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hey guys !! i have a personal issue that i need to share it with some people especially girls , i really want your opinion on this .
Anyway i'm a 24 years old lesbian and i'm pretty sure that i'm gay , i have noticed it since i was a kid , i've always been attracted to women.

my first relationship was with a girl. the issue is that i have a sexual problem !!maybe !! i went out with many girls and i never had sex with them !! i don't know why because it is really weird , however last year i decided to move on with my life and try new things, i decided to sleep with girls and i did it and i felt nothing!! nothing at all, i even faked my orgasm just to please them, so i had some doubts and fears that i might not be a lesbian!! i decided to go out with a man to see if it will work. we had a serious relationship not just sex, and AGAIN i felt nothing!!!! i tried different things with him and it didn't work at all!! it was a disaster and i even regret it .

i don't know what's wrong with me.it's been two years now since i stopped dating although i still feel like i need to be with a girl and i'm quite sure that i love girls.

creepy feelings . .

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  • 25-34_f_w_h1_f4
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    Hi!
    There's nothing wrong with you. I have some questions to ask you, so we can try to analyze this.

    When you write that you don't feel anything, what do you mean? Can you explain further?
    Did you ever feel attracted to your exes/dates? Like where you ever interested in having sex? And then when you started, you felt nothing? Or is the whole idea of sex which is uninteresting?

    Did you ever feel aroused with your exes/dates?

    Do you feel aroused and content when you masturbate?

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  • 25-34_f_w_h1_f4
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    Sometimes our friendship issues/family issues or issues at the job/school take a big place in the bedroom which can make you feel uninterested/distant during the sex. Having a low sexual desire is something which can occur to anyone during life...during different periods of time.

    Common causes for lack of sexual desire is:

    Interpersonal relationship issues. Partner performance problems, lack of emotional satisfaction with the relationship,

    Sociocultural influences. Job stress, peer pressure, and media images of sexuality can negatively influence sexual desire.

    Low testosterone. Testosterone affects sexual drive in both men and women. Testosterone levels peak in women's mid-20s and then steadily decline until menopause, when they drop dramatically.

    Medical problems: Mental illnesses such as depression, or medical conditions, such as endometriosis, fibroids, and thyroid disorders, impact a woman's sexual drive both mentally and physically.

    Medications: Certain antidepressants (including the new generation of SSRIs), blood pressure lowering drugs, and oral contraceptives can lower sexual drive in many ways, such as decreasing available testosterone levels or affecting blood flow.

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f4
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    Maybe you are asexual? It's not very common but it exists.
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality
    Do some research, maybe it applies to you?

    • 25-34_f_w_h1_f2
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      Actually it's more common that u think! You can even be an asexual lesbian this means you date women you like women you just don't like the sex part, being asexual is totally normal don't worry, I'd try to go and check my hormones at some Dr's just to be sure, if that's stable then you should read up on a sexuality.

      Yet again, why this constant need for labels, I know we like to label things it's easier but you should just be fluid and go with the flow

      Goodluck! Much love x

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  • 12-16_f_f_h2_f1
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    u need to love them be4 anything else sex isn't about being such a stone do it because u need it no try to examine ur emotins above all sex can happened but then nothing to taste ut issue is realted to feelings

    • 25-34_f_w_h1_f2
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      Sex can be about a physical attraction, don't link sex directly to love!

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    • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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      OK OK I think you need to see a doctor about this because if this is bothering you then yes you should. DOnt try anf think about labels. Are you attracted to women? Or Prefer more women than men? Is it like lovey dovey sort of way? If soo high percentage is that you are a women who happens to love girls.( Personal Question though....wanna swap my sexuality with urs might make a lige easy for both of us eh! )
      I really think you have problems with the nerve ending in your clitorus or the vaginal wall. NO MORE ACTING OUT....just go see a doctor.... I dont know you...but I love...I care for you...A deeply faithful islamic guy here who believes one does not need to experiment to know ones sexuality...so yeah just no more acting out but seek out medical help. If anyone wants to throw at me... I am here for intellectual debate...I am usually an open minded person but not so open minded when it comes to Islam...I would rather stick to the principles of laid by the Quran, they seem to be suggested by loads of scientific literature anyway, reliable ones.
      Soo Habibti....Go see a sexologist !!! GO GO GO!!!!

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    • 17-24_m_b_h3_f3
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      A medical student here btw...with random guess...my guesses 95% of the are correct so thats why i am suggesting the nerve blah blah problems

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    Hi there, are you circumsiced by any chance? A lot of Egyptian girls are and it could damper clitoris sensation.

    I've had the same numbness before and it didn't go away until I got into a safe and loving Relationship where I finally relaxed and wasn't so nervous. You could just be nervous. And it could take some time.

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