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We're too busy pointing fingers at people that accuse us of being after sex only or people that wanna use us for it. We overlooked our own flaws and most people in the LGBT community are acting like the people they criticizes, So here's a 2 situations that happened within the last 3 months..

#1
Met this 25 y.o girl at work and shes such a beauty! I know her for long time so she hitting on me wasnt so risky for her and I said what the heck, all that is good, right?
The problem is! She ALWAYS insulted gay people when the topic came up with others but I knew that alrdy -.- What I didnt know was that she is totally someone else off workshe drinks alot! and well, I'm a muslim and I value my religion, I dont mind drunk people but I dont drink, all she does off work is drink and get horny -.- 1 time I got fed up told her to get lost and she was like "everyone knows I'm hot and they all want me so I get to do whatever I want and anyone should be flattered that I want to sleep with them" thats when I told her to go f**k herself and we're finished.

#2
At work for few weeks I started to hang with that woman from the another firm (work stuff), a half iraqi half egyptian,everyone knew shes a widow and thought she didnt remarry out of "love" for her late hubby but in fact she wasnt much into men 1 time I was taking our ID's at the bank and I noticed her age is 38 she looked maximum 27-30! everyone thought that, being annoyed by the previous experience I thought a mature woman would fix that, she spoke good about LGBT and she knows this site too all went fine (I was always turned on by her accent ) but and casual till she told me she wants us to date. all that is good, right?
The problem is! Once I agreed, she ALWAYS trying to get me to go to her place, all she wanna do is have sex (I'm not that much of a sexual person) and she just became ALL about sex reminding me of a horny straight teenage guy (no offense straighties) I got fed up again, told her politely I wanna end this and she understood.

Point is: almost every lesbian lady I met is all about "sex" (trust me, I'm not even desperate to meet women at all) I met lots of horny girls at college but I thought they're young n wanna have fun so why not but I thought now with bit grown up women it'd be different but clearly I'm mistaken, I mean what happened to the old casual getting to know each other and having fun kind of relationships? :/

Sorry for the long rant, but where else to rant .

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  • those old days were the golden one
    now , our society suffers from the emotional deprivation
    and it's all about sex -.-
    annoying reality
    but you'll find a mature woman who thinks like you and loves you for who you are , Inshallah

    • 17-24_f_f_h3_f3
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      Sad, but true :/
      Oh well, thank God I'm naturally not a desperate person for a relationship (of course I'd love a fun one, but just sayin) so once I got annoyed I knew to just end things and save myself the headache but I sadly know that their next girls will suffer from this problem unless they meet 2 people just like them, that would be fun then (for them )

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    i disagree, not about all sex, if u love the person and care for both of you u can work it out but, if just messin around and hooking up, dont bother to stay, hmm i was gonna envy you approaching u to her place thats fun,,so much to do haha,,

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  • 17-24_f_f_h3_f3
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    My point is that, sex itself isn't a problem whether I like sex or not thats irrelevant but there is also meaningless sex, just like animals releasing a lust :/ before they get to make you like them, they act all mature and no sex talks and stuff once you 2 are into each other the sex talk starts and they don't even bother asking how was your day lol I was surprised they both kept up with me to be honest since my NO was always a NO But yeah,if it was a complete package (fun, hanging out THEN sex) sure I'd not rant :P

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f4
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    You know? I always thought "being horny" was only a straight guy thing.. no offense still, but they have no shame showing it which is ok.. good for you.
    I thought that within the LGBT community it will be entirely different, because girls are more emotional, I won't find a girl who wants to have sex then run! I was completely wrong.
    However! there is hope still I know people whose lives are not just about sex and they prefer emotions over practicalities. you just have been hanging out around the wrong group of peeps.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    its nice to involved with someone who you can both share interest,like shopping,sports ,travel, leisure, not just sex . there is so much more to enjoy , right.

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