your mother's trust back. Just be apologetic, obedient, until they tighten the chains they've placed around you - they can't control you forever.

    I think now if you try to reach her it might get worse if they find out. Some patience will go a long way, as hard and torturous that is! I'm really sorry you're experiencing this, it's such a hard situation to be in, please do not harm yourself, give it time and you will be able to reach out to her again once both your families calm down a bit. Be strong

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      I am now on her mom's "black list" Im even considering calling her mom and apologizing just so I can clear the air but I'm worried if I do call her she might tell my mom, any advice on wether I should do it to not or on what to tell her?

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    Right now I found a way to contact my girlfriend and both our parents are completely ignoring the situation, we are still forbidden from any sort of contact or friendship, her mother absolutely hates me and and doesn't trust me and I'm not welcome near her doorstep. Any suggestions on how I could gain her trust and forgiveness back? Im desperate.

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      i agree with jazzi you need to be very patient because if you try to contact her mom and push for her acceptance she could use that against you and turn the situation into something much worse. it would anger her. give her time to heal i think she wont be able to trust you until you honor her wishes and give them the space to process everything she saw and heard. parents usually need a lot of time because they are very overprotective of their kids (not always in a good way.) i think patience is your best opportunity here if you want to keep the doors open to see and be with her in the future

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