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Being Lesbian and Being Gay

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There is something that has always bothered me. Why do people more or less tolerate lesbianism, but refuse to tolerate being gay for a man. I have few theories about the subject, but I would like to hear some opinions about this, because most of the time, we live in a patriarchal society that treats men better than women, so this is a contradiction I don't really understand.
I can even see this from my social environment (I'm Tunisian) Most of my friends who are open about the topic of homosexuality would accept lesbians but not gays, I perceive this as a form of homophobia in any case of course, but is it only because of what the pornographic industry is promoting, that is it's acceptable for a man to watch two lesbians, but not two gay people, or it's okay for people to socialize with lesbians, than with gay men?
I don't know, but I'm genuinely asking this out of multiple experiences and with other's testemonies.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f4
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    Because lesbian she are "fetished".
    Not to mention female's sexuality is taken less seriously, thus many people think it's a phase or that she'll find the right guy.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f4
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    Because lesbians are fetished*

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  • 12-16_m_w_h4_f1
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    That’s a great topic, you made me think about that issue in a way I haven’t thought of before, well first of all I will talk about it here in Egypt, of course homosexuality is frowned upon In Egypt, and when you get in conversation with anyone they bring out people of Lot and what happened to them as they were men not women, and the topic was addressed to if a man laid with another man, so now everyone is brainwashed to think of it that way, when it comes to lesbians you know there are families here who prefer their daughters to be like that so they won’t do anything before marriage, and it doesn’t matter to them if when she gets married she doesn’t enjoy the act of sex with her husband or even love him, well to them at least she won’t cheat on him, I’m not talking about everyone here but the majority or what i have heard of, but when it comes to a man it’s more of bringing shame to his family, also you said we live in society were men are treated better than women that’s true but if there is a gay man sadly he is seen lesser than a man so he will face hatred and discrimination..

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  • Maybe because our society is patriarchal. A gay man is perceived to be weak and feminine;that is contradictory to what Arabs have to look. They must look strong, have sex an extreme sex drive toward women. If a woman is lesbian it is ok,as you said;because guys naturally like to see the chemistry between two women. If women were the dominant style, it would have been so much different. I know lots of women who hate pesbians but don't mind seeing gays. If we see gays we automatically giggle.

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  • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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    I wonder if this accepted lesbianism is considered to be a choice by these people, or like can you see them liking women as a 'choice' during what some people see as 'phase'.

    How long do these people think the lesbian 'phase' is suppose to last? It's insane, but I think it's interesting question to ask.

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