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How do you know the difference btw the feeling of falling in love or the feeling of just needing someone in your life ?

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Hi guys ,i just wanna know how to know you're having feelings for someone like falling in love or having feelings for them just because it's your first time meeting someone like them like you've been waiting so long to find them , it feels so confusing idk if it's feelings of love or just feelings of needing someone ,,you know that feeling ?! Or am i the only one?

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  • 17-24_f_b_h1_f2
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    this is an AMAZING topic and i relate to this in EVERY way!!

    for many times i confused falling in love with needing someone. sometimes i want to fall in love so bad that i pretend the person is ideal. i imagine their habits, our adventures, our future together, i create a fairytale in my mind that doesn't exist and it makes me "fall in love" with not the person, but the mere IDEA of being with this person. and it makes a huge difference.

    sometimes you dont know until you learn more about the person and realize you are with them because the alternative is being lonely or alone. but not because they are really the love of your life and someone you truly see yourself being with forever.

    so youre not the only one. its a tough distinction and it happens all the time to me.

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  • Falling in love is special and far from being superficial. You probably want that hot guy in your life and think it's love. It's just lust and it's not special and it only leads to being a fuckboy. Don't be that.

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  • Falling in love is special and far from being superficial. You probably want that hot guy in your life and think it's love. It's just lust and it's not special and it only leads to being a fuckboy. Don't be that.

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    Btw = By The Way.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    I think it's real love only when it's returned. Bear with me here. The definition of "real" is subjective. For me it comes with a feeling of safety, passion, respect and devotion that is returned in like. I can say the difference between my past relationships and now is that, I didn't feel all those things and was not returned them either. It was needy, an infatuation with an ideal that I wanted to believe.

    You love selflessly and you can only love like that when the person you love returns that- otherwise it's you pining for something that isn't yours. When if it's meant to be true, then it is yours.

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