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A homo who involves in a love affair with a hetero!?

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Hi everyone ,i'm a newcomer i like the idea of networking to support each other. First i want to thank the members especially the green ones as i enjoyed their topics and advances ,that 've encouraged me to break into my fear of virtual friendship and to share my thoughts with u. I'm a lesbo girl who involves in a love affair with a hetero guy ,i don't consider my self a real bi because ,after almost a year, i still can't bear thinking of making love with men in general,sure except my boyfriend so i decided to postpone starting a sexual relation with him till now because i'm afraid of what really will happen and i don't know should i try first :having a homo sexual relation ,as i never pass through it so far, or should i postponed my homosexuality till i become comfortable with him ? i also wonder if any homo member here involves in a relation with hetero can tell me his experience.
Thx a lot.

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  • I would say don't get caught up in the labels, just do what feels right. If you're feeling enthusiastic about sex with your boyfriend go for it. If you're feeling hesitant, don't do it. The identity labels can come later.

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  • My first relationships (even after I started identifying as queer) were with men, and I just want to affirm that it's okay to want to have sex with men and women. I'm curious what is it you're feeling nervous about. It's understandable to be nervous but I think we might be able to better give advice if we know what you're feeling worried about.

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    Thx 4 ur advice i agree with u not to label ourselves,but i have doubts about sex with my boyfriend because i truly love him and i become more afraid of not to enjoy a sexual relation with him that can affect our love ,i remember Adele with her boyfriend in "blue is the warmest color" .

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    on the other side i had to struggle a lot to have an inner peace concerning my homosexuality .i wish to have a love affair with another queer like me but i fallen in love with him so that makes me less comfortable about our relation on the long term.

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  • Well, if you're in control of "postponing" your homosexuality and heterosexuality then I suggest you're not even a homosexual and could pass easily for a bi. However, just picture your boyfriend in bed and you with another girl in bed and see which thought turns you on faster. You might be feeling obligated of having a sexual relationship with your bf (I dont mean he is rushing you into it) because he is your bf and you probably feel comfortable with him but seriously take your time more and ask yourself what are really interested in and accept the answer then you'll be able to decide

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    thx 4 ur advice u hit the main core of my problem that i know that imagining a girl is turning me on away faster than imagining my boyfriend that's why i'm worried. It's like a struggle between my true desires and my true love:/. I think @ the end i'll have to go through both experiments and try to make a balance.

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  • You're most welcome. But also have you considered the possibility of taking some time off of relationships and obligations, time for you to figure things out wisely ? Instead of diving into something you're not fully cretin of.

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    I'm actually a straight guy , I have had 3somes before , and the ones that I found most interesting is when I watch two lesbians licking and enjoying themselves , it is kinky I know , but that what turns me on .

    Sometimes , I would get engaged and sometimes I just watch .

    In fact , I'm looking for two lesbians who can feel comfortabe having me watching them enjoying themselves .

    If any of you lesbians here want to share that experience with me , they are goanna be more than welcome , just text me and let me know , and We can like arrange for a meet-up and discuss it beforehand and then go for it . Believe me it is fun .

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      Why do you think it doesn't add up .I know it is a bit weird for a straight guy to love something like that ..... besides not all lesbians could be comfortable with that .
      But believe me on that , it gives them the recognition and also it is fun after all if they feel that what they do just reflects their sexual orientation and what they are in no matter what in front of a guy or not .

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      Hahahah oh man guys love watching lesbians there is nothing strange about that. But please don’t act like sexualizing lesbian relationships for your benefit does anyone any good (besides you!). Lesbians don’t need to be validated by performing for others >.> that’s just insulting!

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