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Hi you all, this is all so new to me I lived all my life thinking I like men but I no longer feel that way, I'm starting to think I must be bi, or maybe have always been a lesbian but had to fall for a guy because this is what we're supposed to do.

how do I know, I know I enjoy watching how girls talk and dress and look yet I can't do that myself I have always been tough and independent. are there people out there like me? have you been through that, I have no lesbian or gay friends I really want to talk to someone whose been there .

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  • Hi, welcome! These are really good questions. In my opinion I think it's totally okay not to have a label on your sexuality until whenever (if ever) you find a label that feels comfortable. But there's no need to box yourself into any particular sexuality now or ever! I personally love the to identify "Queer" because it allows for a broad range of kinds of attraction - to people of the "opposite" gender, same gender, and anything in between. I think it's great that you're asking yourself these questions - and also I would recommend just going with the flow and continuing to explore who you're attracted to, and try not to limit yourself!

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  • I agree with Femmeprincess u just go with the flow and don't try to label yourself

    people around us tend to try to impose lots of things on us cause we grew up having that urge to label everything around us

    i think u r still in your observation period so try to make the best out of it and whatever u feel comfortable doing just go for it till u get to know yourself much more and good luck with your journey

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    That is really so kind of you to take some time to reply Thanks a lot. I think I'll follow your advice femmeprincess and nuit_blanche will leave it to the flow and see. I hope me here would help me explore myself more and discover who I really am, and this might be a start of a whole new phase in my life thanks again

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    I don't know what I am. I discover new things about myself everyday. Bodies keep changing and gender and sexuality are both fluid. I just live the day as it comes.

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      To be free spirited complication free and live day by day is something that i have always wished for yet was never able to achieve. I guess i was raised in a stiff way always seeing things in black or white when apparently there are even much much more than 50 shades of grey fluidity is the key word

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    it's fine to be questioning. just know that finding a label (although you don't have to label yourself if you don't want to/dont feel the need to) can take time, so don't rush it. an just know that whatever you identify as, whether it be as straight, bisexual or gay, you are valid.

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    Pretty girl. Iam the same like you. I don't know how to be delicate like women and how to be tough like men. Still in between, i like the smoothness of girls and the strength of boys. A woman can be so soft, intimate and pure. A man can fulfill ur needs to feel weak and safe at the same time, its ok to love both, nobody is gonna force u to say or think in a specific way, u can be with someone at a specific time of ur life and with another in another time. Be proud that u can accept urself in both ways that's the best i guess,❤❤

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      I love your reply and how tender and sensible it is this post has been here for almost a year i guess and i think i am starting to know and accept who i am. Your statement "you can be with someone at a specific point of time and with another at a different time" can't be more accurate or true thanks

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    I feel the same, i still don't know what i am, i just feel attracted to girls more than boys.

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    It seems that a lot of the participants here belong to the generation of the 90s so you don't really need to worry because you do indeed have time to explore and observe and figure this out so you don't really need to worry unlike me

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  • Babes, The deal is that your allowed to discover your life and not supposed to be anything. You think you're gay? Cool. You think you're bi? 3ady. You don't have to be anything specific and no body has to force you on a sexual preference that's your life and it's ok to be whatever you are and take as long as you want to really know yourself

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