Start a Discussion Find support & help more people

What do you value more: Truth or Convenience?

A+ A-

Reading the responses here it seems that many are unwilling to come out because they fear risking ties with their families, friends, or in some cases risking even their lives. This has been my experience as well. I have lost a childhood friend as a result of me coming out to him. I can't handle losing my other friends and families too!

It has made me wonder: what do you value most in your life? Truth? Being who you are and cutting ties with those that don't accept you? Or keeping everyone in your life, lying about yourself and your identity, and enjoy the convenience of having an otherwise "normal" life?

Cancel
  • 17-24_f_b_h1_f2
    Comment

    we can only lie about ourselves and hide our real identities for so long. i prefer the truth. it comes with so much headache but it's better than living a shameful lie and a double life. we only live once and i wanted to live this life as me. not as someone society expects and forces me to be.

    • I think it should depend on who you are telling this "truth" to. Not everyone deserves to know. In many cases truth should be earned. Besides being secretive doesn't mean we are keeping anything "true" from others. We can be ourselves around others without sharing intimate details.

      This was helpful! Flag
    • 17-24_f_w_h3_f3
      Comment

      I was in an 'ordinary' straight relationship with a man for over a year. He was European and atheist, so not somebody my religious, ultra-Arab parents would approve of. Anyway, truth and openness were extremely important to me, and because my friends and their parents had no problem with this, I figured I wasn't doing anything wrong. I wanted to have a good relationship with my parents, so I told my mother. She disapproved but didn't explode: she just told me to break up with him.

      Since I was 21, I told her I respected her opinion but that I'm at an age where I should be the one making decisions in my personal life. She basically erupted and destroyed all of my belongings - everything personal I owned. And obviously swore and screamed a lot.

      Yes, this was a straight relationship and it's not coming out - but I was living a lie until I told her, and when I did, I immediately realised that some people do not deserve to know the truth. The message was clear: I love you and will be kind as long as you are the child I want you to be. When I stopped mentioning him and apologised profusely for a thousand things I didn't feel sorry for, she forgave me.

      Over here, I cannot tell anyone I know I am bisexual. Discussing religion in real life is usually out of the question for a lot of us. So I've decided to live my double life and live life as I want it whenever I'm abroad. If my best friend's mother doesn't have a problem with me, I'm fine, and I value my convenience over publicising my truths.

      This was helpful! Flag
    • 17-24_f_w_h3_f3
      Advice

      I was in an 'ordinary' straight relationship with a man for over a year. He was European and atheist, so not somebody my religious, ultra-Arab parents would approve of. Anyway, truth and openness were extremely important to me, and because my friends and their parents had no problem with this, I figured I wasn't doing anything wrong. I wanted to have a good relationship with my parents, so I told my mother. She disapproved but didn't explode: she just told me to break up with him.

      Since I was 21, I told her I respected her opinion but that I'm at an age where I should be the one making decisions in my personal life. She basically erupted and destroyed all of my belongings - everything personal I owned. And obviously swore and screamed a lot.

      Yes, this was a straight relationship and it's not coming out - but I was living a lie until I told her, and when I did, I immediately realised that some people do not deserve to know the truth. The message was clear: I love you and will be kind as long as you are the child I want you to be. When I stopped mentioning him and apologised profusely for a thousand things I didn't feel sorry for, she forgave me.

      Over here, I cannot tell anyone I know I am bisexual. Discussing religion in real life is usually out of the question for a lot of us. So I've decided to live my double life and live life as I want it whenever I'm abroad. If my best friend's mother doesn't have a problem with me, I'm fine, and I value my convenience over publicising my truths.

      This was helpful! Flag
    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f2
    Experience

    As much as I want to come out to friends and family members, I don't know how or where to start. I might lose them forever.

    I'm not ready for truth, I will have to settle for convenience. Time will tell what will happen!

    Reply to Reem
    This was helpful! Flag
  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
    Comment

    In my case, it doesn't bother me that my friends and family don't know. As far as friends go, it's not affecting them in anyway, and it's not like I'm a dangerous person. I'm just gay.

    Where my family is concerned, my parents don't need to know and if they do then maybe... Time will tell. I would, however, like my sister to know sometime in the future.

    If you have to be honest with anyone, it's yourself, and convenience isn't a bad thing at all.

    Reply to Edel
    This was helpful! Flag
  • Default-avatar
    Advice

    Making the hard decision is...well, hard!

    But ask yourself instead if you are making the right choice, and if the choices you think you have are your only options. I respect that there is such a thing as tact, and that it is best to strive to be unified with one's family and create harmony. However, if you feel as I do that truthfulness is of fundamental importance, then to give the impression that there is nothing going on can only hurt your situation.

    I am a religious individual of a religion that considers the practice of homosexuality to be wrong. My father is an openly homosexual man living a homosexual lifestyle. But he's still my dad, and still a child of God. I haven't severed my ties with him, nor do I believe that is what God desires of me. Your family may yet surprise you and, if you are open with them and listen to how they feel just as you would wish them to listen to you.

    You might also have to find out who is truly your family and who is simply your relative. Some of your family members may disapprove, strongly even, but it does not mean that they won't love you or stand by you. Everyone deserves the chance to do the right thing.

    Reply to Peter
    This was helpful! Flag
  • You just have to pick and choose wisely around things like these. It's not a big problem if you know what you're doing. None of us are completely truthful to all our families, friends or even ourselves. You can be happy without having everyone around you know every single detail about your love or sex life.

    • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
      Comment

      Right on, Omar! But you know what gets to me sometimes? When I see my cousins getting married and everyone is so happy for them and it occurs to me that none of my family, not even my parents, will ever celebrate my love and my new family like that. It sucks and a part of me says, 'Well, you can't have everything. You gotta accept it and deal with it.' But lately another part has been asking, 'Why do you have to accept it?'

      This was helpful! Flag
    • Default-avatar
      Comment

      Ah, but you see that's the thing about "acceptance".

      You can potentially compel others to grant a homosexual union equal legal consideration and not harass you. You can potentially bring about change in a society to where gaybashing and other abuses are curtailed, where you have the freedoms and benefits you desire.

      But you cannot compel someone to be happy about it. You cannot force someone to approve. You can certainly appeal to them, try and convince them, and perhaps they will come to agree with your perspective. But you cannot take someone's approval, it can be given.

      Mind you, that goes both ways, and you can in no wise be forced to approve of THEIR opinions and choices either.

      This was helpful! Flag
    • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
      Comment

      Agreed, Peter! I must admit, I'm can be quite whiny about how unfair it all is. So easy to be happy for heterosexual couples and the best homosexuals can hope for is not being disowned on the spot. And also, how we are all supportive of our friends boyfriends and girlfriends, and yet we have to hide our partners. Hmph! Well, to be honest, I really don't care about getting approval of friends who would leave me the second they know the truth about me. It's really about my parents. They're my parents and these feelings come with being their child I suppose.

      This was helpful! Flag
    This was helpful! Flag
  • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
    Comment

    Like you Edel, I also have a question.....there seems to be no natural method of having children, except surrogacy and God knows what other complications would it bring....not mention religion is a big part of it. Yes, it seems totally unfair. the amount of information I can get from Islam is...its ok to be a man to have no desire for women...but it dosnt directly address my need...although it would seem logical for Islam to accept desire.....a gay men is one who does not desire women. Reticently some scholars noted the fact that the partnering concept in the Quran does not have any gender dichotomy...alrighty then.....but there seems to be any acceptable way for homosexual couple to have biological children......i know its there surrogacy and all but is it allowed? Its a really far fetched question...it seems so difficult for me ti accept it and it makes me feel I am rebel against Allah(swt)...........honestly I wish these thoughts would not have hit me before my death........a avery hard thing...and i feel there is no one to cry.....and I cant find women comforting anymore...i am just too busy thinking and anlyzing my feelings near them to see if i am attracted and then I feel sad and become depressed..it seems never ending.

    • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
      Advice

      I've always been a fan of adoption. For me, I could get pregnant artificially, but I'm not sure if that's right either and anyways, I don't think I want to get pregnant, ever. I guess, seeing how for so many of us,it is our friends, who accept us and love us for who we are, are the ones who end up being our family we can learn to see beyond that biological connection, that there is more than just shared blood that makes a family. Adoption, personally, is a great idea for me. You're no rebel! And don't think like that. You will find your answers in time, till then don't hate yourself for being who you are. There's nothing wrong with it. Questions are not a bad thing and hopefully, you'll find a way to have a family of your own. Now, about, your last part. Why do you think you analyze your feelings for women when you're around them? Are you hoping that by some miracle you'll find yourself attracted to them? It's OK to not be. And it's OK to be gay.

      This was helpful! Flag
    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_m_a_h4_f4
    Comment

    to be honest, my family is not ready to know the truth, but they always nag that i should never hang out with girls ... convenient for me :P but sooner or later i have to tell them but not now

    • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
      Comment

      Same here. It's strange that I feel nervous telling them about any guys I hang out with (so I don't) but yea, considering the life I want I know I can't keep it a secret forever.

      This was helpful! Flag
    This was helpful! Flag
  • 12-16_m_w_h4_f1
    Comment

    Well then you didn't need that childhood friend, Im sure you'll find many other amazing people, Then again they didn't love you, they loved who you were pretending to be, so i think this was a blessing rather than a curse, You are who you are and you should always love and be proud of your self no matter what.

    Reply to Rogue
    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_w_h1_f2
    Comment

    ah, the old safety vs freedom dilemma....

    Reply to Dee
    This was helpful! Flag
  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f1
    Comment

    I consider myself out but I dont really go like hey im a lesbian, if someone asked me about it or anything I will answer frankly cause I dont really care what people think, people will walk away from you not because youre gay not because ure a bad person it is just how life is, so i choose to be myself and keep my friends who are 100 behind me on everything that i am

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
    Comment

    https://twitter.com/Saudi_LGBT
    Guys I want all of you watch this please. It is VERY interesting.

    Reply to SadisBad
    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f4
    Comment

    So you think gay couples should do what? Maybe get married before they have sex?

    Reply to Mahoys
    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f4
    Comment

    So you think gay couples should do what? Maybe get married before they have sex?

    Reply to Mahoys
    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f4
    Comment

    So you think gay couples should do what? Maybe get married before they have sex?

    Reply to Mahoys
    This was helpful! Flag
  • Default-avatar
    Anonymous
    Comment

    I cannot help but think that this is a bit too idealistic of a question, because your personal safety should always come first. It depends in which country you live in, and how accepting you believe your family is. If you come out despite it being safe to do so, it is not just a matter of convenience but of your own safety. Any thoughts on this?

    Reply to Anonymous
    Flag
  • 12-16_m_a_h3_f1
    Experience

    12/05/2017

    I know my family well, i've literally studied almost all of them. The truth is I can never confess my reality to them it will kill them.

    Remember being gay is liken to a curse, its a shame and disgrace to the person.

    My mum could die of misery, she's gone through alot from my father to my older siblings. I think she's just living her life now trying to find the happiness she missed all those years..she deserves it wouldnt want to ruin that!

    My dad on the other hand has a reputation to keep, considering aslo the fact that most of his dreams didnt come to be, I wouldnt want to be another example of the mockery people make on him.

    4 years ago, I lost a dear friend, a friend who we used to text the first thing in the morning and have endless chats every single day. A friend who I had similar interests, who cherished me and held me in high esteem until the day I came out to him Thinking that, he knows my character well and my sexuality would not be a big deal but I was wrong. He saw me then as a filthy creature. I will live with the regret of telling him and fear of him.

    The societies we are in, are mostly intolerant of this idea, we cannot risk exposing ourselves unless we are ready to lose what we have always had

    The bitter truth for me, I think my happiness is seeing those around me happy. Therefore I cannot risk losing the homophobic family that cared for me and the friends and people who know me. The idea of losing these people is very very scary and i'm not guaranteed I will not be abandoned by the new gay family (and SADLY as we mostly see/read not many stick for long)

    Reply to Afrabrules
    This was helpful! Flag
  • I advise those from a conservative aily not to come out. What would you xpect them to do ? It's not like the American movies where the mom hugs her son or daughter and says i love no matter what. Here you risk being injured or even killed.

    Reply to selmaouisalma
    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_b_h2_f3
    Experience

    I value the truth, but I'm stuck with convenience

    Reply to LenaDelRey
    This was helpful! Flag
  • Losing friends is hard, but we can't let them decide our life for us. If they won't accept us for who we really are, the loss of the friendship is theirs and not ours. We'll find better friends who do love and believe in us. I wish I was strong enough to take my own advice!

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
    Advice

    Hello Kuwaiti,

    I think it's an easy question for me. Well, I'm very pragmatic, and as long as I'm satisfied with myself, and convinced with my own choices, and confident of my identity, I don't care actually about others. Because sexual orientations, likewise religious orientations, are very personal. Compromising about them to your own circle of family/close friends, or even lying to them, will never harm them in anything, because it's your own life/rights/game. My game my rules. The only rule is that I'll never harm anyone, and compromises of these types will not violate this rule, because it'll never violate anybody's rights.

    Based on this argument, I'm in favour of convenience indeed! At least until I can be independent enough/abroad, because at this time, convenience is guaranteed, regardless of any other balance.

    The only truth is your self!

    Enjoy the moment!

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 12-16_m_b_h3_f4
    Experience

    Amadeus, that is a good attitude to have! Would you feel this confident if you were lonely in your views and opinions? My fear in coming out is losing those that I feel close to, and people that I am comfortable knowing and being around. They are my friends and family and it is difficult to imagine my life without them. I am not sure if I have the strength and patience to have this level of confidence but then have to go through the consequences alone without their support. In an ideal life everyone would live by their own rules. What if these rules are severely punished by those around you? Your family and also society as a whole?

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_m_w_h4_f4
    Comment

    What do you think her reaction might be like?

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
    Comment

    I am so curious to know that too. Well, she isn't a homophobe, that I know for sure. I feel like some part of her knows that I'm gay.

    I think that she will be shocked and I guess she'll ask me why I think so. She will definitely mention religion and ask what I have to say about that. I just hope she'll accept me and eventually be all right with it.

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 12-16_m_b_h3_f4
    Experience

    Edel, as a gay man these are the issues that keep me wide awake at night! How will my family think? How will my other friends think? How will my employers think? My colleagues? My classmates? Emotionally, it is a burden!

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
    Advice

    If only people would see it for what it really is: a preference. That's it. Really! Honestly, I'd rather not think about this and it annoys me that I have to, if only to make sure that I don't let it on to my family or friends that I'm not straight. I bet this is how Superman felt.

    Well, I worry a lot too but then we all need a break and so do you! Try not to worry about this, at least not when the day has already ended. Think about it this way: worrying won't accomplish anything and there isn't much more you can do anyway. You're doing all you can and your mind and body definitely deserve the rest.

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 17-24_m_b_h3_f1
    Comment

    I did always want to tell my mother (more so than my father). I'm certain she's aware of it, and I'm certain she doesn't want it. At some point I go to the conclusion that, no body needs to know. I'll deal with it when my mom does bring it up, I'm not about to tell her. Sure I'd like to share with her my ups and downs, but sometimes things like that just don't work.

    I don't want to create much friction at home, I think I've got enough of it already. So why add to it? I know I'll have to deal with it at some point, but soon is never the right time for me.

    This was helpful! Flag
  • If it was up to me I would never want to tell them either, but what happens if they find out? And if denial wasn't in the question? If they found proof via photos and letters or caught in the act of kissing a boyfriend? I am not yet prepared to handle a moment like that!

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
    Comment

    Just the possibility - and it is! - makes me shudder. I wouldn't want them to find out. Never ever.

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f2
    Comment

    Which religion is this, if you don't mind me asking?

    This was helpful! Flag
  • Default-avatar
    Comment

    I am a member of the Baha'i faith. It's usually not mentioned in connection with such issues because we abstain from politics and believe that our religion must be chosen, not imposed.

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 17-24_m_w_h1_f3
    Comment

    So... You've chosen to be a member of a religious group that condemns you? Are you sure your membership isn't more of an imposition than a choice

    This was helpful! Flag
  • Default-avatar
    Comment

    The Baha'i faith does not condemn homosexuals, it condemns the practice of homosexuality. Homosexuals are human beings, and human beings are prone to urges which are not always right to indulge. Heterosexuals are no different in this regard.

    I did not mean to give the impression that I am homosexual, however, though technically speaking it would not be untrue to say I am bisexual. And no, it is not an imposition. In fact, I abstained from formally joining the faith for several years because of my personal opinion regarding the legitimacy of homosexual relationships. It was only after thoroughly investigating the teachings of the faith and seeing that they are rational in their basis rather than prejudicial that I was even willing to accept it. I was raised agnostic, by the way, so there was no family imposition in the matter, and the Baha'is do not believe in compelling others to believe. Baha'u'llah Himself said "Whoso desireth, let him turn aside from this counsel".

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f3
    Comment

    Hey Peter, I was wondering if you're married. Not that I'm interested or anything :P But, I am a bisexual as well and I'm still single. I too want to life a straight life, because of religious reasons. But, I don't want to live a lie. I want my husband to know me completely and to accept me for who I am. I don't think spouses should hide such secrets from each other. So, I'm asking...because if yes...does your wife know about you? And if no...are you planning on telling your future wife that you're bi? Sorry, if i sound to nosy. I'm just curious.

    This was helpful! Flag
  • Default-avatar
    Experience

    Well Vicci, I am single, but my religion also teaches that "truthfulness is the foundation of all human virtue" and I believe that firmly. What's more, marriage of all things is an institution of trust. You're agreeing to bond your very lives together, ideally separated only by death. I absolutely intend to share such things with my spouse when, God willing, I am married one day.

    My father remained in the closet during his twenty-five year marriage to my mother. I can't conscionably do that to another person.

    That said I don't want to give the impression that "bisexual" is my "orientation" as opposed to a simple biological fact for most people, myself included, nearly all "heterosexuals" and "homosexuals" included, as me even being born shows.

    This was helpful! Flag
  • Default-avatar
    Anonymous
    Experience

    Sharing the truth with your partner is important, but there's no telling that your partner will simply tolerate the way you are, or that you have fantasies and an interest (physical or otherwise) to someone else. Would you be willing to risk losing them? Or are some things just better off not said? What if you're not acting on your thoughts but just having them? That's innocent and private isn't it? Why would the partner need to know these details?

    In the Arab countries it's very hard for couples to understand bisexual relationships or needs. There is very little awareness about things like this and it can cost that person's reputation and marriage.

    Flag
  • Default-avatar
    Advice

    This is the sort of thing one needs to think about before deciding to get married to someone in the first place. The question isn't whether you'd lose them, it's whether you really have them. If your relationship is only kept afloat through secrets and falsehoods then it's not fair to them to marry them, and it's not fair to yourself to live a lie.

    As for your reputation, I'll readily admit that there's going to be people who should not be given that information voluntarily. If you're worried that your spouse-to-be would out you and endanger you and seek to hurt you for sharing your difficulty, then you should not marry this person.

    If you just have occasional "ooh that person is hot" thoughts and feelings and they aren't a problem, it makes just as much sense to keep that to yourself as you would about heterosexual attractions; if it isn't a big deal, it isn't a big deal.

    But if it is a big deal, if you have strong urges, if there seems like there's any chance you could be tempted to act on those urges, or if it seems like you may actually be homosexual rather than bisexual, then it is important that you not marry someone who is unaware or, if you become aware of this while married to someone, that you talk with them about it.

    I won't pretend that won't be a difficult conversation or an easy subject to broach, but nevertheless it's absolutely imperative that something like that not turn into secrets and lies. That's the sort of thing that breeds hatred, destroys families, and breaks hearts.

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f3
    Comment

    Exactly! Which is why I want my future husband-to-be to know me fully. I don't live in an Arab country, but I do understand how big honour is in our culture. The risk I'm taking by telling that person (if it's written for me to love someone in this world) my biggest secret. I'm aware that most heterosexual muslims will not or cannot accept marrying such a "person". I'm not degrading myself (even though it sounds a bit like it), but that's just the world we live in. This is sadly the reality. I just want someone like me. A bisexual with the same beliefs and morals. Together, we help each other through everything (not just the attraction towards the same sexe). Sometimes I think I will never have that and sometimes I think everything is possible. Now, 25+ of age..I really do want to experience love in all its forms. And it's hard to see others have that connection and I never did (or will I ever?). Love will come when you at least expect it

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f2
    Comment

    Do you come from an Arab or Muslim family? If you're bisexual how come you're sure that you'll end up with a husband-to-be instead of a long-term relationship with a woman for example? Do you think it would be easier on your family or you, that you have less things to hide? And would you ever talk about your bisexuality to your family?

    This was helpful! Flag
  • Default-avatar
    Comment

    Might I ask which country you do live in?

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f3
    Experience

    Reem, I do come from an Arab/Muslim family. I was born and raised in Europe (@Peter, let's just say the country I live in is close to Germany ;). And I'm certain I'll end up with a husband-to-be, because of several personal and religious reasons. Not that I'm incapable of being with a woman (hell the gay part in me is sometimes - if not a lot- superior than the straight part < - - - whatever that means). It's just that I feel I need to fight it and I'm not 100% convinced it's O.K. in my religion to pursue any relationship with the same sexe. I'd rather be safe than sorry....but still it's friggin' hard!! And no, like hell it would be easier on me or my family if I told them about "me". I did come out to my sister and best friend. My relationship with my sister has changed a lot and her behaviour towards me changed too. We're not that close anymore and I'm fine with it now. I was upset and angry, but it's her loss in the end. However, my relationship with my BF got better (weird huh?). You'd expect your family to get closer to you once you tell them something important, personal etc. Instead I found the trust I needed and the comfort in my best friend (not a relative). I think I'm gonna go watch some feel good movies with a bucket of ice-cream. I'll feel better in a bit :)

    This was helpful! Flag
  • Default-avatar
    Comment

    Think you accidentally clicked "post response" 3 times

    Part of the struggle for people of your own sex that are finding out is for a lot of history it has kind of been taken for granted that people are straight, and that all people of the same sex are neutral territory. It allowed folks to let down their guard sexually around each other, hence why you have same sex bathrooms and showers and folks didn't think anything of it.

    In fact, I daresay a great deal of where homophobia comes from is that. They see homosexuals being closeted as the proverbial wolf in sheep's clothing, they don't have a real understanding of the reasoning behind it, and it breeds paranoia and distrust. It's not rational, but it happens.

    It's often far worse for someone who you're really close with and intimate with to discover that there was something really major going on with you that they didn't know about, and with family it makes it especially uncomfortable for it to be something of a sexual nature. Hopefully, your sister will come to terms with it and be understanding.

    To that end, it's not really weird at all that your boyfriend would get closer to you because of that. He's getting to know you, and you trusting him and sharing something like that with him is more of a bonding experience than it would be with a close sibling who would probably feel unsettled at not knowing that already.

    ...not to mention, he's a guy, and a lot of guys find that, well, enticing.

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f3
    Comment

    Peter, what made you think it was accidentally? I did it on purpose. I like clicking "Post response" three times. Knocking three times. Alright, I'm kidding! But I almost had you fooled; haven't I? (Please say yes - or I'm gonna go watch some other feel good movies with a bucket of ice-cream). In fact..the truth issss...Ahwaa always posts my comments/posts more than once. I've had this situation before..and I'm used to it by now. You'll see the admins will delete the "extra" in a bit ;).

    And you're right (what you've mentioned in your latest post). Why can't everyone just be a nice sheep? I mean we're all sheeps in the end. And if we like a sheep more than "normal"; why does that make a sheep in a wolf in most sheep's eyes? They're the wolves really...for treating a sheep like a wolf.

    I hope my sis will understand that I'm who I am. I am the person she knew all these years. Just because she didn't know the tiny detail about me; doesn't make me another person overnight. I just want her to open up her eyes and see.

    Uhmmm...who's boyfriend? I don't have a boyfriend :) BF = Best Friend :D I never had a boyfriend (or girlfriend). Haha..it was nice though...to imagine. Enticing

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 12-16_m_b_h3_f4
    Experience

    The ideal situation is that they would accept and love me no matter what. The other part of the story is that honor trumps love in this society, in what appears to be most cases anyway. There is nothing more shameful and embarrassing than having a gay son, brother, cousin or friend. It can even interfere in your sibling's marriages. It's the awkward reality we have to deal with in the process of coming out.

    This was helpful! Flag
  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f2
    Comment

    Sad but true.

    This was helpful! Flag

Hall of Fame