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Okay I'm sure the title has turned a few heads around so I'll just get right to it..!

So, Im a Lesbian but I really don't like oral sex!!! I dont like giving it, and I don't like receiving it! I think it's just "yukkkk" ( don't mean to offend anyone, this is just my opinion )

I really don't see how it's any different from some Heterosexuals who don't like oral sex!!
I did a little search and it turns out a lot of gay guys and lesbians reject oral sex.
I even found out that some gay guys don't like anal sex..

It was pretty interesting info for me, and it made me feel a little better about myself to be honest 8D

I was just wondering what you folks think about all this?

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  • 51-65_f_f_h1_f3
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    So glad you bought this up, I thought I was the only idiot who didn't enjoy giving or receiving it! I tried it a few times with different women and I hated it. I can't handle it. It's very uncomfortable but unfortunately my partners all enjoyed it, so I felt I had to please them somehow.

    Also if someone has an STD there is more risk I think that they could transmit the infection via oral sex.

    I never told this to anyone because I thought the main way for lesbians to have sex is through oral sex, and if you don't like it, then your sexual life with your partner can really suffer and maybe they just won't be satisfied enough and end up cheating, that's my biggest fear. But in relationships I think we should be fair and do things that both people like. For me I feel I'm always pleasing others but not the other way around.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f1
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    loool you're not an idiot!! ... People like different things, there's no shame in that. I'm just glad I found someone to talk to about this here

    I don't think either party in a relationship should "have" to do anything they are not comfortable with. And I highly doubt cheating is a risk here!

    I just don't get the fixation about it is all x_X ... There are other ways -really good ways- for having sex aside from orally. Why would it be a deal-breaker?

    Btw I totally get what you meant about diseases and all, but you can catch an STD just the same by kissing someone. Sure it's a lower-risk but still a risk!
    For me though, I just can't comprehend how people would go down on someone like that. I mean I eat food with my mouth!! somebody's southern region is certainly no place for it ... it's just so ikkyyyy :S (again no offense to anyone, i'm really sorry for the words i'm using you guys, even a thesaurus couldn't help me here :S)

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  • 51-65_f_f_h1_f3
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    I think if two partners don't find sexual chemistry though it's possible they will seek it somewhere else, what if we fulfill emotional needs but not sexual ones? I've had that done to me before, broken up with because of lack of sexual pleasure on their part and they kept talking about how important it is for them to have that in a relationship and that I didn't offer it because I'm terrible in bed (according to them anyways)

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f1
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    Pay no attention to that. One day you'll find someone who enjoys the same things you enjoy. Stay optimistic

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    Its not as uncommon as people think. I'm married and my wife doesn't like oral at all, either eating out her vagina or anus, which is a real pity because when i married her, i hoped to have a partner who would indulge in everything with me.

    I have been with guys and girls who likes oral, i myself love it, but there are some who find it yucky, or too much of a tease when they are horny.

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    My ex was obsessed with oral and it's the only way she could orgasm, so I felt really stuck, any other position just didn't work with her, she'd tell me it's boring and then loses interest. It's unfair though because then I'm the one who's bored (and suffocated!) doing the icky oral stuff. I don't see the appeal.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f1
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    Ugh :/ that sounds like a terrible position to be in !!

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  • 12-16_f_w_h1_f1
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    being a lesbian does not mean it's must for you to give cunnilingus or receive it ! same for oral sex in general when it comes to gay guys.. not including that act does not make it less sexual..sexual organs can be stimulated so many different ways according to the desire of the people participating in the intercourse..

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