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To love someone is to get to know someone. So in this topic let us all share our first gay experience. If you are not gay, share us how you stumbled upon this matter along the road of your life.

Sharing is caring, and sharing is sexy. Hence caring is sexy.

So let's break that ice.

Hi all I am Mike, Mixed asian hailed from Malaysia and I am gay.

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  • 17-24_f_b_h1_f2
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    my first experience goes way back in early teen days. or at least that was my first crush that i can remember. dating started few years after that when some girls around me got more confident about their identity. i dated quickly during this time because it was exciting, finding the "one" was ... a process. some were more serious than others. my family members found out one by one shortly after that. not the best of times. very happy being a lesbian. born raised and still live in an arab country. about as much as am willing to share ;)

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  • Proud Kuwaiti here. In my 20s. Gay. Happy. Ambitious. One of the earliest members of Ahwaa.

    I started out not so confident with many unrequited crushes. You can say that I kept falling in love with the wrong people who wanted to play and not really commit to me. With time I started doing the same with others, having a little fun. When I got to Uni I fell very hard for a classmate and we dated for some time. That was my most intense relationship. He broke my heart by leaving me for a mutual friend. Rest is history. I got over it, we're still friends and am happily dating around now. No commitments yet but I am very ready to settle.

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    Mostly an anon lurker, a lesbian living in the KSA waiting to create my first experience by making the right move on someone special.

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  • My god KSAians! you guys are wild... well where should i begin? Mine began in my 17. i was young and i fell into the love game, love stick and the whirlpool of it. Met a guy 27 years older than me when i was in the states for a year. It was first love struck, just from a cafe seat. ( The story was, i dont have a seat to enjoy my latte and my lovely pastry and he offers me the one in front of him and the rest are self figures XD)

    from that crazy encounters to a meeting, from that first meeting romantic walk in the park, from there is started to escalate to dinner, movie and our first night and my full stop on my virginity XD (TMI).

    we got serious we even have rings, papers and ceremony. he even break his virginity ring for me XD. well after a year, my responsibility called and i have to take it eventhough he willing to sacrifice... in the end i am his child godfather (he had 2 kid- one is named after me)

    then it on and off with egyptian guys. 5 actually... 2 were heart breaker, thief, and a swine. Playing people trust, copy your keys, spy on you and break into your house. 3 are stupid arrogant unjustify bastard who tap and go, no calls sleeping behind my back and just sugar coated words with no sugar actually in it (i guess they use calorie free diet sugar)

    that sums it up i guess

    i am 22 now, single in alexandria egypt, independent enough, and hoping for a new love story that can send sparks fly!

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      All that by the age of 22. I sure feel lame in comparison! Out of curiosity, what brings you to Egypt?

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    • :"> I am here because of my scholarship... My second degree yeay!!

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    Hi! I'm Edel, in my 20s, I'm a lesbian and I'm just hoping by some miracle I'll meet a girl who ISN'T straight (Don't get me started on that one) and fall hopelessly in love with! Someday, I hope to even start a family :D

    • 35-50_f_w_h3_f4
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      Hm, are you my identical twin?

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    • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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      I most probably am. Hi!

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    • I smell love ;-)

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    • 51-65_f_f_h1_f3
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      Falling for bisexual girls can be just as hard, Edel ... maybe even a bit harder? At least according to one painful incident in my life that was easier to deal with than the ones involving straight girls.

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    • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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      Actually yes, Butterfly, you're right. It can be just as hard. Although my experience wasn't as bad, I've learned that I gotta be very careful now. I think it's true that most bi's prefer the company of the opposite sex because it's easier (hell if I had the choice) and I just have to make sure that we're on the same wavelength if ever I come across a bi I like again.

      I think it was more difficult for you because it could have gone somewhere and it didn't. I suppose all the straight girls we fall for, we are able to get over because we understand that it's never going to happen.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f2
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    Hey awesome people, Awktopus here. I recently turned 21. I'm a lesbian and have been in a happy relationship for over a year now. It's my first relationship and hopefully my last too.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f3
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    Howdy; I'm christmas sahat... I'm Vicci (short name for VICTORY). 25+. Europe. Never been in a relationship. No kissing..no hugging..no holding hands..I'm a nun (well not really, but might as well be). Had several crushes (all of them on straight girls). Was in love with someone two years back....she got married and I got over it. I'm more of a distant lover...you can look, but you can't touch. What else? uhmmm noooothiiinggg......

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    Hello, I am Peter. I'm a straight American.

    "Wait what is a straight American doing on a site about LGBT issues in the Middle East?"

    I am a member of the Baha'i faith, and this site is part of the Mideastyouth group, which founded the Muslim Network for Baha'i Rights (bahairights.org). Esra'a Al-Shafei, the director, had just started the site and asked it be supported.

    My father is gay, and I happen to have a lot of experience and have done a lot of research on the subject, and my religion has teachings on the subject that I had to scrutinize deeply regarding the nature of homosexual relationships and morality.

    I hope that I'm able to offer my perspective as a Westerner, as a Baha'i, and as someone who has had their family be deeply impacted by homosexual issues, and hopefully we can all better understand each other and support each other.

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  • 17-24_f_b_h1_f3
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    Hello everyone! I like this idea of an icebreaker. Maybe there should be one every once in a while. Our stories will be what save us, we need to share them with each other and with the world!

    My coming out story- oh man, it's super weird. I sort of "chose" to flirt with girls because I thought it would be easier on myself and my family than if I flirted with boys. This one girl had a crush on me and I started to reciprocate. Then I fell for her hard and she fell for my friend... hah. That was such a crazy year, when I was 18... I'm 22 now and in my second relationship, with a Muslim trans man. I've learned a lot about my religion, about being Arab, about being queer, and I don't think I'm done learning yet.

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  • 25-34_f_b_h1_f1
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    Hello People,

    Since it's highly not recommended revealing my own name for example, you can call me Jelena.
    My first emotional experience was at my 13,I was at the 9th grade and I fall in love with a high school girl in the same school.That was the first time i feel emotionally attracted ever in my life, and I had no explanations for that back then.

    Then I got older, and my first emotional sexual experience was at 21,She was from Spain,very clever and intellectual, verbally clever and sophisticated person.I would say that I really loved her.I met her with a group of friends,she was having a vacation.And then she asked me out in an indirect way,cause she didn't know if I was gay or not.
    We met,I suggested to go to where she's staying to cook something instead of going where else,I was just out of work,and I had no energy to go anywhere.
    We went to her place,started talking,then i don't know what did I say, but we kissed.That all i remember from this moment,can't recall the exact argument.We were together for few months,then we decided to leave each other for some stupid reasons.I tried to contact her cause I've been in a really bad circumstances, as well as she.And the story ended .

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  • 17-24_m_b_h2_f4
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    i was raised in a very religious atmosphere , church twice a week or sth , so i didn't even approach my self as a human with sexual needs till i was 16-17 , then i found out that all the innocent little things i used to back when i was young ... were totally gay XD
    and my first "exploration was drawn cartoon portraits and comics and such , i was soooo attracted to males and felt like reacting all those stories from the female point of view , then went ot the real-life pictures and well men were my favorite (well ... XDDD) so i found out what am I , i had like a year or so struggling with my self and being very afraid of what might happen to me if someone found out abt this
    but thats all , here i am now , proud and loving myself like never before XD

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f3
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    Hey everyone, I'm 23 yrs old, I'm a gay atheist living in egypt (perfect match). I havent had any "experience" yet, but I knew I was gay when I was 10 years old, when I would watch porn I was attracted to the male instead of the female. I think it showed because my school-mates kept harassing me and calling me gay, I learned to cover it better in my later years. I wasnt always successful of course and I had an incident where a friend of mine borrowed my mp3 player and there were gay photos stored in them! I was very stupid then lol, anyway I freaked out and I did a lousy job at covering it up and we both put it behind us. Strangely we're still good friends but I dont think I can come out to him because I've heard a lot of homophobic comments from him, and most of my friends for that matter. I'm actually surprised at how hateful some of these comments are but I guess you cant feel guilty when you're in a society that enables it.

    What I find interesting about myself is that I was sure of my homosexuality and atheism very early in my life. I had a lot of doubts & questions about islam when I was very young, I never fell for the religion stories told to me, they all seemed like bedtime stories to me or those stories you tell a little kid to scare him from doing something wrong. I also kept thinking about things like how are we following the right religion when almost every islamic country is a third-world country or poor or full of ignorant people, or why would god say that gay people will go to hell, isnt he supposed to be more understanding than that?

    So I kept thinking about it for a long time & then it all made sense to me, religion was created by people who knew the truth, they couldnt handle it so they created the image of god. maybe they did it with good intentions to give people hope, or they did it as a tactic to scare people, you know; "heaven" & "hell".

    Anyway enough with religion. About my coming out, I'm in the closet but I strangely came out to the last person on earth I would've imagined I would come out to, my mum! It happened when I failed a semester in my college and I couldnt explain why, I couldnt stop crying for two days straight, I just let go and she kept asking whats going on, and that I can talk to her, tell her anything. In the end I was like "you wanna know whats wrong with me? well I like men and its messing me up" lol.

    I didnt believe I actually told her as we werent very close before that, she took it ok-ish because she knew some good gay people (not in egypt) so she isnt completely disgusted by it , but she was like I'm glad you told me so that I can help you, I told her that this is not a disease and that I dont want her to try to take me to a psychologist or whatever. we are closer than ever now and it was a great feeling when I told her but she's not someone I could talk to because she doesn't really approve of it.

    I dont know what else to say, hope that wasnt an aweful icebreaker I'm not very good at this. :(

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    hmm..when i was at high school..i was 15 , lasted for 3 years, we left each other when i came to egypt..and that was that :x

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    at 7, I liked a guy, not in a friendly way, I had that need to impress him, it made no sense, so yea.. it made since later on when I was 11, and then I dated someone when I was 15, he was 19, and yea well my feelings eventually faded, because it was a long distance relationship, we met once a month or so, and we spent it making out, so it made no sense why I should be in a 'relationship' with him, so after my feelings were gone, we broke up, I didn't really get hurt so I felt bad for it but I did try to make it up for him as much as I could, but he refused to talk to me at all, later on, by every single guy I dated, I was the one who was hurt, taaa-daaaaa.

    Now, I iz almost 17, I live in Cairo, and I'm single woooho. NOT. and yes, I'm happy. :D

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  • Hello everyone,

    My story is somewhat depressing. I was one of those cases where the truth about yourself just smacks you in the face one day, and from then on you begin to see the signs that were there all along. It happened when I was 17, the first day of my first year at a strictly Muslim medical college for girls. My eyes fell on her and that was the start of hell. I didn't know anything about her but I was equally drawn to and terrified of what I felt for her. I would tremble like crazy when she was around, she completely undid me. I'm pretty sure she was a lesbian herself, but there was no way I was even near prepared to approach her, let along acknowledge what my feelings meant. It was only a year later that I admitted to myself I was in love with her, and by that time she was long gone. She had tried to approach me several times but my fear and incomprehension of the intensity of what I felt, translated into something akin to hatred whenever she'd try to talk to me.

    I spent 2 years after that grappling with my sexuality, at first coming out to myself as bi but that lasted less than a year before I admitted I had no inclination whatsoever towards men. Now at 21, I've still never been in a lesbian relationship, though I did finally have my first kiss at 20. I met my straight best friend online and I flew to America to meet her and needless to say our relationship isn't platonic at all. Although she fully plans on settling down with a man and starting a family someday herself.

    I've hardly met or am friends with any lesbians either and only 2 people I know who are not cyber know that I'm a lesbian, neither of whom I'm really friends with anymore. I'm trying very hard to put myself out there more and meet other queers because I really feel a great lack in being unable to express myself fully in daily life, at least to a few people who can relate to me. Hopefully I can achieve that this year.

    • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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      i know you will but dont go around just trusting anybody. be careful out there. not everyone is trustworthy as much as we want to express ourselves so much there are people with bad intentions. i hope you meet the right friends and hopefully lover soon.

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    • Thanks a lot for your wishes I usually have good instincts about these things, so hopefully it'll be okay. Thanks again for your input.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f3
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    hi all i'm mira, 21 years old , from alexandria - egypt lesbian i've never been in a relationship before coz i can't tell that i'm a lesbian so i cant express my feelings & i hope to get to know new friends here & i'm happy to know that i'm not alone & if anyone wants to chat or talk about her\his problem i'm here i'm a good listener & thank u

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f1
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    My first experience was with my bestfriend she just kinda kissed me out of nowhere and i had a crush on her for a while but she was only Bi Curious so it broke my heart, That's was when I decided that I dont do relationships

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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    wow that is intense. i wish you gave her a chance. maybe you two would have still been together.

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  • Looking back on it, I really don't believe we were meant to be together. She was just meant to be the "eye-opener" for me, to introduce me to who I really am. That being said, I did pine for her for a long time, and not letting myself get closer to her was a big regret of mine. Time is a healer, though.

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