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This is what you are ALWAYS being told as an LGBT member in the middle east. Of course, no one IRL knows about my sexuality, but using a fake identity on the internet, I have been told that numerous times.
The question is, why do people think marriage could be a solution to the "problem" ? Do you know anyone who "tried it" then suddenly "turned" straight?

I, personally, find this hypothesis almost impossible. On the contrary, I have found people, who were in denial of being gay, get married and suffer forever. So what do you think about this topic? Do you think there is any way to reply to such claims?
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  • 25-34_m_b_h4_f4
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    That seems to be the skewed logic in peoples minds. i have a close straight friend who accepts me as i am but once asked me this:
    "Couldn't you just marry a really butch girl?"
    I replied and explained how that doesn't work and that he is being naive with his question if he thinks that is a "solution."
    I asked him : "Could you marry a really feminine guy?" he replied no because he likes girls.
    I told him same for me for your question.
    I feel that even though friends accept me, some will never truly understand and have trouble letting go of what they think they know about the subject.

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    That's actually a very intelligent response!

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    My response to anybody who would say "why don't you just get married?" would be:

    - Why don't you just F*** off?!

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    It's very much more complicated than this ..

    I have witnessed men personally struggling with their feelings , Most of them get married to shut up their family , to assure them that I am not a gay guy I am straight and I am married to a girl and have kids so I am not gay . but on the side these men have boy friends and are mentally very disturbed . what I find extremely painful is for the girl who he has got married to this guy and is lied about for the rest of her life , it's morally wrong . There seems to be no solution to this yet, In process the kids get mentally disturbed if there is a divorce involved, it seems to be going on from generations . Shockingly it's very normal in Middle East .

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      We have no rights that's all if we were treated as same how straight people are we will be flourishing how gay men are in western continents

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    They say that because its a cop out from having to deal with 'others'. It makes them feel better and sleep at night to come up with a simple albeit ignorant 'solution'. All for the sake of not thinking. Those types of people don't like to think. It gives them headaches when their bubbles are popped and they realize they aren't the only ones on the planet that need consideration and recognition. Because somehow..that devalues their egos.

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    Look i donot know if its right or wrong but why not.. how can anyone know for sure that he is purely a gay/lesbian till he tries.. sorry i didnot try yet so pardon if iam ignorant and definitely no offence

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      Orientation is not determined by whether or not you enjoyed being with someone of one gender or the other. It's determined by who you're attracted to in the first place.

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      And how is this going for you if you don't mind me asking? I only ask they always say gay guys can live the straight life easier than female lesbians, I mean you're able to take on the straight married guy part easily? Does it affect your relationship with your wife or family? If you don't feel like answering that's totally understandable I only ask cuz I know it just won't work for me as a female and I'd like to know a male's perspective.

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    Ohhh.. sorry for u

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