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The phenomena of "al boyat" in the gulf, is it hurting the cause or helping it?

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Helllooooo...

I couldn't help but notice the "trend" of "alboyat" in the gulf and how it's becoming more and more of a problem for people that are calling for gay rights in the middle east. Let me get something straight here, I am with LGBT rights and that's why i'm here, BUT, I think people are starting to take this as a fashion statement rather than an actual identity.

For those of you who haven't heard of this and don't know what I'm talking about it, "Boyat" is a term that people started using in here for girls that like to look masculine, so in other words "dykes". What is bothering me is that most of these girls are doing it cause they think it's cool to do so, and people started mixing real sexuality with fashion trends. In schools nowadays, girls started dating each other and changed the way they look to sound and act cool, as a result of that the society thinks that homosexuality is a choice and therefore wrong.

I just don't like how it's ruining the image of lesbians in the gulf. What do you think?

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f2
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    How you dress doesn't always have to reflect your sexuality or gender. In MANY countries around the world, women actively choose to reject the staple feminine style of dress and attitude while remaining heterosexual. My point is, how you dress doesn't have to reflect your sexuality.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f2
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    I can understand your frustration with girls dating each other when they're not really gay. That happens a lot abroad too especially in college. People call it "experimenting" and it can be damaging to how lesbians are viewed but it can also be positive. Perhaps people will become a little more accepting of it the more they are exposed to that kind of thing.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h1_f4
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    I don't mind experimenting, I mind pretending. You have no idea how many times I've seen reports on TV or read articles in the newspapers bashing lesbians just because of these trends. Some people even started to call it an "epidemic" ! I am not calling for girls to dress femininely, I just think that what the teenagers doing is just hurting the image of lesbians in our region. I have lesbians friends and whenever they bring up this topic (generally, they're not out yet) people start saying that it's all a choice and the main proof is those girls!

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f2
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    My point is that if someone is experimenting then they are pretending. You don't need to experiment to know what you're attracted to. It comes naturally. I understand the frustration on the latter bit but there's not really much you can do. It takes a long time for attitudes to change and this will perhaps make it a little easier for some people to come out because maybe then it won't be such a big "OH MY GOD" topic, even if the effect is for a little while.

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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    hmm i dont think they are doing that as a fashion statement. i doubt this very much. i also dont think its damaging the image of lesbians. we have all these rules about a person should dress, talk and who they should have sex with. each person is responsible for crafting their own identity. that they are doing this just because they think is cool is an assumption. no one has a clue who this person is or how they feel. look at this facebook group to see what some of them deal with every day: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Anti-Boyat/163662351425?sk=wall

    its discrimination. to say they are not real lesbians or are doing this for attention is not very considerate. the topic of identity/gender/sexuality is very very complex. we are designed to hate and ridicule anything different from what society expects and accepts.

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  • 17-24_f_b_h1_f3
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    Uff. It's really hard to understand and appreciate women who aren't afraid to go outside of gender norms when it generates so much backlash for most other lesbians. I understand the frustration. But as Sarah mentioned, clothing and sexuality aren't intricately tied, although there's a connection. Part of the struggle towards acceptance of homosexuality is a fundamental change in our culture to grant people more individual freedom to do what they like. Queer women can't then turn around and police / criticize other queer women, we're then doing the hard work for them. I dunno.

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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    big thumbs up. how many of us faced threats or bullies because of the way we are most comfortable dressing & speaking? we have to open people's minds about sexuality and identity.

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