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my story began in high school. she is my best friend. first i was attracted to her. than i was in love with this girl she knows that i am Bi. but the problem she didn't know that she is my loveshe accepted me as bi. this is my first time i show my story with public.
i hope friends you can help me.
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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    very cute but why not tell her your feelings about her? are you scared she might not be bi or gay as well? is she single?

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      I can't . I afraid If I Loose Her :/

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    • thats exactly what i was going to write, she knows u r bi .. then she's open minded and can accept gay ppl, i don't see the problem in telling her u love her, worst case scenario she will reject you and thats it, but i'm sure with her mentality you'll be able to stay friends, if not, its a gain to know her feelings toward you after all. seriously, i won't like staying in friendzone for too long, i'd be impatient to know where i stand.

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      This is me.
      Honestly I've had the hugest crush on this Girl.
      She's pretty, popular,smart and..
      she also has a boyfriend.
      Such a shame.
      At first I drowned my self in self pity...
      But then I realized that maybe it's not just mean't to be.
      And that was it....you can't really expect everyone who likes you to like you back.
      That's the cold hard truth.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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    if she accepted your sexuality, then maybe she'll understand your feelings. she may not accept them but you'll never know if you don't tell her what you feel. Go for it

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    I am very happy for you. I am happy that you are able to come to terms with your feelings and accept it. I know it is hard keeping it in, but now that you've understand the way you're feeling, it will soon make you more confident in the future to address them when you think the time is right for you.

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  • 12-16_m_a_h4_f1
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    since she knows that you're bi and accepts you, you can tell her this too. if she really is your friend she will still stick with you even if she doesn't feel the same way.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f4
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    I'd tell ber i have a crush on a girl, and see how she reacts, be playful and smart. Something like "she's short and cute, has a beautiful smile, and she blushes when shes shy" ... she'd probably guess some names in which u can use later on u can even tell her that shes ur crush and if she didnt feel the same just say u were kidding and tell her a name of the list she guessed

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f4
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    I used to be straight before my ex used this one me... that beautiful devil released the lesbian in me lol

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  • if she likes you back you will differently know ! and she knows you are attracted to gay people so there no doubts .

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    Anonymous,

    Ask yourself if your lust over your friend is worth the loss. Let's say she does feel the same. Fast forward and you two hook up. Then break up. You then lost a lover and a friend. So again, is it worth it?

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    I agree with midnight, i am in the same situation, she is my best friend and untill now i didn't have a friend like her she is amazing she gets me she knows me she cheers me up and offcourse she turns me on but i would never tell her and risk losing our friendship at the same time i am really tired of not being intimate with her. she has a boyfriend and she is straight, so i am trying to gradually break away from her as a friend cuz its been hell for me. Tell her or not Either way its hard.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    From my experience, you can't really be friends with someone who you have feelings for - while you may be a friend to them, they aren't a friend to you because you want more from them. So either you tell them or you don't - unless the outcome is them liking you back, you need to break away from them and allow yourself to get over them.

    You're actually doing yourself a disservice by not giving someone who will love you back a chance. It's extremely tough but think long-term. If things turn out well you can revisit the friendship when you've gotten over it.

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  • Hi! I'm a bisexual female too. And I'm silly enough in my lifetime to have fallen in love with not one, but 3 of my best friends. Only 2 of them I'm closer to than ever after I confessed my feelings and I was busted. But my takeaway is that, as long as you are in love with someone, and you expect something more from them, then you can never be just friends. But if you really love them, you will adjust yourself so you can still be in each other's lives.

    You will need to take a break and distance yourself for a bit. But once you have put yourself back together, you can rekindle where you left off. AS FRIENDS. The first few months will be difficult but eventually, you get used to it and it even becomes an inside joke you both can laugh about.

    Do not be afraid to tell them how you feel, if they do not feel the same way, it's gonna be okay. Falling in love with your best friend is kind of like every queer woman's right of passage. You are not alone dear. You will meet more people in the future, one of them will love you the way you deserve to be loved.

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