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Bisexuality in the Mid East

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Because just being gay isn't complicated enough.

In the U.S., bisexuals are seen as greedy, swingers, people who can't make up their mind. They have their own stigma aside from homophobia. But it's a little bit different for us. Especially because we're so gender segregated. I'm sure bisexuality is something vastly under-represented in the Middle East. C'mon, I'm sure loads of kids have had "friends" that were a little too close or girls happily went to sleepovers at their friends houses before each got married and settled. Of course, some get married but can't settle, because they truly aren't attracted to the sex of their partner, and that's where real tragedy happens. But the people who are attracted to both sexes surely must shrug their shoulders and maybe think back sweetly on their youthful days.

Anyway. I don't exactly have a question, just an observation and a conversation started. Bisexuality means something so so much more different for us, for people in the Middle East. I have a secret theory that most people are a little bit bisexual anyway. But that manifests so differently when it's expected for women to stare at other women belly dancing suggestively. Not that I'm complaining about that.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f2
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    Yes, this happens a little too often. I know a lot of people who are married, completely unattracted to the opposite sex, but manage to have other relationships that actually involve real feelings and honest conversations. Not sure they would count as truly bisexual because it's less of a choice for them. They are mostly just people folding under the pressure of marriage and the conservative family lifestyle to shut their families up.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f2
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    Not really. It's confusing being attracted to both sexes growing up especially when liking the same sex is shunned. Just because bisexuals like the opposite sex too doesn't mean that they don't deal with the confusion or identity issues the homosexuals experience. This holds especially true if they end up falling in love with someone of the same sex at any point in their lives but are expected to conform and be with the opposite sex.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f3
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    As a bisexual I can say that the experience we face is the same as homosexuals. Yeah, there is an option to live a "straight" life. But, it doesn't mean that once you choose to live such a life; all gay "struggles" miraculously disappear. I know one thing; I want a man to accept me for who I am. I've lived with this secret for almost 27 years and I'm not going to spend the next 27 years hiding it from my partner. So, finding a husband who is not homophobic, muslim and shares the same beliefs and ideas as I do....well...we'll have to see if fairytales do come true. I think God's power is beyond our imagination..beyond our beliefs....that's why I'm still around on this earth. If I didn't have this "imaan" I would've ended my life aaaa long time ago. I would've probably been baked as bacon as we speak...brrrrrr...changing image in head *Ka-ching*. Anyhow..even if he doesn't show up..I'm gonna make something out of my life. At least I would've contributed to society and hopefully made some use out of this body, sould and mind. Prins or no prins...me is determined to be jolly (the worst Irish accent evaaaah).

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  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f3
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    Don't mind the sould = soul...and prins =prince ;) Don't blame me yo..blame this confused bisexual brain.

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