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Do you think that being gay is a blessing? I mean obviously it is not something you choose to be, it is who you are. Like life. You don’t get to choose life, life chooses you. Otherwise you would just be one of the millions of souls that are waiting in line to get picked. The one thing you have control over is the choices you make in life and for whatever reason, you often choose wrong. But that’s okay, because life leads you to different paths. You’ll fall and get up. You’ll get hit and you hit back. You’ll get hurt and, believe it or not, eventually you always forgive. That’s life. Do you think, like getting picked out of the millions of souls, you were picked to be gay? Just as being black, being female etcetera.

I know that everything happens for a reason; I am aware of that. And I am also aware of the fact that a Muslim must accept everything he/she faces in life that were given by God. The good and the bad, with patience, hope and believe in His knowledge. I know when someone has cancer or has an accident and they are recovering through accepting their fate with believe in God's reward at the end. People tell them: God loves you; that's why you got cancer, He only tests His strong believers. Do you think God loves you, because you are one of the strongest souls? That it takes a strong soul to refuse to act on gay feelings? And that being gay is to test your love for Him and the only way to pass the test is to ignore everything that trigger gay feelings. As a reward of your hard work, the loneliness, the pain, the suffering, the doubt and believe, you enter His highest Paradise? Then again, how about happiness on earth? No one can live alone.

We all need someone to love. Someone who’ll stand next to us and hold our hand. Especially when life gets too painful. It is in our nature to connect with someone; not only physically, but emotionally and mentally. I know as Muslims we don't believe in happy endings on earth. True happiness is found in Heaven. But, there is some kind of a happy ending on earth.

Happy endings you see in movies aren’t cut out for everyone. Some of us have happy endings in their own special way. This doesn’t mean that happy endings don’t exist…happy endings are real…you just have to find yours. If there’s one thing I’ve learned from live, it’s that it’s though. It will pull you down and hit you to the ground, you try to get up, but it pulls you down again. You get up and then it punches you even harder and you fall. Every time you try to get up, you can’t. And then you lose the confidence in yourself. You let yourself get hit and hit, but you don’t hit back anymore. You don’t trust life anymore and eventually…you give up. At that moment, that exact moment, when you feel you had enough. When you’ve lost all hope, when you are tired and weak..…life surprises you. I believe with all my heart that being gay is a blessing. I used to think it was a curse. I think that I am a strong soul and I am proud to be different and unique. I'm glad He picked me :D .

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  • 51-65_f_f_h1_f3
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    This is a very thoughtful contribution. I really enjoyed reading it and I have very similar thoughts. I have a friend whom I suspect is gay but can't know for sure and he is always telling me how God is testing him and that he's having a hard time 'doing the right thing', whatever that means. I wonder if he means that God made him gay and is testing him not to act out on it and if he passes, he would find true happiness in the afterlife but never on earth. When I ask him about homosexuality he thinks it's pure evil and yet he agrees that this isn't something people choose to do out of temptation but it's their nature, and God made them this way to test whether or not they will remain to be good worshippers. I find that to be much too extreme and tend to agree that we can fight for our happiness both on earth and after and that God will be with us every step of the way regardless of what other people say about us.

    • 25-34_f_w_h3_f3
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      I agree with you! If it were up to people to choose who goes to heaven and who goes to hell; well, there isn't much to look forward too, is there? Luckily that's not the case in real life :D People are people in the end and we're weak of nature. It's not our fault, it's just the way we were created. So, we make mistakes and hopefully learn a lesson or two and get up again. What people say or think about us (or anyone else in general) is really not important. People have opinions either way; whether you're straight or gay - black or white - rich or poor. In the end nothing matters anyways...only your deeds will count. The important thing about life is to live it the best way you can. Not just by helping others, but helping yourself first! To take care of our bodies...to live healthy and good lives. To give a helping hand to others, who struggle to survive each day. Not only are we held accountable for living "within the rules" of religion, but more so on how we shaped our lives and the lives of others. For example: everyone is born with a certain degree of talent and if you've lived a life not using this talent; you are held accountable for it. If you've got a dream; then go for it! People talk anyways (good or bad)...so don't mind the opinions about you....let them talk and life your life! :D

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  • 17-24_m_w_h3_f1
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    Hi there,

    Milan Kundera once wrote in "Life Is Elsewhere" there's no second life that we live to decide the "rightness" or "wrongness" of our actions compared to the previous one. It's just one life that takes us into tunnels, u-turns, new streets and entire cities, but no comparison is available, no past experiences to weigh the current ones. It's just one! Live it, and live it well! ;)

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  • 12-16_m_w_h1_f1
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    I once heard that even before we were born, our life's blueprint has been made for us. And that however we live our lives, whatever choices that we make along the way, in the end, we get to see and realise the culmination of this blueprint. At first I thought... so much for having free will! But then as mentioned above, if there really is a blueprint before life itself... then to be gay is a natural phenomenon as oppose to what others think of it as being abnormal! Then again thats what I think...

    • 25-34_f_w_h3_f3
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      What's "abnormal" anyways? Leaving the "gay" part out here....just having a different opinion than the rest makes you "abnormal". Or chosing something that's different than the average..like uuuhm..here's a stupid example: hey wanna go for a pizza, the rest of us gonna grab some? Uhm no thanks I feel having spaghetti. "You're weird". "No you're weird". "No, you are" "NO...aaaaalright that's enough drama for today.......soooooo.....I see I'm not making a point here....pizza sounds goooood though :D Fyi...I was making a point in my mind, but I lost it..sooo....no "point" in rambling any further......here's my point: PIZZA!

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  • 2 question you should never ask, is God and His plans. Other than that ask away. Yes I am agreeing with @rabbitie by since genesis our canvas already have the rough sketch on what will happen as we move on with our life. but mind you that this is a rough sketch.

    God also give us free will- a powerful weapon which no angel nor demon have because it is fatal. Free will changes the sketch into something else. Hence the quote life is an open book. after all, life is life. If people said to you Live Your Life, dont take it. Believe me. For just live your life is a dull way to interpret life it self.

    Life is not just to live, its also meant to be furnished. Look, we have crayons, markers, magic pens and charcoals. Use it, the life canvas is big. Sad memories, bad memories, traumatic, happy, elated feel it and enriched it through your being not just living it.

    Live your life as if you r gonna die tomorrow. Dont be anyone else, be who you are and what you want, if you be someone who already there, why the hell you bother coming out from the vagina on the first place, we better off with the other you rather than have another doppleganger.

    Be what you want to be, and you shall see, your life is a bowl, nuture it so it sooth your soul!

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      "Life is not just to live, its also meant to be furnished. Look, we have crayons, markers, magic pens and charcoals. Use it, the life canvas is big. Sad memories, bad memories, traumatic, happy, elated feel it and enriched it through your being not just living it."

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  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f3
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    Hi everyone,

    I'm the one who wrote this, about two weeks ago. I left Ahwaa right after this topic, because I needed some time off to breathe and figure some personal things out. It's hard to struggle on your own and during this break I've missed my friends I made here on Ahwaa. But I'm back now and I am not planning on leaving if it's up to me. So, thank you for responding to this topic and I'm sorry I wasn't here to reply. So, there you go :D

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