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Coming out of my shell

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Hi everyone I'm really glad I found this community that I had no idea it existed before an FB friend of mine told me about it yesterday. First, let me start by introducing myself a little bit. My name is Omar, I'm 21 and I'm from Egypt. I've accepted being gay ever since I was 17 but I've only recently started connecting to my gay side. Even though I had fully accepted myself and my sexuality I've always been too afraid to do anything or meet anyone, I used to live kind of as a lost soul but with time that fear is now a lot less ( can't say gone, just the right amount to stay safe and discreet). One month ago I made what you can call a "gay FB account" so I can share whatever it is on my mind, stuff that I can't really write on my normal FB account (not yet atleast) and I started talking to other gay people, listening to their stories and sharing mine and I made some good friends now, I think I might even meet one of them this weekend and have my first face to face conversation as a gay man. I just hope it wont be too awkward :P. Okay, so now that I've found this community, let me share my first post and please tell me your feedback and if you've had a similar experience

If you were a closeted gay like myself then you probably used to distance yourself as much as you could from the whole "gay community" or anything related to being gay for that matter, you just didn't want to be reminded of the one fact you are in denial about and the one fact you know you can't change, so you despised everything and anything closely related to it, unlike a straight person who is secure about himself won't be troubled with any thoughts whatsoever if a gay topic is discussed.

That's why, when a closeted gay finally starts to accept himself and be introduced to the whole "gay community", the lifestyle of it might come in as a shock to him more than someone who is straight, even though as a gay person he should be more comfortable with it but that's not the case because of the gap he had to create between him and that lifestyle when he was still closeted.

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  • 35-50_f_w_h3_f4
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    That's so interesting to hear. For me, I didn't really have this experience because I'm not attached to any "gay community" offline, but if I did then yes the lifestyle might come as a shock to me because I would not have been used to something like that. I think it might have made things a bit more awkward for me, because I needed to go through this phase alone in my life. Even now that I fully accept myself I'm not sure I would be attending things like gay parties, whenever I get invited by some friends I dismiss it because I don't feel like I would fit in. Also I'm more attracted to the quiet lesbians and not the ones who are loud party goers, not my kind of gay...

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      I'm sorry but I'm not sure I completely got what you meant by "go through this phase alone in my life", as for the parties and the wild lifestyle I think I'm just like you but I'm not sure tho, I think I might try new things and see how comfortable I'm with them, maybe I'm not the quiet gay type after all :P

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  • I'm 18 and I was hesitated to join too. The whole idea is not the gap the closeted person creat, it's somehow might seem uncomfortable because the community classified it under taboo. People are still not okay with accepting us, even us some part of our inner thoughts is really cautious so it keeps you afraid to join anything like this. This is how my thoughts we're puzzled but now it's not the same at all. We all just need to be a little more positive about our identity. We all deserve to be loved.

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      That's true, we really are no the same after all, we may have one thing in common which is our sexual orientation but that doesn't necessarily has to bring us closer! Thank you for your comment

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  • well i was closeted then i thaught *just f*** all of people's opinions* and i started coming out to my friends and ... no you don't want to hear about this

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