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Internet is our only shelter ..but it is not a safe place either for us
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  • Online dating is dangerous only if you're not careful, now it has become the only way we can meet people and connect without giving away our identity right away until we trust the person fully. We take our chances but it's the same chances we'd take offline in dating, too.

    • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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      You are absloutely right , but some fresh people ( like me) are not aware of that

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    • Trust me when we first started out none of us did! It takes time and practice the #1 rule is just to be sure you start every conversation with complete skepticism, you have to. Even if the desperate person inside of us who seeks love and friendship wants to believe this person is trustworthy or even a savior of sorts. The price of falling for liars, blackmailers, and scammers is a very big one. In some cases if the relationship continues long enough based on lies it can destroy a person's self esteem and hope, and the loneliness will be even worse than before.

      What I do is I spend a lot of weeks, sometimes months just attempting to ensure that this person is really genuine and interested. If you feel they're not being truthful, can't in some way prove to you their identity after establishing some boundaries or privacy control, then for sure don't come out to them or don't share your name or any details, and withdraw your friendship as they're not worth your time.

      But don't blow off online dating completely, or meeting people online to eventually date offline, because there are a lot of seriously amazing people out there waiting to be discovered

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    • 25-34_f_a_h2_f4
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      yes i totally agree with you

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  • 12-16_m_a_h3_f1
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    Monday 10th April 2017,

    Its just last week, that i'm beginning to realize all my gay online endevours to find a man I can be with for the past 9 years futile. I'm now almost 25 years old.

    I was always careful from the start, super cautious, I got to online chat rooms hoping to find the one right guy, long chats that went on for months before the day of the meet up, and after a couple of guys, I realized that online personality isnt the only thing that matters, needed to know the person more in real life and see his physical traits not just chat description BEFORE CATCHING FEELINGS.

    So I changed to looking for friends, in the hope that from friendship it will morph to something stronger. But again the challenge of meeting people who send fake pictures came up, and worst of it all is when you've talked about yourself to him so now he got some details on you. Saying no to him has to be in wise acts or risk your secret to a man you 'rejected' (remember some gay people can turn bad bitches too).

    At this point remember friends have qualifications. You can chat with someone and feel the connection but when you end up meeting up it could be the last time you speak.

    Gay internet turns out not to be what I expected. So I go to making a fake profile to hit on 'straight' guys who I find are all what I want! So trying my luck that maybe he likes guys...some block you, some entertain you just to know who you are, and sooome are actually into guys BUT time comes you have to show yourself and you experience/get to know there is a possibility of being REJECTED when you expose yourself to him because you are not his type.

    So I quit after a few 'mistakes' and well gay hook apps become popular and thought you know let me give it a shot. Considering everyone is gay on the app, you hope its going to be safe and easy to find your type. It turns out to be a sex date app for MOST of the users and even when you agree with someone lets just meet for a normal date his not goiing to take it normal will think you are just afraid/shy but you want it so baad.

    So at the end of it all homosexual online dating is quite terrible though some people get what they want.

    I also have this believe if you are a good looking gay person, online dating will work miracles for you.
    If you are a normal looking guy or below (I fall in this category)...PRAY, yes pray you might get lucky with your personality! Or turn slutty (its 'normal' for some and you'll be known as the 'fun' guy plus even get recommended to new friends!)

    • 17-24_m_w_h2_f1
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      I'm 22 and I kinda feel the same.
      When I look at the future now I don't see it as a happy place because I don't see any happy gays. They're married and have children and hooking up or even in a long term relationship with another man. I don't want that!! I'm afraid I'm gonna turn out to be that. And I'm also afraid of loneliness. There was a time where I could picture myself living happily with a partner and I no longer think that could happen.

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    • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    • 12-16_f_f_h1_f1
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      hi

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    Hmmmmmm..we all suffer in this virtual world

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  • 17-24_m_w_h4_f3
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    Forgive me but I want to be honest about this.

    Online dating is only dangerous when you're gullible or easily outsmarted. Otherwise, when you're actually quite mindful about what you say and how they respond to your statements, you'll realize whether that person is actually suspicious or genuine. I hate that even online communities are places where you also have to be careful and awake while blurting out your true feelings/experiences to everyone around you :/

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    that is so true

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f4
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    Unfortunately, too many catfish-ing goes around online. It's frustrating.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f4
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    Using internet can be really dangerous.. In the past I was lucky enough to meet a good person ( sadly we are no longer together). No one of us was careful enough, we revealed alot about our daily life, facetimed, talked a lot on the phone and using social media.. thankfully it turned out well and no one had bad intentions, we parted ways on good terms. When I remember that, I realise how reckless it was. Am being more careful now, but I Still hope I would get to know someone good and sincere, even a trustworthy friend, I would be grateful if it happens!

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