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Coming out to coworkers in a conservative society

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Would anyone recommend this? I have grown to be close to some of my coworkers, they're becoming very good friends. They keep wanting to introduce me to guys and I am getting sick of just saying "sorry I'm not interested." They need to know I'm a lesbian. I feel like I can't be myself around them at all unless they know. I never felt the need to tell them until very recently.

Is this advisable? I don't want to create my workplace into an awkward environment or lose any friends but I've been carrying such a burden. .

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  • 17-24_f_b_h1_f2
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    if you might lose your job over it id say dont do it. why risk it? theyre coworkers and yes they might be friends too but first and foremost think about your job first. and as friendly as they are think long and hard about how much you trust them first. the news could circulate beyond work and its not something you want looming over your head if you prefer not to be outed.

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      Thanks! I'm having second thoughts about it again, although I was really excited to finally come out to them maybe one day....

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    I worked with a bunch of mixed people. Some couldn't care less and others would have cared a lot. It wasn't really a problem for me, and it did stop the whole "you have never had a boyfriend?!" talk.

    If you really want to then approach that topic with them ("oh Ellen is so great! Do you know she's a lesbian? What do you think about that?") then see how they react to it and go from there.

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  • Okay so general rule to coming out in a homophobic society for me is: never come out to a person unless you know they are LGBT or you get to discuss LGBT issues with them and find out that they are okay with it, only then you can come out without getting into so much trouble because it's not just about side talks, you could be risking many things with coming out to the wrong people. Be safe.

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  • hmmm u cant talk with all people

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