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Married to a man but craving a woman

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I brought this up briefly in my intro topic, but I've been feeling a bit confused lately and decided to write about it, to process things.

I'm married to the most wonderful, funny, adorable, loving, caring man I could ever dream of. I am truly lucky. He is also a best friend, and I love him deeply.

I've been confused about my sexuality for a while now, and recently came out as bisexual to my husband, which he had no problem with. But the problem for me is, I feel like I got into a serious relationship (met at 1 too young and never had a chance to explore my sexuality further. I've kissed my best friend (girl) when I was 14 and she was one of my first girl crushes, but that's all the experience I've had.

I find myself now, at 25, craving a woman's body, a woman's touch, her soft skin and gentle eyes. I yearn for the intertwining embrace and her writhing body in my arms. The touch of the small of her back, the back of her neck, the inside of her thighs, and lustful look in her eyes. Of course, many other places as well but I don't want to get too intimate here.

And there is nothing I can do about it. All I can do is dream. My husband is open to a threesome, but I don't have the confidence to pursue that, given that I'm overweight. I'm trying to lose weight now, I just can't see myself having sex like that at this weight. Who would want to anyway.

I'm not even sure if I want my first girl experience to be in a threesome. but I could never cheat on my husband, I love him too much. I just wish I could suppress these desires.

All I know is I don't want to die without having had a chance.

There, it's out now. thanks for letting me spill. I feel a bit better.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    I forgot to mention I wish I could know what it feels like to be in a relationship with a woman, not just sex. Like, if I wasn't living the life I'm living now.

    • It feels different like anything you could have with a guy and in my opinion, for a relationship even the bitchest girl is still better than an amazing guy

      Oh and on a side note, I don't think your hubby agreed on a 3some to please you, a 3some is EVERY straight dude's fantasy I mean try tell him that you wanna have a 3some with 2 guys and see if he still will want to grant your wishes

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    • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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      Yeah I know . But I'm the one who brought it up. He's actually not as sex oriented as most guys are.

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    • 51-65_m_f_h1_f4
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      MY FRIEND DELUSIONS...................LET HER ENJOY SEX WITH HER HUSB IN 3 SOMES............WHY U WANT STOP HER....SHE WANT AND GOD GAVE HER A SWEATY GIFT.....HER NICE HUSB.....LET HER ENJOY PLEASE

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    Forgive me for the TMI (too much information).

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  • 51-65_m_f_h1_f4
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    NICE HUSB...HE TRY TO MAKE U HAPPY....AND HE WANT ENJOY SEX 2.....I WOULD LIKE TO BE WITH U 2

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  • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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    oh there i no confusion you are lesbian

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    I'm worried I'm becoming one D:. But I love him.. I can't live without him.

    • 51-65_m_f_h1_f4
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      is he satisfy u in bed more than your girl friend?????if yes.....what is the most different between both of them

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  • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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    Well....you dont become one....you kinda know but you dnt wanna admit it....or you find out later on you know what i am trying to say.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    That's true but wouldn't I have known I am a lesbian? Unless im a late bloomer. But no.. I'm probably blowing things out of proportion just because I'm confused. I wish Egypt had sex therapists.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f4
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    You need to be open to the idea of your bisexuality. Just because you crave a woman doesn't mean you're a lesbian. Follow your heart and care about names later.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    I've always been bisexual. What has been worrying me this past year is that I am increasingly becoming less attracted to men, and am disgusted and completely turned off by having sex with them. I am so unattracted to men right now, that I am confident I will never date a man ever again, should something happen to my marriage. Needless to say, I have been struggling with sexual relations with my husband for months now. I almost hate it. It feels wrong and I end up crying almost everytime.

    Add to that the fact that I am increasingly becoming more emotionally attracted to women more than ever before, not just sexually, and that I want to be in a relationship with a woman and make her happy.

    While I am open to bisexuality, these are the reasons why I suspect I am gay. Right now I go by 'Mostly Gay'for the time being. Because if I didn't love my husband, I definitely would be 100 percent gay.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    I also think my child abuse is a factor in this. Although I don't know why it's effects are resurfacing now, of all times. Either way I still have no attraction to men at all now.

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  • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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    Hey its ok....its a process.....its not a homogeneous method. .....it can happen. ...its not a choice....trust that you are not alone. Sad part is you may need to talk to your husbend now....but u can still be best buddies. Be honest to him. I will pray for you in sha Allah.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    Thank you, I appreciate it. I've been talking to him already.

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  • 25-34_m_f_h1_f3
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    i'm glad that this website made me open to lesbian experiences. and i think no one can understand how you live miserably now but you. as for a gay man, i don't think marrying a woman would be OKAY to me nor i can give her what she wants, but i'd probably end up her life very soon.
    but by all means i wished to be a lesbian because it's always easier to fake an orgasm as a receivier more than a giver. ( no weewee on woman you know what i mean).
    but if i'm in your desperate shoes now, i wouldn't get off my marriage life without having another lesbo girl to start a new life with. otherwise i'd be flushing my life in the toilet.
    you know how hard for gay men to meet in egypt - then you must know how even harder for lesbos it is.

    god be with you in all cases and i wish you a very good luck in the soon future.

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